does this count as cheating and should i tell him? Watch
but anyway, it was around this time that a male friend of mine confessed to having feelings for me. this threw me a bit and i guess i was flattered. my boyfriend and i were hardly speaking at the time and if i'm honest i thought our relationship was coming to an end. i did tell this guy that i loved my boyfriend and i wanted to make it work with him (which was true) and therefore nothing could happen between us. see this guy knew all about the problems i was having with my boyfriend and to me now, he seemed to have tried to take advantage of that.
but this guy didn't give up that easily. he kept trying to hold my hand and stroke my leg or the small of my back. i must have pushed him off like a million times but he kept trying. and i know it was stupid but i eventually i just let him. i was worn out from arguing with my boyfriend, angry at him, flattered that this guy wanted me so bad and i just really wanted a little bit of affection.
i know it was a stupid thing to do. we held hands a few times, i let him stroke my leg and the small of my back but that was it. after a week of this i stopped him because i felt so awful. the guy at first ignored me when i told him to stop and i had to keep saying it and pushing his hand away.
my friend has moved on now, he's been with plenty of girls since whatever it was that happened between us. but we still hang out together in big groups.
question is, should i tell my boyfriend about this? i know it was wrong and i'd be upset if it was the other way round. is it cheating? should i tell him? this was all over the space of about two weeks and about a week after i told my friend no then my boyfriend and i started to get back on track.
But that's how I see it,
If you really feel that you have to tell him,
then tell him.
i know it was wrong and i'd be upset if it was the other way round. is it cheating? should i tell him?
Whether you tell him or not depends on you, do you think it would do any good to the relationship/your head if you told him? Or is it a case of 'what he doesnt know cant hurt him?'. I dont know, but your timing couldnt have been much worse. It does make you seem a bit untrust-worthy, like the second your having problems your already looking for someone else. That might not be how it actually is, but its how it looks.
No point causing unneccesary hurt over something you realised you shouldnt have done. if you kissed him or went further i would say you should tell him.
You can tell your boyfriend or not... honestly, I don't think it should make any difference. You guys were fighting at the time and you said you never wanted to be with the other guy anyway, and had tried to stop his advances.