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    Sorry for the long read, I like to ramble.

    Surprisingly enough, this isn't a thread about homosexuality, or at least not entirely so.

    When I was about 5 I made friends with this kid. We went on to be best friends and I pretty much clinged to him till I moved away at the age of 15, and it was mutual. All my other friendships were, in comparison, fairly futile. We "experimented" from the ages of 13-15, and all of this is relevant, I think, I promise.

    So, I moved away, new environment and all that. I've only ever made friends with girls here. Any guy friends I make are usually through the girls, and I only view the friendship as such; there's a group of 3 of us, two guys and a girl, who hang out fairly frequently. But I and the other guy don't deliberately make time to hang around with each other. I'm friends with the girl's boyfriend, but again, I can only have a good time with him if the girl's around too.

    So to put it quite simply, I've forgotten how to make friends with guys. It doesn't help that both the aforementioned guys are rather "typical" when they're by themselves; i.e., they always try and subtly boast through conversation, which irritates me.

    I'm not like "the girl's gay best friend" type either, I'm a regular straight guy. I just feel like there's different ways to making friendship with guys and girls, and for some reason, whenever I make a genuine effort to make friends with a guy, I start feeling... nice. The last guy I was a good friend with before he went off to uni, we laughed and joked around a lot, but I felt a bit homoromantic, it was the weirdest thing.

    Anyway, I don't really know what I'm trying to say. Forgotten how to make friends with guys, wondering if it's pretty much the same as making friends with girls, as I'll be going to university soon enough. Also, I visit the best friend every so often, and I've found that while most of my friends are girls, there's much less "drama" involved with guy friends.
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    Now, I can understand why this topic would be so popular, but please, don't be shy!
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    You sound like how one of my friends used to be, but when you start socialising more with other lads you'll be fine - really. It's just the fact that there aren't many lads in the social circles you hang around with, but hanging out with guy friends needn't be too different from girl friends - just less drama! When you get to university you'll see, it'll come naturally.
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    just do the same as you do with girls to be friends, except the sex :p:
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    I think any "homoromantic" feelings that come up when you befriend guys are probably just in your head and I'm sure the other male in question doesn't feel that way at all. In other words, you aren't going about it in the wrong way but you're thinking about it in the wrong way.
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    I'm not claiming to be an expert on relationships (I'm far from it).

    However, perhaps you've 'forgotten' how to make friends with males, because you've had one close friend for so long that you developed together. So instead of having to adapt to 'fit' around other males, with this one male, you've grown up together and because of this you haven't had a reason to adapt. (I don't think I'm quite making sense..)

    Let me explain further. I mean, as you grow up, you form new friendships through personal development. You learn new things about yourself and subsequently you meet new individuals with the same or similar attributes and you 'click'. However, as you had one (really) close friend, as you both developed; you developed with common interests and therefore as you naturally 'clicked', you didn't have reason to change, as you both got on.

    However, you're now finding it hard to form friendships with other males, because you've got a grasp of what you want from a friendship (and it would feel), that you aren't prepared to change. I'm not having a dig. As it's natural. You know what you want from a friendship (a similar bond like you had with your other close friend?) but you feel you can't have this without getting too close (too close was okay before, as you were close from the start, and got used to the idea of being close..)
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    It's often more fun to communicate in a jokey, flirty way, which you feel more natural doing with girls, and your old friend you knew so well so you're being more yourself instead of being 'nice' ... but try seeing guys as people to do this with too? Maybe.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    The last guy I was a good friend with before he went off to uni, we laughed and joked around a lot, but I felt a bit homoromantic, it was the weirdest thing.
    Perhaps you're slightly insecure about your sexuality or you find it more natural to become friends with girls, because of who they are, a gender different to yours.
 
 
 
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