I was recently filling in a form and came to the 'Equal Opportunities' section which asked me what my sexual 'orientation' was.
This is fairly commonplace and seems at first a sensible question - the answers given were 'gay,' 'straight,' or 'bisexual.'
Obviously, these terms nowadays mean sexual/romantic attraction to members of the same sex, members of the opposite sex or members of both sexes respectively. (Traditionally of course though gay means carefree and happy.)
However there are several flaws here. The question makes the immediate assumption that it is undebatable that we all have an inbuilt sexual 'orientation' and hence fit into one of these categories.
This is wrong though. Taking the second part of the point, there is no reason one cannot be attracted to animals (zoosexual,) or children (paedosexual) or corpses (necrosexual) and etc.
And this is besides the point - no matter how many people claim to have been 'born gay,' or 'born straight,' there is no conclusive proof to suggest this at all.
Someone saying that they are a heterosexual,' would imply that the only possible attraction they could ever feel at any time would be to a human being of the opposite sex (whether an adult or child is irrelevant.)
However this is ridiculous - how can they possibly know this, other than a 'little feeling' telling them? How can someone for instance at the age of 15 turn around and tell his parents he is 'homosexual' or 'paedosexual?'
It's no more logical than someone saying he/she has a 'brunette orientation,' meaning they are only ever going to be attracted to someone with brunette hair. Or a 'Dwarfism orientation' which could mean they'd only be attracted to people unfortunate enough to have primordial dwarfism.
So for these reasons, the question "Are you straight, gay, or bisexual" is void. It makes the implication that these are the only valid forms of sexuall attraction to hold.
The truth is we are all indeed equal and without positive concrete evidence to suggest we do have an 'inbuilt sexuality,' then the default would be that we are born effectively with the potential to develop attraction to anyone and/or anything. Sigmund Freud was on to this when he claimed we were all born 'bisexual.'
Having said that though, the vast majority of people (due to procreative instinct) tend to form monogamous opposite-sex relationships. From studies we can estimate that around 1-1.5% of the UK population form monogamous same-sex relationships. And a few others form polyamorous relationships, or engage in sexual activity with animals, children etc...
We may have moral objections to unconsenting sex (i.e. with animals or with young children,) yet we cannot criticise attraction towards these activities.
May I say also that I am not for one minute suggesting we choose what we find attractive - I'm purely saying that we can be attracted to anyone and anything and a lot of relationships and sexual activity are purely circumstantial.
For the reasons outlined, therefore, referring to 'gay' people or 'straight' people is ridiculous. The only time this can be described is after someone's death.
When I see the term 'gay marriage' - I become instantly irritated. As not only does it make the assumption that we all have a genetic 'sexuality,' it makes a suggestion of a type of marriage only for those who have been attracted to members of the same sex.
The other attempt at reasoning that annoys me is when people compare 'sexual 'orientation'' to race. You must be completely deluded if you see a proven innate and hereditary characteristic as on the same footing as something made up.
In fact equality law should be completely changed and 'sexual orientation' must be corrected to 'types of sexual attraction experienced.'
I think the (extremely talented) musician Mika summed this up perfectly: "I’ve never ever labeled myself. But having said that; I’ve never limited my life, I’ve never limited who I sleep with. So, whatever. Call me whatever you want. Call me bisexual, if you need a term for me"
So I'll start the ball rolling - I'm a human being who so far has had attractions to men and women, people with brown hair, blonde hair, blue eyes, intelligent people etc...
(But no animals/corpses yet.)