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    The title just about says it all.

    Ive been to an all girls boarding school all my life,
    so ive had only very little experience with men in general.
    And of those few males that I have come into contact with were
    ones i dated, never befriended.

    Basically, all my life, i've had the tendency to perceive men as
    mere dating materials.

    Now im moving to a mixed school next term,
    and im nervous about being in a normal, natural, no OMG-A BOOOYYYYYY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! environment with both
    male and female peers!

    it sounds really stupid, i know..
    but really, how do i stop thinking men = potential partner?
    my friend says i should just imagine all guys are girls and treat them
    as if i would treat any other girl.

    any suggestions?
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    Treat them like a normal person and think about sex & dating less?
    I've a whole plethora of friends both male and female & treat them the same way. If you go about thinking about every guy as an object to date, all that will happen is you'll quickly end up in a relationship that will burn up.
    Just talk to them and see that there's not much difference. Failing that, talk to an ugly guy, then move on from there to ease the partner idea out of your mind.
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    Just go talk to them, get to know them and think of them as friends. Not every guy is going to view you as a dating partner so you will need to do the same. It should come naturally anyway it's just you are not used to being with guys that much. You'll get used to it.
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    Don't talk how you type :/
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    The title just about says it all.

    Ive been to an all girls boarding school all my life,
    so ive had only very little experience with men in general.
    And of those few males that I have come into contact with were
    ones i dated, never befriended.

    Basically, all my life, i've had the tendency to perceive men as
    mere dating materials.

    Now im moving to a mixed school next term,
    and im nervous about being in a normal, natural, no OMG-A BOOOYYYYYY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! environment with both
    male and female peers!

    it sounds really stupid, i know..
    but really, how do i stop thinking men = potential partner?
    my friend says i should just imagine all guys are girls and treat them
    as if i would treat any other girl.

    any suggestions?
    How old are you? I can answer the question better this way...
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    (Original post by Jinxy)
    Just go talk to them, get to know them and think of them as friends. Not every guy is going to view you as a dating partner so you will need to do the same. It should come naturally anyway it's just you are not used to being with guys that much. You'll get used to it.
    If they're ok with it. Depends on other factors, like age.

    Boys and girls don't mix much as mates in lower years of school...
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    (Original post by Mazty)
    Treat them like a normal person and think about sex & dating less?
    I've a whole plethora of friends both male and female & treat them the same way. If you go about thinking about every guy as an object to date, all that will happen is you'll quickly end up in a relationship that will burn up.
    Just talk to them and see that there's not much difference. Failing that, talk to an ugly guy, then move on from there to ease the partner idea out of your mind.
    That's a good idea. I second that.
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    Rip off merchant.

    :hmmm:

    :tongue:

    edit: I just appeared in my own "who quoted me" list.
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    (Original post by BibblyBobbly)
    Don't talk how you type :/
    pointless
    Why?
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    I thought this thread was going to be about chess. Disappointed.
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    (Original post by thethinker)
    I thought this thread was going to be about chess. Disappointed.
    Bishop takes knight, check.

    Pawn takes bishop.

    Rook takes Queen, checkmate!

    Good game.

    OP, your structure in your opening post looked like it was a poem! :rolleyes:

    Just be yourself, being around boys isn't that anything to scream about.
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    I went to an all girls school and all I can say is I've never felt that way lol and I still somehow managed to socialise with boys. I just treat them like normal people.
 
 
 
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