Persuing Exes - good idea or not?

Ended up sharing a bed with an ex the other day after a night out - ended up kissing.
Should i persue or leave it?
(BTW - I totally never really got over them despite staying good friends.)
:confused:

Yeah, go on!

If it meant something to both of you at the time I would say go for it.

If not, maybe it didn't last very long or something, then I have been in this exact situation and it wasn't a good road to be heading down...although if you haven't got over him I guess you could casually text him, then the ball's in his court?
Cxx

Reply 3

jbcubed3

Owch, difficult question. I'd say that if your experience with him previously was good, and now you feel that it's the right time and the right person, then go for it. However if your past relationship had some major issues then perhaps sit back and think about what going back would really mean.

You said you stayed good friends, so that's hopefully a good sign and something to build a relationship up on. Personally I wouldn't push it so much, see what happens and go from there.

Good luck! :smile:

~ j

Reply 4

littlemissfairy

Hmm...i would really find out what he/she thought of it... I have been in a similar situation and i thought it meant something...but it didn't to him, and that is not a good situation to be in. It depends on your previous relationship with him..like why did it end, how long did you go out with him..as to how well do you know him etc.

I think with my ex it was just that we were confused...we stayed friends too, also it depends on how long you have been apart for..maybe the time apart has made you both realise you've missed eachother? Or maybe the time apart has been short so you're both still confused about what you want?

Liz

Reply 5

northern_lass

iv recently kissed an ex, i was really drunk and really regret it. i never thort id gotten over him but i thinkin about it i have, and im still not ready for a relationsship after 18months of being single.

id say go with how you feel, if u really like ur ex, talk to them, you might have somthing special.

good luck x

Reply 6

jral

Cheers for all the comments so far...
When we were together it was for about 6 months and that was last year.
He ended it. Didnt end badly.

Reply 7

Gwen

In most cases I'd say it's never a good idea to pursue the ex - let them pursue you. However, if you believe what happened the other night was special for both of you - you might want to go on and see what happens. best of luck

Reply 8

paymaster

I don't think pursuing an ex is a very good idea - unless you both know where you're at with the relationship.

Saying that, it's what I plan to be doing this summer! It's never gonna work, but I want to try - just so I can work out where I am if nothing else.

Reply 9

Anne Auraque

Go get that ex! I got my ex back and I intend to do the same this summer with the most recent one! What's the worst that can happen? :smile:

Reply 10

Lidka

You broke up with your ex for a reason, so unless you think that reason is no longer applicable, it wouldn't be a good idea to start the relationship over again... on the other hand, if you think the situation has changed, then go for it. :smile: