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    (Original post by Joy Division)
    They are the womb police.
    Lmao. +Rep!
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    (Original post by Emily069)
    Your brother couldn't fall pregnant.
    too true

    they're probably more uncomfortable with the thought of their "little girl" sharing a bed with her bf.
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    Your parents let your brother sleep in the same bed as his girlfriend because he couldn't get pregnent.

    Parents are generaly more protective of girls than boys because they don't want thier daughters to get pregnent ect.....
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    (Original post by abc101)
    Of course they shouldn't let you sleep in the same room together.

    For goodness' sake, have you no respect? It's their house, and you're only 16. You could be 26 and they'd still be perfectly within their rights to forbid you from sleeping in the same room as your boyfriend. Grow up.
    Lol good point
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    (Original post by repoman)
    So just for arguments sake, what would you say to a 22 year old guy/girl whose parents wont let them sleep in the same bed together (and neither can afford to move out), do you think by then they should have allowed them some leeway
    Speaking of which..! I'm 23 and if I brought my bf home then I don't know if we'd be 'allowed' sleep together, my parents really wouldn't be comfortable with it. :p: I can understand at 16 thatthey wouldn't be too happy but it's really annoying and unfair if your brother was allowed with his gf at 16 and you're not. Try not to argue too much about it, the argument could leave you looking very immature. I don't mean that in a bad way, just it's a delicate matter and parents can be stubborn about their innocent lickle girls!
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    (Original post by Emily069)
    Your brother couldn't fall pregnant.
    haha very true. Parents are usually more protective over daughters than sons in relationship matters for reasons such as pregnancy, and the 'first time' arguably affecting you more than it would a boy. They're just trying to protect you. It is there house afterall and you should show your parents respect especially with this subject. They still think of you as their little girl (and they will do nomatter how old you are).

    16 is young, I think they're right (I agree that it's unfair they let your brother though). I was 17 when I first stayed over at my boyfriends and his parents were ok with it. We'd been together for a year. When he first started staying at my house he was on the sofa the first 2 times but then they were ok with him staying in my room because they'd learnt to trust him. My parents wanted to get to know him before they let him stay over, maybe yours would like ot get to know your boyfriend?
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    (Original post by steed999)
    to be sleeping in the same bed as your boyfriend in the same house as your parents is disgraceful! First that's way too young and second imagine what your parents will think "my 16 year old daughter is getting banged right now" It will be your parents bad parenting skills if they allowed you to do it!
    I don't know why everyone automatically assumes that if teenagers are in the same bed they will be having sex. I am almost 16, I have been with my boyfriend for a year and a half and we haven't had sex, and won't till we reach the age of consent because that's what our parents want, and we respect and agree with them. I don't sleep in his bed with him but we spend all day in bed some days watching movies alone, and we don't have sex. We have had plenty of opportunities, and plenty of time when we could do it, but we choose not to. Is it so hard to believe that some people can actually refrain? If she tells her parents she won't do it, she won't, because she is trying to prove that she is trustworthy. Having said that, she is over the age of consent and it wouldn't be wrong even if she did have sex, because it is her choice and she is in a loving long-term relationship.
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    (Original post by History-Boy)
    Your parents let your brother sleep in the same bed as his girlfriend because he couldn't get pregnent.

    Parents are generaly more protective of girls than boys because they don't want thier daughters to get pregnent ect.....
    Doesn't mean it's right though. You're a socialist, man, you're supposed to be questioning society! :cool:
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    (Original post by xXMessedUpXx)
    Interestingly, did anyone watch "Sex-My Big Decision) on BB3, that showed a Dutch mother and daughter, with the mother saying how she would much rather her daughter and her bf be in their house then in some field etc. The English mum was actually moved by that openness. And lets not forget Holland have the lowest teenage pregnancy rate and STI rate, and even though their age of consent is 16 (12-if married i think..)the average age over there is 17.
    Yeah I watched it -It was really good but I think the girls taking part were still much too immature to start having sex any time soon even though they were nearly 16. Show's that you can't really put an age on it it's just the level of maturity and situation with a partner, etc.
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    (Original post by sophisticated)
    Again, ITS THEIR HOUSE!
    There's nothing you can say that can defeat that argument. And if you reckon there is, then obviously you have no respect for your elders and your parents that put a roof over your head.

    I completely disagree with you. Her parents aren't being irrational or unjustified. Plenty of parents have the same rules, and more.
    That doesn't make it right. If I kill someone, can I bleat about it being 'in my house' afterwards? No. Are parents allowed to beat their children? No.

    Sure, they CAN do it. That doesn't mean they SHOULD do it.

