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    I know how stupid this sounds, but i just can't stop. They are pathetic lies. What i would call sympathy lies i guess. I dont want sympathy though. Its weird. I am a very shy person and don;t like attention at all. But i guess they are for attention, just really personal one on one kind of attention. There are normally truths behind them though. The people i lie to wouldnt know i was lying, they are convincing. I just want to stop but i can't.

    Part of the reason i think i do it is because i haven't had the closeness and attention of a parent. I experienced child abuse and neglect growing up and i would say they were linked.

    Argh i dont know why ive written this. I just dont like doing it anymore. :sad:
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    well you know why you are doing it. So maybe take it slowly and every time you tell a small lie or a taller tale than it was make yourself go without something you like or want for a week and soon your mind will associate that you are losing out.
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    Maybe you should think about seeing a counsellor about this? They might be able to help you find techniques to combat it.

    I've been seeing a counsellor myself at uni (been suffering from sadness over the last few months), and chatting to him has really helped me. :yep:
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    OP i'm exactly the sme, i lie about my religion, my family, where iI'm from, what i do in the summer, EVERYTHING - that's the only reason I'm so popular

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    Counselling might be an idea as other people have suggested. There are clearly psychological issues behind what you're doing- it's not malicious

    Just think before you lie, why don't I just tell the truth. 9 times out of 10 it will be the simplest and easiest method.
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    lol
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    a web of carefully constructed lies is what gets me by
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    I dont think i could really go and see a councellor. The only way to do it would be to go through a doctor and i can't really see myself going and saying my problem is lying

    I have tried so many times to stop and i think to myself to actively not do it, but then it just comes out without even thinking about it. Its only in hindsight i see what i said and kick myself. I like the idea of taking something away everytime i lie. I might try that.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I dont think i could really go and see a councellor. The only way to do it would be to go through a doctor and i can't really see myself going and saying my problem is lying
    Surely if the problem is bothering you enough to want to post here, it's worth seeing a counsellor for? :curious: I actually got access to my own counsellor through the mental health adviser at uni -- though admittedly, it's probably much easier for me, since I commutted to uni, and hence can still see him even after having graduated.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I know how stupid this sounds, but i just can't stop. They are pathetic lies. What i would call sympathy lies i guess. I dont want sympathy though. Its weird. I am a very shy person and don;t like attention at all. But i guess they are for attention, just really personal one on one kind of attention. There are normally truths behind them though. The people i lie to wouldnt know i was lying, they are convincing. I just want to stop but i can't.

    Part of the reason i think i do it is because i haven't had the closeness and attention of a parent. I experienced child abuse and neglect growing up and i would say they were linked.

    Argh i dont know why ive written this. I just dont like doing it anymore. :sad:
    How do we know you are telling the truth in this post :hmmm:

    Just come clean. It won't be easy but I'm sure most people will understand. If they don't then you have learned something valuable about them anyway.
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    You need a creative outlet for your lies. Write stories?
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    you ARE a mess
 
 
 
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