Blowing hot and cold!

About a month ago my gf dumped me, saying that she wants to 'sort her head out'. We went out for just over 4 months and it was a really good relationship. Since the split, we have been texting eachother, but throughout she has been blowing hot and cold, sometimes quite flirty from her, then other times cold-shouldered. Is she playing hard to get? Or just needy of some attention sometimes? I'm not sure and I wondered if any of TSR girls or boys could advise! :frown:

Reply 1

kingslaw

14

I thought this thread was about oral sex in different climates :frown:

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Blast!

Reply 2

englishrose

1

I reckon she could just be craving the attention. It happens to the best of us - once you get used to being with someone, it can take some time to adjust to being single again. However, if this behaviour continues, I'd just ask her straight out if it means anything or not, because this is clearly screwing with your head, and she's probably not doing it intentionally.

Reply 3

yoyooo

Maybe she still likes you but doesn't want to admit it. I think the best idea is to ask her straight, and find out what's really going on.

Reply 4

jbcubed3

1

Hi Anne Auraque,

Could be various things though I think that she could be confused as to whether she likes you as a partner or as a friend more so. It is good of her to not rush into things if it is the case though giving you mixed signals I feel is a little silly on her behalf.

I agree with the first two replies in this post - with her maybe not intentionally trying to give you these signals, and that you could possibly ask her straight as jody89 suggested. Then again it could be you looking too into friendly texting maybe.

I'd just wait for the right time to ask her what's going on, but be prepared for what she may say, but at least you'll know for sure.

Reply 5

Anne Auraque

OP

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lessthanthree

I think maybe she hasn't sorted her head out yet.

To be honest, if she's trying to get things into perspective she shouldn't be contacting you like that :\

Exactly, but she texts me telling me how she misses me, asking when we'll meet again, getting annoyed if I don't text back, and saying that she'll be dreaming of me. BUT then she goes cold and just answers the questions in the text message and no more. Argh! I don't want to look to keen because she probably wants space and being clingy will put her off, but then if I treat her mean it just goes around in a vicious circle. Bliming girls! :wink:

Reply 6

Lidka

13

To be honest, it sounds like she's just toying with you. :frown:

She may not realise what she's doing, but she needs to either a) ask you out and treat you as you deserve or b) accept the relationship is over and find someone else to play with. Obviously I don't know her so I can't really say 'why' she's doing it, but it's harsh on you if you don't know where you stand, so have a word with her about how you feel. Preferably face-to-face, because text messages are a lot harder to interpret when it comes to that kind of thing...

Reply 7

Anne Auraque

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Lidia

To be honest, it sounds like she's just toying with you. :frown:

She may not realise what she's doing, but she needs to either a) ask you out and treat you as you deserve or b) accept the relationship is over and find someone else to play with. Obviously I don't know her so I can't really say 'why' she's doing it, but it's harsh on you if you don't know where you stand, so have a word with her about how you feel. Preferably face-to-face, because text messages are a lot harder to interpret when it comes to that kind of thing...

Well she hasn't even text me, so I'm not going to chase her. No point, if she wants me she'll text, then I can ask what shes thinking.

Blowing hot and cold!

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