You are not being bullied, you are just too sensitive.

If that's true (and, tbf, it is) then why were you so bothered about being in the red?

I used to get negged for good posts as well, doesn't mean jack, but it does when people called you troll all the time and dismissed your ideas you would. Hence this measure by tsr works!
Just look at all the new users coming out and speaking in support of this. Its phenomenal.
Even La95 with 1 green gem is debating with you all, as she wont get negged!

I'm not having a go at you personally, but the mentality you seem to think everyone should have, because people can't all be the same. never have been, people are weaker than others, if they weren't we wouldn't have a hierarchy of roles in society.
Not everyone is that way and its naive to think that way.

Drewski. He personally takes the time to do just that and periodically, I used to get negged by coincidentally the same neg power and the same period of time that you can neg again, by that user, on perfectly good posts.

Essentially its because most users who are in the red are regarded as trolls unfairly, even though they post good posts.
A simple google search on tsr with the lines of "you have red gems I thought you were a troll...but you're nice" etc etc
There are plenty of examples even on milos why we removed neg thread.

But seriously don't quote back, everyone knows our views on this, don't want another cycle.

None of that should matter. It is not about how sensitive someone is. It is about how trivial a rep system is.

But if it really didn't matter to you then why are you happy you have green gems now?

You're welcome to your opinion. However, I disagree. If somebody says or does something to somebody else and they are upset/hurt by it and interpret it as bullying, then so be it. Furthermore, what you fail to consider is the state of mind of the person being bullied - if they are already fragile, with low self-esteem, being called 'boring' may be more damaging to them and their self-esteem than being called all the names under the sun would be to somebody of a less fragile disposition.

True bullying is horrible and its' effects can be devastating. That is not what I am attempting to discuss. The term bully is used way too often and inappropriately. I believe it is a social overreaction to the many tragic true bullying cases such as teen suicides which have occurred. All of those cases involve at least one persistent and malicious perpetrator. I am tired of hearing people proclaim that bullying is occurring just because they are disliked or disagreed with. Anyone doing so is being oversensitive, and they are marginalizing the real plight of those dealing with actual abuse.

With the recent changes to rep on TSR several people have stated that the neg was a form of bullying. I don't care about the changes and that is not my debate. However, it is a perfect analogy to what I am talking about. How can anyone be that fragile? I'm pretty sure several of my posts in the past earned near 100 negs. How is that being bullied? Sometimes I say provocative things. I suppose I am about to say another.

If you have ever refrained from saying what you believe on TSR for fear of a neg. If you have ever deleted a post because it was receiving a negative reaction. If you have ever had more or less self esteem because you obtained red or green gems. Then you are a pathetic bitch. It should be easy to climb out of your delicate little shell and find some backbone while you are protected by a username and a computer screen.

Applying that same attitude to real life will be much more difficult, but you will be better off if you do.

The definition of bullying varies - see my post above.

Don't quote me back.
I'm done on this rep topic.

I had a whole paragraph and you tried toanswer it with 1 sentence shows how weak your argument was.

Did you even read what I said? I said I like it now because other people percive the colour of your gems as a portrail of your character, ie green = good and red = troll, which isn't the case.

All you high powered gems think you own/ run this site. I
Don't quote me back.
I'm done on this rep topic

If you're offended by something that was not intended to be malicious, that most people would not interpret to be offensive, then the problem is your's imo and labelling me as a bully for it is ridiculous. Just like labelling you as a bully is ridiculous if you wear a yellow piece of clothing and I tell you that I take offense to it.

But that's not right, every full definition of bullying will talk about a belief of dominance on the part of the bully whether that be physically or socially. I understand perfectly that certain things will offend certain people more than others but you seem to disregard the fact that there's a line between simply making an offensive comment to someone and actually bullying them


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As I said in the post above, I don't think anybody should be labelled a bully but I do think a set of flexible criteria for what constitutes bullying should be established by places such as schools for the purpose of administering appropriate punishments. However, the outcome is the same for the 'bullied' individual irrespective of whether they are being 'overly sensitive' or not - they are hurt and upset and it's important to address that.

There's no need for flexible criteria, it's just a case of understanding what's bullying and what is just an insult


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Who decides what constitutes what? Surely it's impossible to outline specific, rigid criteria for bullying?

Not really, it's defined by a belief, on the part of the bully, that they are dominant in some form so they are, in essence, preying on a 'weaker' person


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I very much doubt many 'bullies' actually hold that belief.

That they're superior to the victim? I would imagine all do hence why they choose that particular person


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I disagree...do you not think it's possible for people to bully individuals they're jealous of, i.e. individuals they feel are superior to them in some way?

I don't like this, a lot more should be taken into account. For someone who is or has been a victim of bullying I'll bet the majority would doubt themselves and feel pathetic after reading something like this. A lot of people who are bullied blame themselves and don't realise they are being bullied. Posts like this could be worded in a much more positive light as they have the capacity to make a bully victim feel that they are just 'too sensitive' as opposed to being bullied or treated unfairly. Its fine to have an opinion and to voice it but I think everyone should think about the effect things like this have on EVERYONE that would have reason to read it including people who are victims of bullying.