I need the strength to accept that sexism against men will not be addressed and move

I think if you're in a relationship with a girl with these kind of expectations then she's definitely not worth it.
You should move on to another girl that will appreciate all the things you do do, and not what you don't.
Proceed by just being you

not currently but it's what I fear :/

thank you

Stop reading paranoid anti-feminist websites and stop blaming women for all your troubles.
Treat women like human beings, respect yourself and them and you'll have a better chance of being in an equal relationship.

I don't think it's fair to conflate genuinely valid statistics and points made by the MRM with my own personal problems

Well, I don't think reading all those websites is helping you with your self-esteem problems.
I would get help for your depression and work to become a better person, instead of spiraling into a paranoid view where women are the enemies and men are oppressed because of feminism or whatever.

Also, honestly, I don't think getting into the MRM is going to help you get a relationship based on mutual respect, since a lot of the views I see espoused by MRAs promote a zero-sum, borderline abusive view of relationship.

And speaking as a woman, it's a big red light if someone starts talking to me about MRM.

Well I don't think I have the capacity in myself to be an abuser hence why paranoia is the worst consequence of this, but it seems it's healthy to be sceptical of relationships. Also I have not seen the MRAs promote such roles, only question the status quo?

Yeah it will be, because men's issues are dismissed-that is the point

and finally better person typically tends to mean more interesting/higher status which I had been pursuing for years before even discovering the red pill. This only confirms the 'nice guys finish last' etc.

I'll admit yes I do now, quite frankly, see women as the enemy (for the most part)

IMO everyone has the capacity to be abusive, most people don't deliberately set out to be abusive, they think they are doing the right thing. A lot of the stuff I've seen from MRAs, PUAs etc talk about how men should be default be in charge in a relationship and women should always obey them. To me that is not an equal relationship, and could easily become abusive.

And I don't dismiss men's issues. I'm a feminist and things like FGM being illegal but not circumcision, male rape, and boys playing with girl's toys being seen as unacceptable concern me and are things I think about a lot. Feminism for me is about dismantling these stereotypes and beliefs about gender.
However, all I see from the MRM is opposition to any gains feminism makes, a lot of gender based biological determinism, and nothing being done to actually defeat any of these issues.

That's not what I mean about being a better person. I'm always trying to be a better person, and for me it means being happy with myself, being reliable, being willing to consider my own faults, learning when to stick up for myself etc etc.

And yeah, seeing women as the enemy is absolutely detrimental to a relationship. We're just human beings. Sometimes a woman will hurt you or be unfair in a relationship, but men do that too. Some people are just awful and you should stay away from them. But there are people out there who are better for you, who you will fit with and get on with.

Nice guys finish last is not really a thing. Being nice is great, but it doesn't guarantee you a relationship. I've rejected nice guys before, but it wasn't because they're nice. It was because I wasn't attracted to them, or I got on with them as friends but in big doses they kind of annoyed me, or maybe they came on too strong and freaked me out, or maybe they were too much of a doormat and I wanted a more equal partner. There are loads of reasons someone has for rejecting someone else, and blaming it on your niceness is just an excuse.

how do I proceed.

I fully appreciate that and I'm not blaming my 'niceness' for my being alone (I mean tbh apart from my social anxiety etc. am I really even that nice, considering my track record on this site lol?). But I have become disillusioned by the apparent importance of LMS (Looks Money Status). If that's not what you mean then again we're in agreement

I need to swallow fully the fact that if I cannot meet the expectations of women, it is entirely my fault no matter how lofty. My girlfriend can never be the victim or in the wrong, I cannot blame her for anything. My worth is entirely founded on what I do and provide, how I can protect. I will be a statistic. If she hurts me it is because I am weak. If I do not have enough money to support her as well as myself it is because I have failed her and was lazy. If I cannot perform it's my fault for lacking in control. The list goes on.

I'm in 3rd phase depression of the pill, with my current understanding of the power dynamic I have only the choices of whipped, MGTOW and Red Pill, how do I proceed.

I need to swallow fully the fact that if I cannot meet the expectations of women

it is entirely my fault no matter how lofty. My girlfriend can never be the victim or in the wrong, I cannot blame her for anything.

My worth is entirely founded on what I do and provide, how I can protect.

I will be a statistic

If she hurts me it is because I am weak.

If I do not have enough money to support her as well as myself it is because I have failed her and was lazy.

f I cannot perform it's my fault for lacking in control. The list goes on.
I'm in 3rd phase depression of the pill, with my current understanding of the power dynamic I have only the choices of whipped, MGTOW and Red Pill, how do I proceed.

Such expectations are subject to the woman in question.



Wrong. If she stabs someone, it's not your fault. If she leaves the oven on then leaves the house for two weeks and comes back to a smouldering wreck, it's her fault, not yours.
Despite the objections of rad-fems, women have as much potential to be in the wrong as men do.

Your entire worth is grounded on your achievements during your life. How you got those achievements, and what you did after them. What was it that Einstein apparently said? Something about basing a fish' genius status on its ability to climb a tree.

Don't base your worth on how other people perceive you, you'll only be setting yourself up for disappointment.

Why?

If she hurts you it's because she's a bitch. Not that you wouldn't deserve it if, say, you cheated on her or something. But hurting you for the sheer hell of it? Total bitch.

She's more than capable or getting herself a job. It takes two to run a home, putting all of the stress on yourself is unfair on both of your behalfs.

The whole red pill/blue pill thing is toxic to both genders (it's basically a giant Internet-based game of divide and conquer where everyone knows better than the previous poster, and double standards are rife throughout), and I'd advise staying away from both.

Why do you place such a low worth on yourself? You're better than that dude, you just need the realisation, and that'll come when it comes

Listen to this guy Mr Bandicoot, he speaks the truth.