Im a 20 year old med student in my 3rd year at uni in sheffield. I am constantly dissatisfied with my life and have no friends, am completely isolated from my year group and live alone in halls (when I say alone I mean that my flatmates are all random international students). I have always battled with low self-esteem throughout life, and many of the 'friends' I made at the start of university have drifted away, formed their own friendship groups (which I am not part of) or have never given me a second thought. The only person I have is my girlfriend who I met online 3 months ago, and that I met in person for the first time a 2 month ago. She studies in liverpool so our relationship is long-distance (i spend two weekends a month with her), but she makes me one of the happiest guys around. The problem is that although I am falling in love with her, I am constantly paranoid about losing her and to make matters worse my family have told me that I should not be fully dependent on one person and that I need to meet new people and make new friends. However, I have just found this incredibly difficult to deal with and just cannot connect with new people and maintain a friendship with them.
On surface, I am this bubbly and friendly erosion but whenever i have tried I just fail to form a long-term friendship with the acquaintances i have. Especially on my course, everyone has long-established friendship groups which I am not part of. Although I enjoy my course, it is stressful as it is and I have nobody to talk to about how I feel apart from my girlfriend, with whom I feel I am a burden to her. I just don't want to come across as too negative a person to her, and a loser for not having any friends in the fear she will leave me. She is planning something for my 21st bday but I have nobody else to celebrate it with, and I am afraid of what she will think when finds out I have only celebrated with her.
I just don't know what to do, I have suffered from depression in the past and do not want to go down that road again. I just want to get through the next 2.5 years of med and return home to London!