No social life after uni
Hi, I recently graduated from university and I’ve had to move cities quite far from where I went to uni to start a new job. I’ve found it very difficult so far as I’m too far to meet friends regularly and have only met up at the odd weekend. For the rest of the week, I’ve pretty much gone to work and then gone home, sometimes going to the gym in the evenings. But this lack of a social life is beginning to get to me a little. My work colleagues are nice however as most have children there’s little interest in socialising at all. Any suggestions for what to do? Thanks
Could someone help? 
Just bumping this again
Can't say much since I havn't even gone to uni yet but try making friends online/going out to pubs/bars (not too sure about that one since I never been to one) if you've got the confidence for it. Its mostly having the confidence to start a conversation with a stranger. Probably not very helpful but having an online social life is way less isolating and lonely feeling than no social life. Play some games or join discord servers to find people.
Maybe look for some sort of hobby you could do locally where you might meet people
What job is it you do bud?
Original post by Anonymous
What job is it you do bud?
I work as an engineer for energy projects so I do spend quite a lot of time at remote locations
Original post by DHammond III
Maybe look for some sort of hobby you could do locally where you might meet people
Thanks for the suggestion, I will look into a sport club or something nearby. I guess another hurdle is persevering with it and attending regularly to get to know people
Original post by Ch707
Can't say much since I havn't even gone to uni yet but try making friends online/going out to pubs/bars (not too sure about that one since I never been to one) if you've got the confidence for it. Its mostly having the confidence to start a conversation with a stranger. Probably not very helpful but having an online social life is way less isolating and lonely feeling than no social life. Play some games or join discord servers to find people.
Well I do have a group of friends and we meet up and plan things together, have group chats etc its just that since I live so far from them it only happens once a month or so, though more around Christmas. Im not into gaming so not really looking for an online social life
(Original post by Anonymous)
I work as an engineer for energy projects so I do spend quite a lot of time at remote locations
(Original post by Anonymous)
I work as an engineer for energy projects so I do spend quite a lot of time at remote locations
That's a good job bro, maybe make friends with colleagues and see if they wanna go pub
or something
I work as an engineer for energy projects so I do spend quite a lot of time at remote locations
(Original post by Anonymous)
I work as an engineer for energy projects so I do spend quite a lot of time at remote locations
That's a good job bro, maybe make friends with colleagues and see if they wanna go pub
or something
Original post by Anonymous
Thanks for the suggestion, I will look into a sport club or something nearby. I guess another hurdle is persevering with it and attending regularly to get to know people
That's why it helps to find something you enjoy, and then hopefully the people you meet will have similar interests etc. Makes that part much easier. I've been thinking about taking up archery, there's a place not far from me.
Don’t know if this will help….
I’m ancient but had a similar position when I left uni a million years ago, pre-mobile phones and the internet.
I basically joined clubs. Lots of them. As a surveyor, the company I worked for played a lots of inter-company sports so I joined the hockey team. I didn't play hockey at school but gave it a go. I also had a PADI dive master so joined the local diving club. I also joined a rowing club and the local gym and did classes.
Some of these things I only went to a couple of times but it saw me through until I made friends.
Sound stupid now as I was never sporty but it was one of the only outlets, at the time, that lots and lots of people joined and went to from different backgrounds.
Things are a bit different now and you may find arts socials or choirs or whatever you’re in to through a web search.
Hope you find your tribe. It may take a bit of time but stick with it. Good luck 🍀
I’m ancient but had a similar position when I left uni a million years ago, pre-mobile phones and the internet.
I basically joined clubs. Lots of them. As a surveyor, the company I worked for played a lots of inter-company sports so I joined the hockey team. I didn't play hockey at school but gave it a go. I also had a PADI dive master so joined the local diving club. I also joined a rowing club and the local gym and did classes.
Some of these things I only went to a couple of times but it saw me through until I made friends.
Sound stupid now as I was never sporty but it was one of the only outlets, at the time, that lots and lots of people joined and went to from different backgrounds.
Things are a bit different now and you may find arts socials or choirs or whatever you’re in to through a web search.
Hope you find your tribe. It may take a bit of time but stick with it. Good luck 🍀
In the past few years most of the friends I have were friends of friends who became my friends (sometimes with me falling out with the og connector friend).
When you do have people to go with you i'd say go to bars and clubs if that still/ever interests you, one of the things I love the most about clubs is befriending/talking to randos in the smoking area
When you do have people to go with you i'd say go to bars and clubs if that still/ever interests you, one of the things I love the most about clubs is befriending/talking to randos in the smoking area
