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    Uni will be a nice new start. You wont be forced to drink at all, don't worry. Honestly, I was terrified before I started uni but it was all absolutely fine. Independece is lovely as well. Give it a chance.
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    It's natural to be apprehensive about where you're about to go. But it always feels better once you're actually there. Don't do anything preemptive.
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    well if you enjoy not sociallising, then dont socialise so you dont have to drink. i thought a levels was rock and i'm doing a fair difficult course, if i get in that is, so dont worry, loads of people are going to fail aswell.
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    It could be worse, surely?
    Uni is what you make it.
    I'm a bit drunk now
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Anon or delete plz.

    I'm going to university surprisingly soon now. Its less than 2 months away and I've been dreading it ever since we had to start thinking about uni in June 2008 when we first started doing our personal statement and UCAS stuff. Its become more and more scary the closer it gets and I struggled with the tail end of my A Level work. How am I realistically meant to cope with uni work if I struggled with A Levels?

    I have not had a smooth ride this past 18 months. Far from it. My mum has become increasingly ill (not cancer, but general stress, depression and so on). My dad has treated me more and more horribly since he's realised I can't cope with a high workload very well (he noticed I was flagging in my final year of school). My sister hates me all the time, constantly insulting me and playing loud music in her room. My brother hardly ever returns home (he left uni a year or two ago). My gran is getting old and has cancer, so my dad is always really edgy. There is tension concerning financial issues between my dad and my aunt so I can't properly see my cousins, and I was really good friends with them.

    I have not had the best 18 months as you can tell. To top that off, I was bullied at the end of year 12 and throughout year 13 but the school did not help me very much. They could see I was struggling but they care more for the people who do really well. Horrible, completely untrue rumours have spread and I have remained at home most of the time instead of being able to socialise properly.

    I have not drunk any alcohol (or virtually none) and I am told freshers week is a drinking fest where if you don't drink shots that are put in front of you, everyone will hate you. I'm having horrible nightmares about it all. Can someone help please? I feel like I have turned everywhere and gotten all the help I can but its still not enough. Sorry for the long speech, I hope you can read it and help me.
    This is completely untrue.
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    i am boring

    i am anti-social sometimes

    i rarely drink

    but its ok
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    This is going to be your time to shine and make your way in the world. School is such a small, closed-minded environment but uni isn't like that. You are you, just be yourself, relax and you WILL find your niche. And sometimes the things we fear the most are the things that we end up enjoying the most!
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Anon or delete plz.

    I'm going to university surprisingly soon now. Its less than 2 months away and I've been dreading it ever since we had to start thinking about uni in June 2008 when we first started doing our personal statement and UCAS stuff. Its become more and more scary the closer it gets and I struggled with the tail end of my A Level work. How am I realistically meant to cope with uni work if I struggled with A Levels?

    I have not had a smooth ride this past 18 months. Far from it. My mum has become increasingly ill (not cancer, but general stress, depression and so on). My dad has treated me more and more horribly since he's realised I can't cope with a high workload very well (he noticed I was flagging in my final year of school). My sister hates me all the time, constantly insulting me and playing loud music in her room. My brother hardly ever returns home (he left uni a year or two ago). My gran is getting old and has cancer, so my dad is always really edgy. There is tension concerning financial issues between my dad and my aunt so I can't properly see my cousins, and I was really good friends with them.

    I have not had the best 18 months as you can tell. To top that off, I was bullied at the end of year 12 and throughout year 13 but the school did not help me very much. They could see I was struggling but they care more for the people who do really well. Horrible, completely untrue rumours have spread and I have remained at home most of the time instead of being able to socialise properly.

    I have not drunk any alcohol (or virtually none) and I am told freshers week is a drinking fest where if you don't drink shots that are put in front of you, everyone will hate you. I'm having horrible nightmares about it all. Can someone help please? I feel like I have turned everywhere and gotten all the help I can but its still not enough. Sorry for the long speech, I hope you can read it and help me.
    :rofl: freshers week will be fairly 'pro-drink' (to put it mildly), but come on now...

    On a serious note, make university a fresh start where you can make new friends and sort your life out etc.
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    If I was you, I would be looking forward to going to Uni. You'll get away from the bullying and the family pressures. The distance might even improve your relationship with your Dad. It could be very well that all the stress mad you struggle with school work.

    Uni is what you make it. It's not like Hollyoaks where everyone is beautiful and just get drunk all the time. I knew loads of people who didn't drink much at all. Just go and make an effort wit your work right from the beggining. Make good notes and do the extra reading. You'll meet nice people and will probable have a better time than you;re having now.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I have not drunk any alcohol (or virtually none) and I am told freshers week is a drinking fest where if you don't drink shots that are put in front of you, everyone will hate you.
    I didn't drink a single drop of alcohol at university and no one gave a ****. Just don't put yourself in situations where you're expected to drink. It will be a problem - for example unless you're an exceptional athlete you basically won't be welcome in most sports teams, but there's really no reason why you "have to drink" at uni.
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    Hell of a thread title OP.

    But don't do it, there's so much to live for in comparison.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Anon or delete plz.

    I'm going to university surprisingly soon now. Its less than 2 months away and I've been dreading it ever since we had to start thinking about uni in June 2008 when we first started doing our personal statement and UCAS stuff. Its become more and more scary the closer it gets and I struggled with the tail end of my A Level work. How am I realistically meant to cope with uni work if I struggled with A Levels?

