Its a first for me!

embelina

normally, i meet a guy and want a full blown relationship with him....i always tend to look at men with the "potential boyfriend" idea...however, there is this guy (who is kinda my mate) that i like, but i dont want a full blown relationship with him..i just wanna be good mates (who kiss occasionaly, as hes very good at it...and maybe more :p:

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problem is, i think that, if i told him this, he wont believe me, as he knows wot i am normally like (wev known eachother a while now)..and hel just aviod me completely. Its also very complicated as he broke my heart a number of months ago and so now, he keeps saying "i dont want to hurt you again", even though i forgive him, and iv matured so he wont hurt me!

just thought id get it off my chest...and, im trying to convince myself that i dont fancy him that much, when, actually, i do!

We sound quite similar... I was always the relationship type until yesterday. Now, quite frankly, I just want someone to kiss me and make me feel attractive again!

I'd say just go for what you want, you don't necessarily have to tell him that you're not looking for a relationship - I'd even say it's best not to tell him, because he may well think you're just saying that to get him to stick around. Even though he says he doesn't want to hurt you again, he may well be interested in being slightly more than just friends.

It looks like neither of you are after a full-blown relationship from what you've said, but would like to be a bit more than friendly; so maybe just let him know that next time you kiss 'occasionally'. Good luck hun! x x x

Reply 2

Hm threads like this make me upset. :frown:

But I agree with what Lauren says :smile:

Sounds logical to me,

Reply 3

Lauren18

Onearmedbandit

Hm threads like this make me upset. :frown:

But I agree with what Lauren says :smile:

Sounds logical to me,

Yay! Someone agrees with me! :smile:

And why does this make you upset out of interest? x

Reply 4

embelina

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whys it make you upset..i didnt mean to upset you hun!
well, thing is, he very much his own person....we only ever see eachuva out clubbing so when i saw him on friday it was lovely to get to talk to him and thats when i realised i really care for him..but i also realised going out would be too hard and complicated...so, friends who kiss is the right thing for it..but it might only be one sided...hmmmmmm!

Reply 5

Lauren18

Yay! Someone agrees with me! :smile:

And why does this make you upset out of interest? x

Well.. I could go on all evening about that :p:

I haven't had a relationship in 4 years now (and that was my one and only, and nothing really happened in it)..... you say you want someone to kiss you to make you feel attractive again. I don't think I've ever felt attractive :frown:

Not even when I was with my old gf :|

Reply 6

embelina

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oh no, dude, you cant think like that......iv only had 3 iccle relationships and each one of them lasted less than 5 weeks!! i was practically begging this guy to kiss me on fri coz i wanted some attention and to feel wanted! he found it quite amusing really!...wasnt funny when he pulled away from me : (....course, he came to his senses eventually!

Reply 7

Lauren18

Onearmedbandit

Well.. I could go on all evening about that :p:

I haven't had a relationship in 4 years now (and that was my one and only, and nothing really happened in it)..... you say you want someone to kiss you to make you feel attractive again. I don't think I've ever felt attractive :frown:

Not even when I was with my old gf :|

I know how you feel..I never felt attractive before I met my bf, who is just about to become my ex-bf because he's now made me feel supremely unattractive - so the grass isn't always greener on the other side!

I'm sure most people on here would agree that you have a great personality - I don't mean that offensively (I don't know what you look like) - which I think counts for a lot more than most people acknowledge. I'd much rather have an interesting conversation with someone than make other girls jealous of my arm candy.

EDIT: not that I have any arm candy - my bf is not most peoples' cup of tea!

Reply 8

embelina

oh no, dude, you cant think like that......iv only had 3 iccle relationships and each one of them lasted less than 5 weeks!! i was practically begging this guy to kiss me on fri coz i wanted some attention and to feel wanted! he found it quite amusing really!...wasnt funny when he pulled away from me : (....course, he came to his senses eventually!

It's ok.

Just waiting for uni to come around...

Reply 9

englishrose

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If you don't want a relationship with this guy, I'd be tempted just to sit back and see what happens. That way, it's up to him, and you don't end up getting too attached to the guy.

And Onearmedbandit, I'm sure you're a great guy. I have a lot of male friends who are your age or a bit younger, who are fantastic guys but have never had a girlfriend. My theory is that teenage girls are just stupid for the most part. They don't know what they're missing :p:

Reply 10

mangomaz

Onearmedbandit

It's ok.

Just waiting for uni to come around...

not to make u feel bad but dont think uni will solve everything. thats wat i was told by every1 but er yeh i got nothing! :p:

Reply 11

mangomaz

not to make u feel bad but dont think uni will solve everything. thats wat i was told by every1 but er yeh i got nothing! :p:

Don't worry. I can assure you I'm well prepared for disappointment :rolleyes:

But whatever. I'm sure it'll be better than me now.

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mangomaz

not to make u feel bad but dont think uni will solve everything. thats wat i was told by every1 but er yeh i got nothing! :p:

Yeah! I had hoped that Warwick was going to be full of clever handsome men who would obviously want to date me. Maybe we picked the wrong uni.

Reply 13

Maybe there are lots of clever pretty girls but not so many clever handsome men...

Reply 14

picju96

covered farm wagon

Yeah! I had hoped that Warwick was going to be full of clever handsome men who would obviously want to date me. Maybe we picked the wrong uni.

I found one at Warwick!

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mangomaz