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    (Original post by Antony Davis)
    I have read your posts with interest and thanked you for your advice. However I don't think I can accept my daughter being gay this has tore my family apart. I will think about what you said but I don't think I can accept it. I just hope that this is a phase she is going through because of these so-called friends. I think she is either seeking attention or trying to fit in with this group, or more likely probably both. You may call me old-fashioned but this is just the way I am, I don't agree with homosexuality. This has broken mine and her mothers heart, why can't she be more like her brother. This is quite possibly one of the worst things she could have possibly done to us.
    If you say you can't change, then I see no reason why you're looking for advice to begin with...if you can't change, you have no control over your own emotions, and you are being superficial.

    I'd think she'd be more impressed with you if you'd start to backoff and let her make her own decisions. Treat her as a human being, and don't even look at her as a lesbian. If your entire family is torn apart by it, be the bigger person by simply saying, "look, it's part of life, we're all alive to enjoy our differences and to live, make mistakes, make choices, and to find ourselves". If you simply show you see her as human, and yourself, and there are no boundaries--only differences, and the entire family looks at her like she's an outcast, or like they don't approve of her, then wouldn't she see you as even more human, and she'll in turn love and accept you?

    People who hate their parents are people whose parents gave them a reason. If you're more cool about the thing than everybody else, and simply don't make an issue of it, or anything else in her life, but just be there to support her whenever she needs it, she'll be able to find herself a lot more realistically than you thinking she's "brainwashed". I'm guessing you never accepted her, wanting her to be more like her brother, so she probably hates you and the family...whoever isn't approving and respectful to her. This is why she is probably very, very different from you, because instead of you getting the time to find out who she is, you spent more time putting labels on her, and trying to figure out who she "could" be...rather than who she really is. People change all the time, and I think the biggest mistake anybody can make is trying to figure people out. There are some people who live up to labels, and there are those who learn that labels are ********, and instead pursue their life free-spirited because their differences were too much to be accepted by the label-givers, and they simply have better things to do than try to make the givers happy, like your daughter I'm thinking.

    Of course, people who give labels, judge, and reject--and are nosey as if people's lives are any of their business to begin with (you only deserve to know what people will let you know; accept that!)--are just too ignorant to even accept that they're ignorant, or wrong. So, there's really no point in even trying to help them.
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    Funny - I didn't read any real questions or requests for help. Only a load of attention seeking and requests for affirmation of a bigotted position.

    See my earlier post, note the questions at the end that is the anwers to the questions I require for your information. You really are a pedantic little brat aren't you. Anyway I haven't got time for this. I bid you good day.
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    (Original post by Antony Davis)
    See my earlier post, note the questions at the end that is the anwers to the questions I require for your information. You really are a pedantic little kid aren't you. Anyway I haven't got time for this. I bid you good day.
    Nice speaking to you

    And I'm a pedantic young lady (I can't get away with being a little kid any more - the boobs give me away )

    Edit: Oh sorry I'm a brat now too am I?
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    Nice speaking to you

    And I'm a pedantic young lady (I can't get away with being a little kid any more - the boobs give me away )

    I bid you all good day!
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    If you say you can't change, then I see no reason why you're looking for advice to begin with...if you can't change, you have no control over your own emotions, and you are being superficial.

    I'd think she'd be more impressed with you if you'd start to backoff and let her make her own decisions. Treat her as a human being, and don't even look at her as a lesbian. If your entire family is torn apart by it, be the bigger person by simply saying, "look, it's part of life, we're all alive to enjoy our differences and to live, make mistakes, make choices, and to find ourselves". If you simply show you see her as human, and yourself, and there are no boundaries--only differences, and the entire family looks at her like she's an outcast, or like they don't approve of her, then wouldn't she see you as even more human, and she'll in turn love and accept you?

    People who hate their parents are people whose parents gave them a reason. If you're more cool about the thing than everybody else, and simply don't make an issue of it, or anything else in her life, but just be there to support her whenever she needs it, she'll be able to find herself a lot more realistically than you thinking she's "brainwashed". I'm guessing you never accepted her, wanting her to be more like her brother, so she probably hates you and the family...whoever isn't approving and respectful to her. This is why she is probably very, very different from you, because instead of you getting the time to find out who she is, you spent more time putting labels on her, and trying to figure out who she "could" be...rather than who she really is. People change all the time, and I think the biggest mistake anybody can make is trying to figure people out. There are some people who live up to labels, and there are those who learn that labels are ********, and instead pursue their life free-spirited because their differences were too much to be accepted by the label-givers, and they simply have better things to do than try to make the givers happy, like your daughter I'm thinking.

    Of course, people who give labels, judge, and reject--and are nosey as if people's lives are any of their business to begin with (you only deserve to know what people will let you know; accept that!)--are just too ignorant to even accept that they're ignorant, or wrong. So, there's really no point in even trying to help them.

    I haven';t got time to read this at the moment I shall read tis later and save it to floppy so I can print all this off at work. I bid you all good day.

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    I bid you all good day!
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    Haha!!!!! The drama will continue on the next episode of Trisha.

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    Dad? Is that you?
    Imitation is the lowest form of trollery

    But it was funny
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    Dad? Is that you?
    My goodness it's another one! (AMG)
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    (Original post by a_musіcal_gal)
    Dad? Is that you?
    lol
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    This thread is hilarious! It should be serialised.

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    (Original post by Antony Davis)
    Well I am 47 actually, and the reason I came here was that I checked my daughters computer for any indication of gayness (like gay pornography or anything) I haven't found any but I saw this site in the history cache and she must use it. Has my daughter been talking about lesbianism here? And I would like to get advice from people of a similar age. Is it common to be a lesbian nowadays? Why has my daughter turned into a lesbian? Is it these friends brainwashing her? Do many people go through phases or os it too late? I don't know what to do I am at my wits end.
    U said she has always been lazy, maybe she was depressed cos she cudnt express these true feelings? Maybe these new friends have helped her to become herself rather than 'brain wash' her..personally i hope u do kick her out-for her sake..NO ONE deserves a father like u!! Good Luck to her i say!
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    (Original post by Antony Davis)
    No I am not making this up I have even contacted coucillors for my family to get over this. I have also written to problem experts for advice.
    HHMMM a 47 year old that cant spell councellors
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    ok, i know this 99.99% a troll, but I can't resist a little response.

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    This is quite possibly one of the worst things she could have possibly done to us.
    She hasn't done anything.

    You have.

    I don't agree with homosexuality.
    why?
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    (Original post by a_musіcal_gal)
    Dad? Is that you?
    you've got 2 b joking!! ............. this is sooooooooo funny!!
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    (Original post by Antony Davis)
    See my earlier post, note the questions at the end that is the anwers to the questions I require for your information. You really are a pedantic little brat aren't you. Anyway I haven't got time for this. I bid you good day.
    now i can see why he doesn't get on wiv he daughter............ no tolerance at all!
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    at least she respected you enough to tell you to your face instead of letting you find out from some other person it takes alot to stand up a tell someone the truth you should think long and hard would you be this judgemental if she had admited that she was on drugs or are you just a narrow minded homo-phobic person?
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    (Original post by Antony Davis)
    why can't she be more like her brother?
    what, and fancy and have sex with other women? your wish has been granted.....
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    what, and fancy and have sex with other women? your wish has been granted.....
    lol
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    i think that you have never liked your daughter and this is just an excuse to disown her in my opinion you are a:
    selfish
    homophobic
    narrow minded
    sexist
    old fashion
    pig
    and if i was your daughter i would want anything to do with you
 
 
 
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