Anxiety experiences and support
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Original post by Amwazicles
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Hey again, I just realised you founded this thread, and so wanted to say great job!
Original post by therapist_1
Hey again, I just realised you founded this thread, and so wanted to say great job!
Thanks
Original post by Amwazicles
I had a rant on another thread, so I'll just copy-paste if that's OK 
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Hm, I am not sure if I remember all the facts properly:
I think good grades are more important than a job, just to show that you are so old and responsable. When you get only A* and/or really have to work, then think of it. In the long run A Levels will be more important, than "I started clubbing at 16 and worked in a bakery to finance new cloth".
Socialising is of course a great thing, but it doesn't consist only of going out, but I have the feeling you put yourself under a little bit of pressure?
Often it is more important first to get friends and then you will be invited, etc. (Of course you can go clubbing "without" friends, too, but socialising in general is more important for you, or?)
Are you in a club, sport or something like that? It's a great way to get involved and out of the family evenings.
Original post by Nathanielle
Hm, I am not sure if I remember all the facts properly:
I think good grades are more important than a job, just to show that you are so old and responsable. When you get only A* and/or really have to work, then think of it. In the long run A Levels will be more important, than "I started clubbing at 16 and worked in a bakery to finance new cloth".
Socialising is of course a great thing, but it doesn't consist only of going out, but I have the feeling you put yourself under a little bit of pressure?
Often it is more important first to get friends and then you will be invited, etc. (Of course you can go clubbing "without" friends, too, but socialising in general is more important for you, or?)
Are you in a club, sport or something like that? It's a great way to get involved and out of the family evenings.
I think good grades are more important than a job, just to show that you are so old and responsable. When you get only A* and/or really have to work, then think of it. In the long run A Levels will be more important, than "I started clubbing at 16 and worked in a bakery to finance new cloth".
Socialising is of course a great thing, but it doesn't consist only of going out, but I have the feeling you put yourself under a little bit of pressure?
Often it is more important first to get friends and then you will be invited, etc. (Of course you can go clubbing "without" friends, too, but socialising in general is more important for you, or?)
Are you in a club, sport or something like that? It's a great way to get involved and out of the family evenings.
I know a job isn't everything, but I just really feel like it would be good to get some money..
I feel like I don't always actually enjoy spending time with my current friends, and I want to meet new people, but it's just difficult to *find* them. I'm not really in any clubs or anything, apart from a community choir (consisting of middle-aged hippies
), I think my college does have some clubs and things, but I'm not sure how to get involved. I shall look into it, maybe ask my tutor 
Ive just dropped out of uni and am with my gparents now in manchester! i feel so much better its amazing. i dont think i realised how much the environment i was in was affecting me.
the doc i was seeing in london was £170 an hour
so i cant continue to see him. does anyone know any good places to get help with anxiety/panic in the manchester area?
the doc i was seeing in london was £170 an hour
so i cant continue to see him. does anyone know any good places to get help with anxiety/panic in the manchester area?
Original post by Amwazicles
I know a job isn't everything, but I just really feel like it would be good to get some money..
I feel like I don't always actually enjoy spending time with my current friends, and I want to meet new people, but it's just difficult to *find* them. I'm not really in any clubs or anything, apart from a community choir (consisting of middle-aged hippies), I think my college does have some clubs and things, but I'm not sure how to get involved. I shall look into it, maybe ask my tutor
I feel like I don't always actually enjoy spending time with my current friends, and I want to meet new people, but it's just difficult to *find* them. I'm not really in any clubs or anything, apart from a community choir (consisting of middle-aged hippies
), I think my college does have some clubs and things, but I'm not sure how to get involved. I shall look into it, maybe ask my tutor For clubs, have a look at local sports centres or activity things. Also, just try a search for anything that interests you on the internet. Or ask your local library about any local bookclubs, or ask if they would help you set one up and put you in contact with people. Your local library is actually a great source of community info, as they will be able to tell you where to find activities, or even things that they run
(plus, they pay really well, for the work you have to do, if you can get a job there )EDIT: can you tell my entire family are librarians?
