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    (Original post by Bubbles*de*Milo)
    Go and die a_t. Srsly.
    Come give me a petite mort Bubbles
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    (Original post by a_t)
    Come give me a petit mort Bubbles

    HAHA, how cultured!!!


    Petite btw. :wink2:
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    Ah sounds awful. I would normally make a joke at somethning like this but the life seem's miserable to the extent I feel sorry for you. I would suggest quitting the job but in the current climate I doubt you would get a new one. Anyway, try and stay positive. Have some positive goals/targets in your life
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    Nothing at the moment. I used to see a mental health professional but they closed my records. Gone to the doctors etc but nothing has ever come from it thats been beneficial to me.
    I think your job is causing you unnecessary stress and is exacerbating the anxiety you are feeling, especially with the pressure from your father also.
    Personally I think, talking to your father won't change his opinion, instead, why don't you go and see a doctor with your father, or ask your doctor to contact your father so he is convinced you are suffering from these problems. Subsequently, for anything to be beneficial to you, you need to be open about your problems and perhaps, try and address them slowly yourself. Just make sure you don't become a "recluse" when you quit your job!
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    thanks. I'm trying to socialise with friends to keep me going out and stuff but not being able to drive is really limiting my options
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    (Original post by Respect4Acting)
    I'm guessing your female, you seem emotionally charged..
    I lol'd.
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    Okay normally I like Bubbles and find her funny, but that Disney comment was really mean.

    I wish I knew what to suggest OP - maybe go to your GP for advice on what you should do? It's a situation where you don't have anything to lose by doing that, at least. As other people have said, try sitting down with your dad and telling him what's going on.

    Also, can you ask for a bit more help with the training so you're more confident in what you do, or ask for your hours to be cut down a bit to lower your stress/ anxiety levels?

    I know what it's like to feel and it's not fun, it really sounds like you could do with a break for a while. All I can suggest is try and cut everything down a little bit and take things easy, I know that's not exactly much help though sorry!
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    (Original post by Bubbles*de*Milo)
    Sigh. Go hide in a corner forever, you obviously can't cope with the real World.

    Go and watch Disney, hopefully the bunny wabbits won't scare you.
    I really hope you get an anxiety disorder one day, then you can look back at this post
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    (Original post by Respect4Life)
    I really hope you get an anxiety disorder one day, then you can look back at this post

    You look like a more masculine Jude Law.

    That's a good thing.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Ok. Here goes.

    I have a part-time job as a waitress with a catering company.
    I have been suffering with depression, panic attacks, social anxiety and general stress/anxiety problems for over 4 years.

    My job is a nightmare - the day before I go to work I spend all day dreading the next day and I barely get any sleep because I'm just worrying.

    I don't get on with all the people I work with and Im just constantly worrying/panicking all day - I feel sick, I don't talk to anyone (usually partly because of tiredness from lack of sleep as well) and I just try to get through the day but it's hell.

    On my last shift my manager kept yelling at me, telling me to wake up and that I was ruining the company's reputation and basically threatened to fire me as I'd been there for over a year and am still rubbish at my job. I burst into tears and then felt like an idiot for crying - and all the other people I was working with at the time started talking about it and some were even laughing.

    I mean its horrible - I'm so stressed the whole day that sometimes I even stutter and almost forget how to speak! One guest asked me what the choice of drink was and I completely blanked and started stuttering!

    I'm on a gap year atm and I'm doing this part-time (going to uni 2010). I hate it so much and I'm thinking then surely I should quit - but then I'd feel like a failure for quitting it when others can obviously get on with it - most of the newbies are waayyy better than me at it. But my dad won't let me quit until I find a new job and there is nothing around at the moment.

