Hi,
Around 6 months ago I went on a webcam sex site and pretty quickly I got addicted to it. I realised I was going on almost every night and was looking forward to it during the day. I always felt terrible about it after, but I sill retured there time and time again. (Timewise, it clashed with a period when things where going very badly for me -for other reasons- and I think I was almost indulging in how bad it felt, if you know what I mean. Everytime I felt bad about it, I would think something like "I'm so pathetic I may as well do it now", ad it would just snowball out of control.) It also messed up my sleeping pattern terribly - so it was actually coming to the point of interfering with my daily life.
Thankfully, however, I've not been on them for almost one month now, so perhaps I'm getting over them. (It's been a real struggle though; I hope I'm not gonna go back. I've said I'd quit them before.)
But I realise it's still affecting my life: basically, I fear what I've done on cam will somehow be seen by everyone. I'm currently in a state of complete anxiety and fear because of it. I can't enjoy my normal day-to-day life because I worry about this. I don't laugh, smile or have fun any more. I would do anything to be able to go back 6 months and never go on these sites.
I think, in posting this, I'm looking for (very optimistically) assurance that nothing will come of the sexual stuff I did on webcam - although I know I can't be guaranteed of this; indeed, far from it. More than anything though, I'm probably just expressing my feelings and am looking for some help from others. As you can imagine, it's not something I can bring up with my friends or family, so I'm pretty much alone in this.
If anyone who has any knowledge on how people get filmed on their webcams, or how frequently that sort of thing happens, please share, so I can at least have some idea of how likely it is that something will come of what I've done. Over the course of the 4-5 months I was going on these sites, there were probably around 20-30 full-on "sessions" with webcam (at other times, I woud not have the webcam on, I'd just watch others, or sometimes I'd just be there - the delights of addiction). Of these sessions they were all girls in their twenties (I'm 22), and they mostly seemed pretty normal (if we're not gonna judge by the fact that they're going on these sites, if further that is not normal). It seemed pretty much like they were just horny and were looking for some fun, so it didn't feel like they'd do anything with the video after. But then, I don't even know these people.
What I'm worried about most of all are the 2 or 3 times I did stuff where the person on the other side had no audio, because pretty soon it would be clear that there was no "interaction", i.e. it was not a "real" video, but a previously recorded video. I'm terrified at the thought of who was on the other side then, and what they'd do with the video. Although in these instances I stopped pretty quickly, I'd still done sexually explicit and embarassing stuff.
I would love it if someone would tell me "people do get recorded, but it's extremely rare" or "only 1 in 10000 people on these webcam sex sites look to take advantage of people on webcam", but both these statements are just fantasies of mine. I just wish I could go back 6 months ago, and never have gone on these sites.
It's now as if all the colour has gone from my life. It's tarnished with this disgusting blotch, where I've been so stupidly horny that I've had camsex with strangers off the internet. To be honest, I deserve whatever I get. I'd still do anything to get rid of the feelings I have now though: fear and anxiety but also the self-loathing. I feel as though I've let my family and friends down (even though they have no idea of course) and that I'm not "true" any more.
I don't even know what answers I'm gonna get or what answers I'm looking for. This is perhaps just a lament about my sad, sad situation. Anyone who's ever felt as bad please share with me, and give me some hope.
Thanks.