    I can rip my own penis off with a rusty spoon. That doesn't mean I will or should.
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    (Original post by sophisticated)
    You're just getting stupid now. All those things that you listed violate some kind of ethical code or law. Whereas having some very common and reasonable rules for your kid to abide by does not violate any law. You'd rather that all the parents in this country allow their little darlings to do whatever they want? Imagine the cost of the consequences. And to your latest post, can I just point out that you don't even KNOW the OP. Neither do I, but hey, I'm not the one assuming that she's incredibly mature for her age.

    I disagree that the rules are irrational and unjustified. Now go away please ok thanks :mad:
    In other EU countries they are far more relaxed about sex. We have the highest teen pregnancy rate, STD rate etc.

    Could that maybe because parents don't educate their kids but instead try to pretend sex doesn't happen?
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    Ram them up against a wall.
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    (Original post by sophisticated)

    Admittedly young people will do what they want to do no matter what, everyone knows that
    Why does everyone have this attitude about young people? It's not fair, and just because there are some people that don't use contraception and make silly decisions it makes all other teens look bad. Don't people realise that with the right upbringing from your PARENTS you don't do what you want, no matter what. You do as your parents tell you and you respect them. Adults constantly complain about 'kids these days', but don't they understand that bad behaviour and conduct comes from bad upbringing - and it's our generation that they've raised?!
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    (Original post by tehjonny)
    In other EU countries they are far more relaxed about sex. We have the highest teen pregnancy rate, STD rate etc.

    Could that maybe because parents don't educate their kids but instead try to pretend sex doesn't happen?
    I absolutely agree!
    It's so true -if parents didn't make it so taboo then maybe people wouldn't be so fascinated.

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    (Original post by Emily069)
    Your brother couldn't fall pregnant.
    And getting someone else pregnant isn't as bad?
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    (Original post by jessica.thomas)
    I don't know why everyone automatically assumes that if teenagers are in the same bed they will be having sex. I am almost 16, I have been with my boyfriend for a year and a half and we haven't had sex, and won't till we reach the age of consent because that's what our parents want, and we respect and agree with them. I don't sleep in his bed with him but we spend all day in bed some days watching movies alone, and we don't have sex. We have had plenty of opportunities, and plenty of time when we could do it, but we choose not to. Is it so hard to believe that some people can actually refrain? If she tells her parents she won't do it, she won't, because she is trying to prove that she is trustworthy. Having said that, she is over the age of consent and it wouldn't be wrong even if she did have sex, because it is her choice and she is in a loving long-term relationship.
    This is entirely hypothetical. You don't know that the OP won't lie to her parents about her intentions in order to get her own way. Plenty of people do, and yeah thats an unfair stereotype, but it happens!
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    (Original post by tehjonny)
    That doesn't make it right. If I kill someone, can I bleat about it being 'in my house' afterwards? No. Are parents allowed to beat their children? No.

    Sure, they CAN do it. That doesn't mean they SHOULD do it.

    I can rip my own penis off with a rusty spoon.
    That doesn't mean I will or should.
    But that kind of action would be completely beyond logic, Thats a stupid example, as is the examples that the other guy gave me about rape, murder etc. This IS a fairly logical situation. Its not uncommon. I had to put up with this "no boyfriends staying over in my bedroom" rule when I was the OP's age, and older, as did LOTS of other teenagers. Its not worth whining about on TSR. You're not gonna change your parents' minds that way are you? People like you can say "oh yeah, its not fair, the parents have no right etc" but they do because its their child, they're acting in her best interests - not just to spoil her fun, and they're not enforcing a completely unreasonable or unheard of rule. So my advice to the OP is just to get on with it. There's not alot else she can do, apart from talking reasonably to her parents and explaining why she thinks she should be allowed to have her bf sleep in her room. Its not guaranteed to get the desired result of course, but whining about it on a forum just seems immature and won't get her anywhere.
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    (Original post by jessica.thomas)
    I absolutely agree!
    It's so true -if parents didn't make it so taboo then maybe people wouldn't be so fascinated.

    They're not stopping sex from happening as far as I know. From what the OP said, her boyfriend and herself are allowed private time in her room, so its not taboo, the OP most likely IS having sex. They're just not allowed to SLEEP in there together. And tbh, sleeping is not really a big deal is it? I mean, you're asleep? :rolleyes:
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    (Original post by PlanetTea)
    And getting someone else pregnant isn't as bad?
    Nope, not according to society anyway.
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    Do what normal teenagers do and sneak around. My parents were completely against sex and liked to think I was a virgin and probably didn't even know what sex was. So what your parents don't let you sleep in the same bed... thats the fun of it?
 
 
 
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