    Any help?
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    It sounds like you're going through a horrible time at the moment. I have also suffered and personally believe I am still suffering to some extend from depression, panic attacks and social anxiety. I don't have a job, although I am looking for a part time one. I really think you should sit down and talk to your dad and tell him what a hard time you're having and how unhappy and stressed your job is making you feel. And as for 'letting you' quit, well, he can't really stop you.
    From what you've said, I don't think that things are going to get better for you in your job because your manager is unhappy with you, you don't get on well with your colleagues and the whole working environment is stressful for you.
    With depression and anxiety, things DO change and get better, but I don't think it's a good time for you to be in this job. Focus on healing yourself ready for uni, quit your job unless you think there are things that can be done that would take the stress away from you (and if there are, sit down with your manager and tell them and if it still doesn't help, then quit). With your waitressing experience, a job position is bound to come up at some point, but in the mean time you could try your hand at volunteer work or focus on hobbies and find something that you can use to help you unwind.
    I hope this helped a little.
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    (Original post by Bubbles*de*Milo)
    You look like a more masculine Jude Law.

    That's a good thing.
    For one of the most disliked TSR members (according to you're profile) I'm disappointed that you did not live up to you're reputation, you meant to say i look like a more feminine Jude Law, right? :rolleyes:
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    (Original post by Respect4Life)
    For one of the most disliked TSR members (according to you're profile) I'm disappointed that you did not live up to you're reputation, you meant to say i look like a more feminine Jude Law, right? :rolleyes:
    No, I'm actually quite a nice person.

    I was being nice. Bubbles isn't always a *****. :top:
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    (Original post by Respect4Life)
    For one of the most disliked TSR members (according to you're profile) I'm disappointed that you did not live up to you're reputation, you meant to say i look like a more feminine Jude Law, right? :rolleyes:
    You do look a lot like Jude Law though! :eek:
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    (Original post by fallen angel9)
    You do look a lot like Jude Law though! :eek:
    Oh my goodness ... No more Jude law comparisons please, I really wish i was born a brunette man.

    Christian bale is so much cooler... Than law :mad:
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    (Original post by Respect4Life)
    Oh my goodness ... No more Jude law comparisons please, I really wish i was born a brunette man.

    Christian bale is so much cooler... Than law :mad:
    I think they're both amazing :o:

    Christian Bale more so.

    Oh dear I'm going off topic as usual. OP maybe you should quit your job and try and sort out your anxiety issues.
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    just quit
    if youve been there over a year then its not like your quitting after the first day. youve done your time. move on to a less stressful job
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    I'm so sorry to hear that...like most people here, I'd say quit.
    It's really not worth it if you feel like that...this is YOUR decision and not anybody else's. Don't stay becuase anyone wants you to.
    A gap year is supposed to be for gaining new experiences, not being bullied...you don't deserve this treatment.
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    (Original post by Bubbles*de*Milo)
    Sigh. Go hide in a corner forever, you obviously can't cope with the real World.

    Go and watch Disney, hopefully the bunny wabbits won't scare you.
    No need to be unnecessarily mean; she's clearly having problems, the solution to which isn't "man the **** up".

    OP, I'd suggest you talk it over with your parents and even if you don't quit, try to find some support It's likely your anxiety is making you more anxious which makes you more anxious....
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    you manager yelled at you in public in front of staff and customers called you useless and left you in tears

    sod quitting - have that guy down a HR route so fast and sue the company for public humiliation and slander (if theres no paperwork to back up his useless claim its not true)

    seriously put in a full complaint about it
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    (Original post by Bubbles*de*Milo)
    Sigh. Go hide in a corner forever, you obviously can't cope with the real World.

    Go and watch Disney, hopefully the bunny wabbits won't scare you.
    wow, someone had a rubbish childhood :hahaha:

    Quit it OP. If it's affecting your health it just ain't worth it. Remember, we work to live; we don't live to work...and if it's causing you anxiety away from the workplace then it ain't helping you live.

    Money is not as important as your health. It is a very sad reflection of the modern UK that many people think the former is more important
 
 
 
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