    I have not had a smooth ride this past 18 months. Far from it. My mum has become increasingly ill (not cancer, but general stress, depression and so on). My dad has treated me more and more horribly since he's realised I can't cope with a high workload very well (he noticed I was flagging in my final year of school). My sister hates me all the time, constantly insulting me and playing loud music in her room. My brother hardly ever returns home (he left uni a year or two ago). My gran is getting old and has cancer, so my dad is always really edgy. There is tension concerning financial issues between my dad and my aunt so I can't properly see my cousins, and I was really good friends with them.

    I have not had the best 18 months as you can tell. To top that off, I was bullied at the end of year 12 and throughout year 13 but the school did not help me very much. They could see I was struggling but they care more for the people who do really well. Horrible, completely untrue rumours have spread and I have remained at home most of the time instead of being able to socialise properly.

    I have not drunk any alcohol (or virtually none) and I am told freshers week is a drinking fest where if you don't drink shots that are put in front of you, everyone will hate you. I'm having horrible nightmares about it all. Can someone help please? I feel like I have turned everywhere and gotten all the help I can but its still not enough. Sorry for the long speech, I hope you can read it and help me.

    Many people at uni won't be drinking and while a lot of people will be getting drunk, lots of people - like you - will be pissed off by it in the exact same way you are.

    You have a lot more free time at university than in school - maybe just 9 or 10 hours of lectures a week depending on your course. You will be able to cope fine.

    Lastly, killing yourself - even though it seems like a way out - is a bit drastic. Things change at university and you might not even recognise yourself in a few months. Really, just look forward to the opportunity that is in front of you.
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    my situation is much worse than u ... i didnt survive the work load of AS and dropped the whole british system and i am now in ncea ... a new zealand... i am sure uni is what u need.. a new start.
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    No idea where you heard all this about uni.
    Theres lots of people who don't drink and not because of religious reasons.

    But no offense 'Ive not has a smooth ride. Far from it'...
    Sounds smooth to me. Wish i could have a quiet 18 months like that.
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    Also killing yourself over this is extremely....extreme...
    to each their own i suppose.
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    You will change in ways you can't imagine at uni. You will flower, as long as you put the effort in to get yourself involved in things. I mean, literally force yourself.

    In a few years you'll look back at this time and feel so glad you went uni. Report back then please!
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    You've told us how hard you're current life is, and with respect I've been through worse, now there's two things you can do about it, one is change it and one is pretend everything's alright(head in the sand position basically).

    If you choose to change it, you have to accept that it can only get better, university is a new start, a new adventure, you will finally leave the nest and will be freed from your chains your dad has bound to you at home. You may even decide never to return home because of how great your life may become, however this'll only happen if you let it happen. You need to make the jump, no one else can do it for you, we can advise you and help you along the way if you fall but you have to keep going.

    Or, you can sit at home, day in day out, going on about what a miserable life you currently have, and moan about everything, hiding in a corner pretending it's not as bad as it is, crying beneath your bedsheets at night.

    Your choice.

    You only live once, try and make the most of the chance you've been given.
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    Hunni poor you email me if you wanna chat... I'm always up for chatting!! I'm sure it will get better... It seems that your family is a big part of the problem which means that uni is a GOOD thing to do! You can get away from it all, do your own thing, no more family stress, mean sisters, eggy dads or what ever. No more bullies, you'll get the odd few but come on bullies start to grow up by that age and realise they are STUPID, stupid chavvy bullies don't often go to uni anyway! As for the workload, don't worry about it, I know tons of people who have dropped out of uni or whatever, if you aren't enjoying the course, change for an easier, funner one! Screw what your dad thinks! You're old enough to make your own decisions. And please don't stress about the alcohol thing! You aren't going to be the only one who doesn't drink, my sister didn't go out at all on freshers week and she is fine and dandy and has a lovely group of quiet non-ravey friends. You'll make friends and have a laugh, experience new things and realise that life isn't all that bad Good luck babe and seriously message me if you wanna chat, I've been fairly depressed myself it will all be ok.
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    Unless you plan to attend university as a cadaver, I see a flaw in this plan from just the title alone.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Anon or delete plz.

    I'm going to university surprisingly soon now. Its less than 2 months away and I've been dreading it ever since we had to start thinking about uni in June 2008 when we first started doing our personal statement and UCAS stuff. Its become more and more scary the closer it gets and I struggled with the tail end of my A Level work. How am I realistically meant to cope with uni work if I struggled with A Levels?

    I have not had a smooth ride this past 18 months. Far from it. My mum has become increasingly ill (not cancer, but general stress, depression and so on). My dad has treated me more and more horribly since he's realised I can't cope with a high workload very well (he noticed I was flagging in my final year of school). My sister hates me all the time, constantly insulting me and playing loud music in her room. My brother hardly ever returns home (he left uni a year or two ago). My gran is getting old and has cancer, so my dad is always really edgy. There is tension concerning financial issues between my dad and my aunt so I can't properly see my cousins, and I was really good friends with them.

    I have not had the best 18 months as you can tell. To top that off, I was bullied at the end of year 12 and throughout year 13 but the school did not help me very much. They could see I was struggling but they care more for the people who do really well. Horrible, completely untrue rumours have spread and I have remained at home most of the time instead of being able to socialise properly.

    I have not drunk any alcohol (or virtually none) and I am told freshers week is a drinking fest where if you don't drink shots that are put in front of you, everyone will hate you. I'm having horrible nightmares about it all. Can someone help please? I feel like I have turned everywhere and gotten all the help I can but its still not enough. Sorry for the long speech, I hope you can read it and help me.
    These are common worries amongst me and people i know. You aren't going to uni with thousands of super cool, independent, suave socialites. There will be some, but most of them are just going to be normal guys

    as for freshers week, I'm a 17 tear old non drinker it's going to be a flipping disaster lol just got to relax


    oh, and, don't kill yourself manz
 
 
 
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