Sorry for the long thread, but there's a lot to get off my chest. I'm a second year student and I'm now living in student housing with three others. Thing is, I'm genuinely concerned about the mental health of one of them.
When I shared halls with this particular person last year, I held a brief conversation with his mother on the first day, in which she told me that he has Asperger's Syndrome and sometimes struggles with others. I was fine with that, as I too am an (albeit mild) AS sufferer. Indeed, he did come across as somewhat eccentric and socially awkward, but this was to be expected and wasn't anything out of the ordinary for a typical case of AS.
Anyway, fast forward a year and he's now living with us properly. Now we're sharing a house together and not just a kitchen, we're starting to become rather concerned. For the entire day, right through until the early hours of the morning, he either has his television at full blast or paces his room talking loudly to himself. We'd occasionally hear him if we went past his bedroom last year, but we all assumed he was online gaming and/or on the phone. Thing is, this started in the new house before we even had the internet set up. He'll be almost shouting at himself for hours on end. He's actually doing it right now, and has been doing it all day bar when he was at lectures. He kept me up until 4am (sometimes as late as 6am) shouting at himself, he was doing whilst showering and I saw him do it walking on the way to lectures (the latter two proving he's not on the phone either). Sometimes, he's actually holding full-on conversations as two people. The "characters" he voices appear from my room next door to be an angry, threatening man and a meek, frightened woman. These are LOUD and can be heard throughout the house at all hours, which means that he either has no idea that he's doing it, or doesn't care.
At first I assumed it was just simply a considerably worse case of AS than that of my own. Growing up, I always had the need to "flap" when I was in the privacy of my room. I'd often not realise quite how much I was doing it until afterwards. But these flaps were quite handy, as they would remove any stress and anxiety from my system for a while and I'd be able to immediately go downstairs and "be normal". So I assumed he just had a more vocal equivalent, but other more recent examples, such as marching around talking to himself outside, or last week when I went past him on the bus, and he was quite angrily shouting at a rather scared looking group of people from a distance.
Not only this, but he's quite evidently not coping. Last semester it grew worse and worse, eventually I discussed with disability services who said they'd arrange a meeting with him, but nothing has changed since. By the last few weeks of the first semester, his hair was greasy and long, he started to smell to the point it was immediately noticeable when he entered the room (and we don't recall ever him doing laundry), he was living on a diet of pizza every day for breakfast and dinner and pop-tarts for lunch, and had consequently gained a considerable amount of weight. After we never heard anything from disability services, we assumed his parents would see the state he was in and do something about it, but he's back here for the second semester unchanged.
We've tried beating around the bush by constructing a list of rules (that he also okayed), but making sure all the rules addressed what he was doing: eg; no loudness after 1am, turning gas and electricity off if not in use, flushing the chain after using the toilet, etc. He was fine with them but has never attempted to follow them. He never leaves his room and his only contact with us is either awkward hello's in the kitchen or, increasingly often, a case of him shouting at us for various things; for example receiving a final warning letter from the gas/electricity company when he was the only one of us yet to pay the bill, or more recently, for not letting him swap his burnt out bedroom light for the one in the kitchen (He couldn't fathom that having light in the kitchen is a necessity). Whenever we've directly approached him on an issue (and in the mildiest, softest way we could), for example his failure to turn lights off, he quite clearly couldn't cope with the slightest criticism, would stammer nonsensically and then run upstairs muttering, by the time he entered his room the muttering would be full-on shouting to himself.
Look, I'm not here to just complain about him, I bear him no ill will, but another housemate has become convinced that his problems are possibly considerably worse than what we've been told, and he's now being rather paranoid after he says he was awoken in the early hours a few days ago with coins being thrown at his door. Our other housemate was away at the time and it certainly wasn't me.
I actually feel quite guilty writing this, but what do you recommend we do in this situation? Let him off as just a guy with some issues? Contact someone? I really don't know, to be honest.