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Really worried about my future - please help

Hey I posted anonymously just to prevent anyone who knows me from knowing it's me.

I am a 25 year old male who's been dealing with anxiety since around age 17, although it started at a much younger age, it became a real issue around 17 due to my social expectations of a young adult, and being around friends and peers who move forward as a young person should.

I spent the past 5 or so years receiving various counselling sessions, solely CBT and the spectrum of SSRI medications, not wanting to move deeper into the medication trap I refuse to take anything other than SSRI's. I have benefited mildly from CBT in the short term, but I always eventually end up asking my doctor for help and the only choice of treatment is meds and CBT.

As time has gone on and at the age I am now, I feel further and further disconnected from society/a life I am comfortable with, and I sometimes think I am one of those weirdo's that 'normal people' instantly judge as 'strange'/'weird' but in my opinion I am just a loner who's not been in a social circle for a good few years, and can't find a way in, so I guess I am always on the outside looking in, if that makes sense.

A more embarrassing and shameful aspect of my anxiety is my tendency to view pornography, I just can't help it, I hate that I do it, but when I don't I become more and more irritable, and I am too ashamed to discuss it with anyone due to being judged as perverted, which I probably am. I am certain if I was able to receive help regarding my pornography viewing tendencies, I would be much more anxiety free, but CBT therapists I see don't have the skills to professionally deal with this, therefore I refuse to open up about it.
Your situation is becoming a worryingly common situation for people our age. I too am severely depressed (early 20's girl) and don't have a circle of friends I just move along and meet people then lose contact. It's a shame that society is such nowadays that there's pretty much a mental health epidemic and the MH services are ill equipt to deal with it at the moment.

From what you've said the friends aspect is getting you down can you join some kind of group?

Also there are methods of discussing yours issues with pornography anonymously. You could call one of the helplines on a blocked number and discuss it freely?
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Your situation is becoming a worryingly common situation for people our age. I too am severely depressed (early 20's girl) and don't have a circle of friends I just move along and meet people then lose contact. It's a shame that society is such nowadays that there's pretty much a mental health epidemic and the MH services are ill equipt to deal with it at the moment.

From what you've said the friends aspect is getting you down can you join some kind of group?

Also there are methods of discussing yours issues with pornography anonymously. You could call one of the helplines on a blocked number and discuss it freely?


Do you have any information regarding these numbers?
Original post by Anonymous
Do you have any information regarding these numbers?
You will have to do your own research of course but for now the main helplines are there for you whatever your problems. You can just explain your situation, they'll listen.

http://www.samaritans.org/how-we-can-help-you/contact-us

http://www.sane.org.uk/what_we_do/support/helpline

As far as consistent help is concerned if you want to pay private counselling/therapy Google search for you area and see what's available.

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