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    Basically my mother does not accept that times have changed - that people talk differently, dress differently, etc. For example, she won't let me go out in flip flops or even flip flops specifically designed for outdoor wear. She says its not acceptable. More importantly though, no matter what I say she deems it as disrespectful. I ask a question and she says I'm talking back and/or questioning her, or she says its not what I say its how I say it (even though I'm not doing these things). I have a summer job right now and am working with people 20-40 years older than me (I'm 18). We talk to each other like this, I see everyone talking like this, yet my mother says that she is not 'everyone' and it is not acceptable. Personally, it is getting out of hand because it's got gradually worse over the years and now it seems that I can talk with everyone else accept her. What can I do?

    PS. Before anything gets misconstrued, I am not talking in slang or what not, I am talking normally
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    Unless you can try and walk her into accepting it, I don't know what else there is to do.
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    I know exactly where you're coming from. My mum is really old fashioned too; I told her about my brother getting in touch with me on Facebook and she asked me whether I was sure it was him or somebody just posing as him. :facepalm:

    I've come to the conclusion parents like this are set in their ways. We had a massive argument yesterday and she kept asking me to list things that I'm better at than her with the exception of education and technology. It seems to be all about control. Have you got any brothers or sisters? Does she treat them the same?
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    My mum's the complete opposite, tries to 'get down with the kids'. :sigh: Anyway, I'd take her out with you for a day and try to show her that everyone talks colloquially (if that's the problem).
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    (Original post by amii_G)
    My mum's the complete opposite, tries to 'get down with the kids'. :sigh: Anyway, I'd take her out with you for a day and try to show her that everyone talks colloquially (is that's the problem).
    Same man :sigh:
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    (Original post by G O D I V A)
    For example, she won't let me go out in flip flops or even flip flops specifically designed for outdoor wear.
    What's this obsession with flip flops anyway? I've seen girls walking around with those in winter and commenting on how cold it is :confused:
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    (Original post by G O D I V A)
    Basically my mother does not accept that times have changed - that people talk differently, dress differently, etc. For example, she won't let me go out in flip flops or even flip flops specifically designed for outdoor wear. She says its not acceptable. More importantly though, no matter what I say she deems it as disrespectful. I ask a question and she says I'm talking back and/or questioning her, or she says its not what I say its how I say it (even though I'm not doing these things). I have a summer job right now and am working with people 20-40 years older than me (I'm 18). We talk to each other like this, I see everyone talking like this, yet my mother says that she is not 'everyone' and it is not acceptable. Personally, it is getting out of hand because it's got gradually worse over the years and now it seems that I can talk with everyone else accept her. What can I do?

    PS. Before anything gets misconstrued, I am not talking in slang or what not, I am talking normally
    • Don't talk to her in the same way you'd talk to your friends.
    • Bring a change of clothing so that you're not "offending" her but you don't feel frumpy in whatever she's deemed appropriate.


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    My Mum is the same when it comes to saying i'm talking back/questioning her etc so if I knew what to do about this i'd have done it - talking to her about it does not work! If you do try this then choose your words very carefully.
 
 
 
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