I hope everyone is doing well . I've been given two weeks of uni because I was getting progressively worse in terms of anxiety and I felt like if I stayed something would snap. I'm getting some of my essays done in the meantime so I feel less stressed about work but I'm still terrified that when I go back I'll just start feeling rubbish again 
. I really love my course but I find it so hard to go to lectures. I'm hoping to get CBT with the uni counselling service when I go back though. Sorry for the random post.
. I've been given two weeks of uni because I was getting progressively worse in terms of anxiety and I felt like if I stayed something would snap. I'm getting some of my essays done in the meantime so I feel less stressed about work but I'm still terrified that when I go back I'll just start feeling rubbish again . I really love my course but I find it so hard to go to lectures. I'm hoping to get CBT with the uni counselling service when I go back though. Sorry for the random post.Original post by dungeonkeepr
For clubs, have a look at local sports centres or activity things. Also, just try a search for anything that interests you on the internet. Or ask your local library about any local bookclubs, or ask if they would help you set one up and put you in contact with people. Your local library is actually a great source of community info, as they will be able to tell you where to find activities, or even things that they run (plus, they pay really well, for the work you have to do, if you can get a job there )
EDIT: can you tell my entire family are librarians?
(plus, they pay really well, for the work you have to do, if you can get a job there )EDIT: can you tell my entire family are librarians?
That sounds like a good idea
I might have a look in the library, I do like the idea of a book group, might think about trying to get one started at college even (unless there's already one ) I don't really like sports though 
Not enough to want to do them with other people I don't know, anyway Haha, my aunt is a librarian too!
I'd love to work in a library, truly, but I doubt they would employ an under-18 anyway 
.Thanks for the tips
Original post by Amwazicles
That sounds like a good idea I might have a look in the library, I do like the idea of a book group, might think about trying to get one started at college even (unless there's already one ) I don't really like sports though Not enough to want to do them with other people I don't know, anyway
Haha, my aunt is a librarian too! I'd love to work in a library, truly, but I doubt they would employ an under-18 anyway .
Thanks for the tips
I might have a look in the library, I do like the idea of a book group, might think about trying to get one started at college even (unless there's already one ) I don't really like sports though Not enough to want to do them with other people I don't know, anyway Haha, my aunt is a librarian too!
I'd love to work in a library, truly, but I doubt they would employ an under-18 anyway .Thanks for the tips
The library's great for bookgroups (my uncle's the bookgroup guy in his library county) cos they sort out all the books for you
And it can't hurt to ask, because from what I've been told, they actually don't mind and may be quite happy to. Especially as you represent someone who likes libraries but is in a demographic that rarely uses them. (boss librarians for parents, I know the library service (at least in London)) As for sports, they're all super different, don't tar them all with the same brush - used to hate all of them (oh, god, when I was your age, *old*) but now many appeal, schools just drum all the yay running around out of you. Original post by Amwazicles
I know a job isn't everything, but I just really feel like it would be good to get some money..
I feel like I don't always actually enjoy spending time with my current friends, and I want to meet new people, but it's just difficult to *find* them. I'm not really in any clubs or anything, apart from a community choir (consisting of middle-aged hippies), I think my college does have some clubs and things, but I'm not sure how to get involved. I shall look into it, maybe ask my tutor
I feel like I don't always actually enjoy spending time with my current friends, and I want to meet new people, but it's just difficult to *find* them. I'm not really in any clubs or anything, apart from a community choir (consisting of middle-aged hippies
), I think my college does have some clubs and things, but I'm not sure how to get involved. I shall look into it, maybe ask my tutor Hm, I understand your point with a job, but perhaps use the vacation? Unless you really need the money, it would be sad to pay it with lower grades. (I know it is difficult, but exspecially before exams we usually want our whole time for learning and a job diminuish your time for recreation, meeting friends, get additional knowledge by reading books...) Okay, I just won't anything more...
