Is 'Mothers Day' the biggest load of crap..
I mean.. it doesn't even have a meaning does it? It's such commercial bull****, where companies make money by selling cards, flowers and chocolates. And oppertunities for Moonpig and other Card websites to make thousands.
We should treat our parents nicely every day, not have one exclusive day where we're supposed to.
Thoughts?
Edit: My mum just gave me and my siblings a card to write on for my nan.. WTF
We should treat our parents nicely every day, not have one exclusive day where we're supposed to.
Thoughts?
Edit: My mum just gave me and my siblings a card to write on for my nan.. WTF
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Yes, we should treat our parents well every day. But, unfortunately, we often take them for granted. It's as commercialised as you make it. It's up to you whether you want to buy cards/presents etc, but there's nothing wrong with using the day to make your Mum feel special by cooking her a meal, getting her some flowers, letting her relax while you take over the housework.. there's no need to go mad about it.
I fail to see how cooking breakfast, doing the chores and being extra nice benefits any company.
I wouldn't say it's pointless. It's been commercialised beyond belief which takes the true meaning out of it (same for Valentines day - now completely ruined for me) but yea I agree we shouldn't just show our appreciation for our parents once a year. It should be spontaneous in my opinion). It doesn't have to be through buying them things either, can be a letter/note saying how they are appreciated, even down to a simple hug and a thank you.
Saying that, it is nice to treat them with something nice once in a while if you can, They have fed you most of your life in most cases
Saying that, it is nice to treat them with something nice once in a while if you can, They have fed you most of your life in most cases
I agree. I think it's much more thoughtful to buy your parents gifts/flowers sporadically, as a surprise, rather than just doing so to adhere to societal conventions.
Saying that, I did end up buy my Mum loadsa crap... She's a single parent though and it wouldn't feel right for me not to get her anything. My sister on the other hand didn't get her anything, because I apparently always buy enough for two
Golden child
Saying that, I did end up buy my Mum loadsa crap... She's a single parent though and it wouldn't feel right for me not to get her anything. My sister on the other hand didn't get her anything, because I apparently always buy enough for two
Golden child
Original post by madders94
People need to lighten the hell up! No-one's forcing you with a gun against your head to buy a card or flowers or chocolates! You can take part if you want to, if you don't want to, good for you now grow up and move on!
My mother'd be so pissed off if I never got her a card and something nice.. and she'll be like "well don't expect anything for your birthday"
Original post by Miracle Day
My mother'd be so pissed off if I never got her a card and something nice.. and she'll be like "well don't expect anything for your birthday"
Tell her what you said on this thread then
and get her something extra nice for her birthday maybe?Original post by Miracle Day
I mean.. it doesn't even have a meaning does it? It's such commercial bull****, where companies make money by selling cards, flowers and chocolates. And oppertunities for Moonpig and other Card websites to make thousands.
We should treat our parents nicely every day, not have one exclusive day where we're supposed to.
Thoughts?
Edit: My mum just gave me and my siblings a card to write on for my nan.. WTF
We should treat our parents nicely every day, not have one exclusive day where we're supposed to.
Thoughts?
Edit: My mum just gave me and my siblings a card to write on for my nan.. WTF
It does have a meaning, it is based on the Christian and pre-Christian celebration on the 4th Sunday of Lent. To celebrate family and more recently mothers. I agree that it has become a farce and that you should honour your family all year round but hey commercialisation is everywhere.
Is anyone else thinking that maybe the people that think that Mothers Day is a load of rubbish, are really just the ones that forgot it was Mother's Day...?
I agree.
My mum only does work around the house for recognition; she always complains and is never altruistic. Yet everything she does leads up to this one day of universal recognition where I'm supposed to spend her own money on cards and flowers so I can show my material love for her. It's ridiculous. I buy her gifts and shower her with affection when she deserves it (which is a lot), not when one day dictates I do. I remember last year when I didn't get her anything material -- I made her breakfast in bed and gave her a hug -- and she started questioning how much I 'loved her' and 'appreciated' her 'hard work', and she had the audacity to remind me of how I came into this world.
Why are we so consumed by valueless, commercial holidays? It really is annoying.
