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    I used to be envious of all the fun the 'Rah' group had in my 6th form. I used to think, "god, I'd love to do that!".

    And during one of the school theatre productions Me and some of my friends were doing the refreshments with the Rah's and during th show we all sat in a circle in the dining area and they were all *****ing about their other Rah friends who weren't there and I've noticed since they're all so critical of each other and they're just pretty much rotten at the soul really!
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    You really don't wish you were "popular".

    Everyone hates "popular" people.

    Even the "popular" people hate each other.

    "Popular" people don't have real friends.
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    Play the yes game for a week or two.

    Guaranteed cure.
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    Everything you just listed I thought everyone did? (go out, scoailise, parties, have a few drinks, maybe a few drinking games if you're bored, pose for crazy pictures etc) - everyone I hang out with, including myself, I wouldn't really consider the 'popular' kids, just the normal students who like to have a good laugh. You can do it with your friends too; just find people who have stuff in common with you, befriend them, befriend some more till you have reasonably high confidence, organise a rave or two and you'll do fine.

    I just wanted to make clear that you don't have to be one of the 'popular kids' to have drinking games and go to parties every weekend or whatever, all you need is friends, and once you've got them who gives a **** with what social status people label you as; as long as you have a good time. Don't hang about with fake people who you don't like, hang about with people with things in common with you, and socialise. Make a joke or two, be relaxed, chatty, and you'll be happy.
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    this thread reminds me of this song.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Throughout school years and now uni, I have never been popular. I get so nervous around the cool crew that I end up not saying anything and making an absolute fool of myself. When looking at Facebook pics I see loads of well dressed guys and girls laughing, posing for photos, doing crazy things like drinking games and dares and I feel so left out because I KNOW I'll never fit in. I'll always be the one sitting on the periphery not knowing how to make a good enough impression to be accepted into these groups. It's not because I want to be fake and pretty and cool, I just want to have a good time. This one group I know at uni just party, travel, ski, go out for meals and do so much together, whereas all I do is go back to my halls and eat and read a magazine. Has anyone felt like this before? Lonely and out of place in the world?
    These are very deceptive. Do not get sucked into thinking everyone is having a better time than you. I have been on so many outings/ nights out where I've actually wished I stayed home and then see all these photos online of me looking like I was having a good time.

    Stop comparing yourself with other people. Everyone has their own problems to deal with. And the whole 'popular' crowd thing dies at high school. Be friends with people who are nice to you and you genuinely like. I wish I had a better social life. I do have 4 really brilliant friends but everyones off doing thier own thing. I sometimes think everyone is having a better time than me but its just a negative way of thinking. I think you should make an effort to make plans.

