I do think male loneliness is a hidden problem. You’d rather be called a drug pusher than be labelled as a guy who can’t get girls. There are a ton of young guys going through this. It’s not just an American phenomenon. I’ve seen guys at uni from Asia going through it too. It happens in Europe. I’ve had guys from Africa talk about being frustrated and hopeless with women.
Everything from about how excluded they are, to how everyone else has done this to them, to how much enjoyment everyone else is getting out of his or her life and how they are the only one who isn’t a part of things.
What he and they MISS is that those other people who they think are in the ‘in crowd’ are working just as hard as him to fit in – they all are fighting to win at dating and mating and popularity and life JUST as hard.
But every time an Elliot Rodger case happens, the news media acts like it’s some shocking event, and that the perpetrator is a monster who cannot be related to.
The problem though isn’t that he isn’t relatable – he was, if you take a moment to understand where he’s coming from.
The problem is that he didn't take the time to relate to others himself – and this is the source of all the woes that men in his position go through. Everyone else is suffering. They’re all confused and unsure.
Frankly, I wish someone would’ve put me in the car right next to Elliot Rodger when he was filming that YouTube video. I would’ve smacked him in the face, then immediately taken him on a night out to a bar or club and had him kissing a girl within an hour or two
Because it’s numbers game. You chat 10, 20 women up, one will say yes “O, but that’s hard work”, well anything that God made worth something he hides, you can’t find Gold, Diamonds or Oil easy and obviously getting sex was even more important than Gold or Diamonds to Eliot, after all the pain he went through trying to get it.
So why not put the effort in ?
You chat up women on the street, on a train, where ever, it never stops, does not have to a big huge “Can I buy ya a drink” just small talk, with no end goal in site
He should have stopped waiting for something and quit blaming other people, and got out there and go make his life better.
There are men out there who are in wheel chairs, who are blind, deaf, who are facially disfigured but they have found partners (Not that there is anything wrong with them whatsoever but there people who have way more challenges in finding someone than Elliot)
It isn’t some kind of game where he is the only player. EVERYONE is a player. And the ones who are winning are winning because they’ve figured out what it takes to win.
If he’d just hung in there a few more years he would’ve been up to your EYEBALLS in p*ssy, I guarantee it!”
6 innocent people are dead now and he’s killed himself too because he couldn’t wait.
Elliot got shot down by the women he liked but Elliot failed to realize is that we get to say if it happens and there are no consequences to men if it does happen and we can try and make happen 24-7 and no-one will label us as easy.
Women have to wait. Men do. I’d much rather be the person that makes it happen, rather than someone who has to wait for it happen
This guy was from well off background and not a bad looking guy and that was one of his problems
His privileged upbringing made him weak and unable to cope with setbacks, so when women rejected him, he fell apart so this killing was the only he knew to restore annihilated masculinity
He saw black and Asian men talking to white women (Not having sex, not kissing, not anything) and that annoyed him even though he is 50% Asian himself.
He goes after these blond white girls and get's dissed but he would probably snub a black or Asian girl, the same way, those blond white girls snubbed him. (I dunno, that's just a guess I could be wrong on that)
The irony he didn't kill, those white guys, who were probably banging all those white girls he was masturbating off to, no, he killed Asian guys, who were just there to get an education.