Hm, really no Sports? (More exotic sport teams tend to be less ambitious as they are happy for everyone and the levels are mixed. ) They are just great to gain stenght and self confidence. (And I am not an coordination wonder.
)Clubs: Debating, Model United Nations, anything involving team work, something with politics (don't need to be party related), theatre, philosophy, orchestra...
Just look they are not to introverted (single competition sport, no activities involeved like: sitting around and just chat one evening to get to know each other), try various (perhaps the topic isn't the best, but the people really open and nice) and get in contact with them before, so you don't have an excuse not going there
Original post by dungeonkeepr
The library's great for bookgroups (my uncle's the bookgroup guy in his library county) cos they sort out all the books for you And it can't hurt to ask, because from what I've been told, they actually don't mind and may be quite happy to. Especially as you represent someone who likes libraries but is in a demographic that rarely uses them. (boss librarians for parents, I know the library service (at least in London)) As for sports, they're all super different, don't tar them all with the same brush - used to hate all of them (oh, god, when I was your age, *old*) but now many appeal, schools just drum all the yay running around out of you.
And it can't hurt to ask, because from what I've been told, they actually don't mind and may be quite happy to. Especially as you represent someone who likes libraries but is in a demographic that rarely uses them. (boss librarians for parents, I know the library service (at least in London)) As for sports, they're all super different, don't tar them all with the same brush - used to hate all of them (oh, god, when I was your age, *old*) but now many appeal, schools just drum all the yay running around out of you. Not sure what you mean.. can't hurt to ask what?
I'm going into town tomorrow I think, so I might pop into the library and see.. maybe....
I feel like I don't really belong in a book group I think I'd feel a bit out of place in a group which will almost certainly be full of adults.. That's why I kind of like the idea of doing one at college, but then like you said about them arranging the books What exactly happens at a book group? I mean I know roughly, but.. 
Yeah I know what you mean about sports. But then it's the same kind of thing, most sports groups or clubs are some kind of competitive thing, and I really wouldn't want to do anything which involved competing with other teams (no matter how lighthearted). At the most I'd just like an enjoyable sport with no 'strings attached', but I think that's pretty rare because more people probably want some amount of competition (which is fair enough)..
Sorry that was a really rambly post
Original post by Amwazicles
Not sure what you mean.. can't hurt to ask what?
I'm going into town tomorrow I think, so I might pop into the library and see.. maybe.... I feel like I don't really belong in a book group I think I'd feel a bit out of place in a group which will almost certainly be full of adults.. That's why I kind of like the idea of doing one at college, but then like you said about them arranging the books What exactly happens at a book group? I mean I know roughly, but..
Yeah I know what you mean about sports. But then it's the same kind of thing, most sports groups or clubs are some kind of competitive thing, and I really wouldn't want to do anything which involved competing with other teams (no matter how lighthearted). At the most I'd just like an enjoyable sport with no 'strings attached', but I think that's pretty rare because more people probably want some amount of competition (which is fair enough)..
Sorry that was a really rambly post
I'm going into town tomorrow I think, so I might pop into the library and see.. maybe....
I feel like I don't really belong in a book group I think I'd feel a bit out of place in a group which will almost certainly be full of adults.. That's why I kind of like the idea of doing one at college, but then like you said about them arranging the books What exactly happens at a book group? I mean I know roughly, but.. Yeah I know what you mean about sports. But then it's the same kind of thing, most sports groups or clubs are some kind of competitive thing, and I really wouldn't want to do anything which involved competing with other teams (no matter how lighthearted). At the most I'd just like an enjoyable sport with no 'strings attached', but I think that's pretty rare because more people probably want some amount of competition (which is fair enough)..
