Could this be a trauma response?
I am not an expert in psychology but I am thinking this behaviour is probably not normal.
I am a university student and I live with my parents. I am an emotional person in general, but it typically takes a lot to ruin my day or even an hour. I can tear up when I am happy or sad, but it passes as fast as it comes.
My dad raising his voice at me makes me a mess for hours. Today he told me off for making a mess everywhere, I think his comments were fully justified as well, yet I have been throwing up and crying all day. I haven’t been able to compose myself at all, I haven’t even been able to clean up my mess because I am just too weak from starving myself for over 24 hours. My mum has offered me food but I just can’t imagine eating right now. Even when my dad raises his voice at my siblings, I would often need to leave the room and sob for a bit. It doesn’t matter how much I agree with what he is saying. I know he won’t do anything to harm me physically and yet I am terrified of him. I am an adult woman and I hate how my dad has so much control over my emotions. I am messy, yes, I don’t think it’s fair on other people in the house, so if anyone else had told me to, I’d fix it without question. I know it’s something I need to work but being reminded in a civil way can go a long way for me. I think my dad could have been kinder about it, but my reaction is completely out of proportion too. This is just an example of what has happened today, but this is how it usually goes when my dad gets angry. I become a complete non functioning mess.
I am a university student and I live with my parents. I am an emotional person in general, but it typically takes a lot to ruin my day or even an hour. I can tear up when I am happy or sad, but it passes as fast as it comes.
My dad raising his voice at me makes me a mess for hours. Today he told me off for making a mess everywhere, I think his comments were fully justified as well, yet I have been throwing up and crying all day. I haven’t been able to compose myself at all, I haven’t even been able to clean up my mess because I am just too weak from starving myself for over 24 hours. My mum has offered me food but I just can’t imagine eating right now. Even when my dad raises his voice at my siblings, I would often need to leave the room and sob for a bit. It doesn’t matter how much I agree with what he is saying. I know he won’t do anything to harm me physically and yet I am terrified of him. I am an adult woman and I hate how my dad has so much control over my emotions. I am messy, yes, I don’t think it’s fair on other people in the house, so if anyone else had told me to, I’d fix it without question. I know it’s something I need to work but being reminded in a civil way can go a long way for me. I think my dad could have been kinder about it, but my reaction is completely out of proportion too. This is just an example of what has happened today, but this is how it usually goes when my dad gets angry. I become a complete non functioning mess.
Original post by Anonymous
I am not an expert in psychology but I am thinking this behaviour is probably not normal.
I am a university student and I live with my parents. I am an emotional person in general, but it typically takes a lot to ruin my day or even an hour. I can tear up when I am happy or sad, but it passes as fast as it comes.
My dad raising his voice at me makes me a mess for hours. Today he told me off for making a mess everywhere, I think his comments were fully justified as well, yet I have been throwing up and crying all day. I haven’t been able to compose myself at all, I haven’t even been able to clean up my mess because I am just too weak from starving myself for over 24 hours. My mum has offered me food but I just can’t imagine eating right now. Even when my dad raises his voice at my siblings, I would often need to leave the room and sob for a bit. It doesn’t matter how much I agree with what he is saying. I know he won’t do anything to harm me physically and yet I am terrified of him. I am an adult woman and I hate how my dad has so much control over my emotions. I am messy, yes, I don’t think it’s fair on other people in the house, so if anyone else had told me to, I’d fix it without question. I know it’s something I need to work but being reminded in a civil way can go a long way for me. I think my dad could have been kinder about it, but my reaction is completely out of proportion too. This is just an example of what has happened today, but this is how it usually goes when my dad gets angry. I become a complete non functioning mess.
I am a university student and I live with my parents. I am an emotional person in general, but it typically takes a lot to ruin my day or even an hour. I can tear up when I am happy or sad, but it passes as fast as it comes.