My mum only does work around the house for recognition; she always complains and is never altruistic. Yet everything she does leads up to this one day of universal recognition where I'm supposed to spend her own money on cards and flowers so I can show my material love for her. It's ridiculous. I buy her gifts and shower her with affection when she deserves it (which is a lot), not when one day dictates I do. I remember last year when I didn't get her anything material -- I made her breakfast in bed and gave her a hug -- and she started questioning how much I 'loved her' and 'appreciated' her 'hard work', and she had the audacity to remind me of how I came into this world.
Why are we so consumed by valueless, commercial holidays? It really is annoying.
Original post by Liam_G
I agree. I think it's much more thoughtful to buy your parents gifts/flowers sporadically, as a surprise, rather than just doing so to adhere to societal conventions.
Saying that, I did end up buy my Mum loadsa crap... She's a single parent though and it wouldn't feel right for me not to get her anything. My sister on the other hand didn't get her anything, because I apparently always buy enough for two
Golden child
Saying that, I did end up buy my Mum loadsa crap... She's a single parent though and it wouldn't feel right for me not to get her anything. My sister on the other hand didn't get her anything, because I apparently always buy enough for two
Golden child
My brother never bothers either.. but my Dad doesn't want Mum to KNOW that my brother can't be bothered, so he always buys gifts for him.. which make my gifts look cheap as I can't afford to spend as much as my Dad. So, my brother is the "golden child" even though he can't be bothered!
Yeah, and nowadays so is Father's Day, Christmas, Easter and Valentine's Day.
But they're still nice to celebrate.
But they're still nice to celebrate.
Speaking as a parent:
Mothers / Fathers day is a day for children ( / offpring - adults have parents too!) to focus on and give primary attention to their parents. No, this is not how it should be every day of the year. A "normal day" is a parent being focussed on his/her offspring - and that offspring being focussed on themselves (when childless) or their own children when they have them. That's exactly the way it should be. TBH it's not even necessary to have a day when the roles are reversed... but I suppose it is "nice".
Of course, like any "_____'s Day" it's been latched onto by our hideous consumerist society as a money-making opportunity - but it certainly doesn't have to be. Me and my 2 year old got up early today and her mum had a lie in, we baked a mothers day cake together, drew a home-made card for her and made up some food to go out for a picnic this afternoon.
It doesn't have to be all about tacky shop-bought cards, flowers and chocolates.
Neither does Valentine's Day for that matter. Yes, it would be lovely to be able to spend 4 hours making an immense dinner and desert, and set aside the whole evening to spend together "every day" - but in the real world, it's just not possible. People have jobs, children, in our case a business to run from home... and so, there just isn't time like that every day. It's not like we only do it once a year, or even that there really NEEDS to be an arbitrary date for something like that, but... meh... one extra excuse to set work aside and just enjoy a nicer-than-usual dinner together isn't a bad thing. You don't have to buy into the cheap corporate side of any of these occasions.
Mothers / Fathers day is a day for children ( / offpring - adults have parents too!) to focus on and give primary attention to their parents. No, this is not how it should be every day of the year. A "normal day" is a parent being focussed on his/her offspring - and that offspring being focussed on themselves (when childless) or their own children when they have them. That's exactly the way it should be. TBH it's not even necessary to have a day when the roles are reversed... but I suppose it is "nice".
Of course, like any "_____'s Day" it's been latched onto by our hideous consumerist society as a money-making opportunity - but it certainly doesn't have to be. Me and my 2 year old got up early today and her mum had a lie in, we baked a mothers day cake together, drew a home-made card for her and made up some food to go out for a picnic this afternoon.
It doesn't have to be all about tacky shop-bought cards, flowers and chocolates.
Neither does Valentine's Day for that matter. Yes, it would be lovely to be able to spend 4 hours making an immense dinner and desert, and set aside the whole evening to spend together "every day" - but in the real world, it's just not possible. People have jobs, children, in our case a business to run from home... and so, there just isn't time like that every day. It's not like we only do it once a year, or even that there really NEEDS to be an arbitrary date for something like that, but... meh... one extra excuse to set work aside and just enjoy a nicer-than-usual dinner together isn't a bad thing. You don't have to buy into the cheap corporate side of any of these occasions.
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