    And also stop feeling inferior. I know thats easy said than done, but when you feel awkward, people pick up on it and will think its ok to treat you badly. Never talk badly about yourself.
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    i always felt like this, but in time i realised being popular isn't the be all and end all of school. get good grades, be yourself, be friendly and sociable, and that way you will become more attractive to people, whether it be your appearance or personality, which leads to popularity. but even then, it's not an accomplishment. always be true to yourself.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Throughout school years and now uni, I have never been popular. I get so nervous around the cool crew that I end up not saying anything and making an absolute fool of myself. When looking at Facebook pics I see loads of well dressed guys and girls laughing, posing for photos, doing crazy things like drinking games and dares and I feel so left out because I KNOW I'll never fit in. I'll always be the one sitting on the periphery not knowing how to make a good enough impression to be accepted into these groups. It's not because I want to be fake and pretty and cool, I just want to have a good time. This one group I know at uni just party, travel, ski, go out for meals and do so much together, whereas all I do is go back to my halls and eat and read a magazine. Has anyone felt like this before? Lonely and out of place in the world?
    Why can't you organise stuff like this with your own friends? You don't need to be in a popular group to book a table in a restaurant for a few people or go camping for a weekend...
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Throughout school years and now uni, I have never been popular. I get so nervous around the cool crew that I end up not saying anything and making an absolute fool of myself. When looking at Facebook pics I see loads of well dressed guys and girls laughing, posing for photos, doing crazy things like drinking games and dares and I feel so left out because I KNOW I'll never fit in. I'll always be the one sitting on the periphery not knowing how to make a good enough impression to be accepted into these groups. It's not because I want to be fake and pretty and cool, I just want to have a good time. This one group I know at uni just party, travel, ski, go out for meals and do so much together, whereas all I do is go back to my halls and eat and read a magazine. Has anyone felt like this before? Lonely and out of place in the world?
    I'm exactly like this, OP. I'm always going to be like it, too. But what's the problem with not fitting in to the "popular" group? Half the time they're not actually people worth hanging around with anyway.
    It can be really nice to feel more free to do what you want, rather than other people. Yeah I mean a lot of the time I'd like to know more people, have more close friends, do more with my time - all you can do is get out there a little bit more despite how you feel in yourself. You have nothing to lose by doing that technically. So by doing that you could meet more people, have more close friends and do more with your time - but some people are never going to fit in the "popular group". I like to see it as a positive thing rather than negative. I'm seeing it in the context of my school experience but I'd rather not fit in with the popular group and be a nice person than fit in with them and be one of "them" (they were especially nasty people a lot of the time). But that's just my personal experience. If you are fed up with being less social than you'd like, then throw yourself out there and change it. Try and forget how you feel and just let yourself enjoy the opportunities you might have.
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    Hun, i have been on both sides and being popular isn't all its cracked up to be, yeah they look like they are having fun but a lot of the time its just a front, you **** up and they turn on you like dogs. I would rather have a few close friend than loads of not so close ones. Don't wish you were popular its not that great.
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    You know what kind of personality "oozes" cool, its when you dont care about being "cool".
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    It's hard to get into the popular crew if they're gang has already been formed and has been around for a while because they will see you as an outsider and reject you unless you really are ultra cool. You need to be around when the cool crews get formed and then you can be popular for life.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    And no, I'm actually quite a shy and unconfident girl, and have been like that all my life. I always feel inferior to people, unless I'm drunk.
    You said you want to play dirnking games, do it. that way, you will be more confident too. **** your liver.

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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    And no, I'm actually quite a shy and unconfident girl, and have been like that all my life. I always feel inferior to people, unless I'm drunk.
    well, not a girl but the exact same. Feel totally out of place with the "cool kids" and they have made a point out of pointing this out to me:mad: Just because you are shy does not mean you are weird or anything. i have been shy all my life but tis year i moved to engalnd and i have started to become more sociable. Even though i still feel left out of the group. drink is the only solution for me. i love to have a few drinks before going to a club. It instills a false sense of confidence in me or maybe it just brings out my inner confidence . Id never be typing now only i have have had a few sneaky ones:o:
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    I've also felt uncomfortable around the cool kids. I've found that my friends were always singular people, in that it was never a social group so I always thought I wanted to be part of the cool gang who seem goodlooking and sociable and popular. But most of these people aren't that nice tbh. But I can't help but feel that if I don't hang around with the popular gang then I will struggle socially, as that's basically what has happened in my life so far.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Throughout school years and now uni, I have never been popular. I get so nervous around the cool crew that I end up not saying anything and making an absolute fool of myself. When looking at Facebook pics I see loads of well dressed guys and girls laughing, posing for photos, doing crazy things like drinking games and dares and I feel so left out because I KNOW I'll never fit in. I'll always be the one sitting on the periphery not knowing how to make a good enough impression to be accepted into these groups. It's not because I want to be fake and pretty and cool, I just want to have a good time. This one group I know at uni just party, travel, ski, go out for meals and do so much together, whereas all I do is go back to my halls and eat and read a magazine. Has anyone felt like this before? Lonely and out of place in the world?
    Are you at uni and what year are you at? Because if you're only a first year there is time. From my experience of wanting to be with the party people in 6th form but always drifting on the outskirts of such cliques uni is a new start, and just by acting confident it can help. Otherwise people will think he's a dork and not want to be seen with him
 
 
 
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