My dad raising his voice at me makes me a mess for hours. Today he told me off for making a mess everywhere, I think his comments were fully justified as well, yet I have been throwing up and crying all day. I haven’t been able to compose myself at all, I haven’t even been able to clean up my mess because I am just too weak from starving myself for over 24 hours. My mum has offered me food but I just can’t imagine eating right now. Even when my dad raises his voice at my siblings, I would often need to leave the room and sob for a bit. It doesn’t matter how much I agree with what he is saying. I know he won’t do anything to harm me physically and yet I am terrified of him. I am an adult woman and I hate how my dad has so much control over my emotions. I am messy, yes, I don’t think it’s fair on other people in the house, so if anyone else had told me to, I’d fix it without question. I know it’s something I need to work but being reminded in a civil way can go a long way for me. I think my dad could have been kinder about it, but my reaction is completely out of proportion too. This is just an example of what has happened today, but this is how it usually goes when my dad gets angry. I become a complete non functioning mess.
The situation warrants counselling. If you are ever in a situation where you have quite a bit of difficulty mentally coping, you should see a counsellor.
Whilst the symptoms may seem traumatic, we cannot give a professional diagnosis (for obvious reasons). Only a therapist can offer you a diagnosis.
Original post by Anonymous
I am not an expert in psychology but I am thinking this behaviour is probably not normal.
I am a university student and I live with my parents. I am an emotional person in general, but it typically takes a lot to ruin my day or even an hour. I can tear up when I am happy or sad, but it passes as fast as it comes.
My dad raising his voice at me makes me a mess for hours. Today he told me off for making a mess everywhere, I think his comments were fully justified as well, yet I have been throwing up and crying all day. I haven’t been able to compose myself at all, I haven’t even been able to clean up my mess because I am just too weak from starving myself for over 24 hours. My mum has offered me food but I just can’t imagine eating right now. Even when my dad raises his voice at my siblings, I would often need to leave the room and sob for a bit. It doesn’t matter how much I agree with what he is saying. I know he won’t do anything to harm me physically and yet I am terrified of him. I am an adult woman and I hate how my dad has so much control over my emotions. I am messy, yes, I don’t think it’s fair on other people in the house, so if anyone else had told me to, I’d fix it without question. I know it’s something I need to work but being reminded in a civil way can go a long way for me. I think my dad could have been kinder about it, but my reaction is completely out of proportion too. This is just an example of what has happened today, but this is how it usually goes when my dad gets angry. I become a complete non functioning mess.
I am a university student and I live with my parents. I am an emotional person in general, but it typically takes a lot to ruin my day or even an hour. I can tear up when I am happy or sad, but it passes as fast as it comes.
My dad raising his voice at me makes me a mess for hours. Today he told me off for making a mess everywhere, I think his comments were fully justified as well, yet I have been throwing up and crying all day. I haven’t been able to compose myself at all, I haven’t even been able to clean up my mess because I am just too weak from starving myself for over 24 hours. My mum has offered me food but I just can’t imagine eating right now. Even when my dad raises his voice at my siblings, I would often need to leave the room and sob for a bit. It doesn’t matter how much I agree with what he is saying. I know he won’t do anything to harm me physically and yet I am terrified of him. I am an adult woman and I hate how my dad has so much control over my emotions. I am messy, yes, I don’t think it’s fair on other people in the house, so if anyone else had told me to, I’d fix it without question. I know it’s something I need to work but being reminded in a civil way can go a long way for me. I think my dad could have been kinder about it, but my reaction is completely out of proportion too. This is just an example of what has happened today, but this is how it usually goes when my dad gets angry. I become a complete non functioning mess.
It could be a trauma response... is there a history of this type of behaviour from your dad? Any memories that come to mind when he raises his voice at you? What kind of thoughts go through your head when it happens? What kind of thoughts do you have about yourself at these times?
I cry sometimes if I'm being 'told off', but for me I think I just hate conflict and confrontation - it makes me feel like I've done something wrong, that others don't like me, that I'm failing in some way, so for me it's probably more of a self-esteem issue than anything else.
Examining your thoughts can give you an insight into what's going on, so it could be worth thinking about.