Sorry that was a really rambly post
Oh, sorry, I got distracted halfway through that sentence by an idea which needed googling (want to join a writer's group). I meant that it can't hurt to ask if they have any jobs and if they'd consider you
The book group could be intimidating, I'll grant. I don't actually know what happens, I think you just read and talk about it. Never appealed to me, I have to say - I read too much. If you want to join (but have questions), ask at the library, most of the time they have nooooothing to do, so would be happy to help someone nice
They're not, actually, not if you join the right ones. You could learn fencing? Or some other solo sport. My mate did belly dancing. Lots of things that I'm classing as sport, because they get dismissed in the same thought. Dance classes are non-competitive, there's plenty of active things out there, you just have to look for them
(plus, group exercise is a great thing for anxiety, because you get sucked into the moment and it's awesome ) EDIT: and they're all really lovely if you have to leave for whatever reason.(edited 12 years ago)
Original post by dungeonkeepr
Oh, sorry, I got distracted halfway through that sentence by an idea which needed googling (want to join a writer's group). I meant that it can't hurt to ask if they have any jobs and if they'd consider you
The book group could be intimidating, I'll grant. I don't actually know what happens, I think you just read and talk about it. Never appealed to me, I have to say - I read too much. If you want to join (but have questions), ask at the library, most of the time they have nooooothing to do, so would be happy to help someone nice
They're not, actually, not if you join the right ones. You could learn fencing? Or some other solo sport. My mate did belly dancing. Lots of things that I'm classing as sport, because they get dismissed in the same thought. Dance classes are non-competitive, there's plenty of active things out there, you just have to look for them (plus, group exercise is a great thing for anxiety, because you get sucked into the moment and it's awesome ) EDIT: and they're all really lovely if you have to leave for whatever reason.
The book group could be intimidating, I'll grant. I don't actually know what happens, I think you just read and talk about it. Never appealed to me, I have to say - I read too much. If you want to join (but have questions), ask at the library, most of the time they have nooooothing to do, so would be happy to help someone nice
They're not, actually, not if you join the right ones. You could learn fencing? Or some other solo sport. My mate did belly dancing. Lots of things that I'm classing as sport, because they get dismissed in the same thought. Dance classes are non-competitive, there's plenty of active things out there, you just have to look for them
(plus, group exercise is a great thing for anxiety, because you get sucked into the moment and it's awesome ) EDIT: and they're all really lovely if you have to leave for whatever reason.Haha, oh right yeah I could always ask I suppose
Hmm. Well I'll look into it and also check with college if there is anything already
I guess so. Although without wanting to sound too pessimistic, my town is not exactly famed for it's culture/hobbies
But again, I will try and look into it Thanks for the advice
But with fencing you compete in every lesson, after you finished the basic legwork part. (Which of course never finishes, but after a while you start fencing against each other.) If you consider the "match factor", that totally depends on the sport club, I think. (I experienced all variations: nobody competing, only the good ones, all, depending on motivation, everybody is seen as a potential World Championship Winner,...)
getting mad at my family, they keep telling me to make plans for my gap year, but I can't until I get the panic attacks to go away
cause right now I can't even walk to the frigging supermarket without panicking.
cause right now I can't even walk to the frigging supermarket without panicking.
Original post by maxcartwright
getting mad at my family, they keep telling me to make plans for my gap year, but I can't until I get the panic attacks to go away
cause right now I can't even walk to the frigging supermarket without panicking.
cause right now I can't even walk to the frigging supermarket without panicking.
Calmly tell them that your plan for the gap year is to get well enough to manage university. Once you've done that, then you might do something they consider gap-year worthy.
Hey guys. Basically I have my first "guided self help" session tomorrow and I'm so nervous because I don't know what to expect can anyone tell me what their first CBT session was like? And how long it was? Since my assessment things have gotten a lot worse and I'm scared that if I say that then they'll ask me why things have gotten worse.. and I'm not ready to talk about that stuff but I know they'll have to get it out of me and there's some things I don't wanna talk about and am worried will get me in trouble if I do talk about them, but I know I won't get better if I don't talk :'( any advice would be much appreciated.. thank you x
can anyone tell me what their first CBT session was like? And how long it was? Since my assessment things have gotten a lot worse and I'm scared that if I say that then they'll ask me why things have gotten worse.. and I'm not ready to talk about that stuff but I know they'll have to get it out of me and there's some things I don't wanna talk about and am worried will get me in trouble if I do talk about them, but I know I won't get better if I don't talk :'( any advice would be much appreciated.. thank you x****, have a meeting now to discuss leaving uni /intermission as my attendance hasn't improved.... but i dont want to leave
thing is if i leave, i cant try and go to lectures, and thats what the issue is and what i need to work on.
thing is if i leave, i cant try and go to lectures, and thats what the issue is and what i need to work on.
I'm new here
I don't think it belongs here but what the hey:
I think I have trichotillimania which is a strong urge to pull hair from parts of your body, which could be scalp, armpit hair or even pubic hair.
I pull hair from everywhere you can think of and it doesn't hurt at all. It's like some relief/pleasure thing when I do it. I've been doing this since thr age of 7/8 years and my left part of the scalp is damaged- the hair follicles won't grow hair. As a black dude, I get really anxious because I have a patch there but all the other black boys I see all have normal shape hair on their scalps. I have to comb my hair a lot to disguise the patch, but when it's later during the day, when it's raining or when I wear a hat, the patch becomes visible.
I've tried everything from wearing gloves, to wearing hats indoor, putting my hands under my bottom.
The frequency of my hair pulling increases when I'm in absorbed into something, such as a revising or watching tv.
Sometimes, at school I get teased by other black boys who tell me that I have to comb my hair but I do! It's just the way my hair is now. No one I know has trich and right now, my hair is bushy but I really want it to grow to a flatop, but that ain't gonna happen if I keep pulling my hair. Right now, there are 2 spots in my scalp that have less hair than the rest but they're not bald patches yet.
Oh and I hate it when someone from the lower school talks to me LOUDLY on the bus/train, I feel anxious there as well. Happened today on the train
Thanks for reading if you bothered
I don't think it belongs here but what the hey:
I think I have trichotillimania which is a strong urge to pull hair from parts of your body, which could be scalp, armpit hair or even pubic hair.
I pull hair from everywhere you can think of and it doesn't hurt at all. It's like some relief/pleasure thing when I do it. I've been doing this since thr age of 7/8 years and my left part of the scalp is damaged- the hair follicles won't grow hair. As a black dude, I get really anxious because I have a patch there but all the other black boys I see all have normal shape hair on their scalps. I have to comb my hair a lot to disguise the patch, but when it's later during the day, when it's raining or when I wear a hat, the patch becomes visible.
I've tried everything from wearing gloves, to wearing hats indoor, putting my hands under my bottom.
The frequency of my hair pulling increases when I'm in absorbed into something, such as a revising or watching tv.
Sometimes, at school I get teased by other black boys who tell me that I have to comb my hair
but I do! It's just the way my hair is now. No one I know has trich and right now, my hair is bushy but I really want it to grow to a flatop, but that ain't gonna happen if I keep pulling my hair. Right now, there are 2 spots in my scalp that have less hair than the rest but they're not bald patches yet. Oh and I hate it when someone from the lower school talks to me LOUDLY on the bus/train, I feel anxious there as well. Happened today on the train
Thanks for reading if you bothered
well, it is more likely it is psychological. You need to delete any thoughts you have about your hair and concentrate on something else. Sounds like you have generalised anxiety. So look for Valeriana Officinalis on healthaid.co.uk ( a natural herb for anxiety). If its not your hair is going to be something else, because of anxiety.
I would advice you to cut your hair short so that it doesn't bother you, and occupy yourself with something productive...
I would advice you to cut your hair short so that it doesn't bother you, and occupy yourself with something productive...
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