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Original post by kka25
Take your time 
Go have a big rest and come back and meet us here
You didn't do anything wrong. You have to be firm with that, especially to yourself.
Good on you to stand up for yourself and you were even kind enough to be polite about it. I do not know what you did after that (something happened?
), but what has happened, has happened. It's ok. Just smile at them, and move on. Show them that you're better then them and you're above with what has happened.
Go have a big rest and come back and meet us here
You didn't do anything wrong. You have to be firm with that, especially to yourself.
Good on you to stand up for yourself and you were even kind enough to be polite about it. I do not know what you did after that (something happened?
), but what has happened, has happened. It's ok. Just smile at them, and move on. Show them that you're better then them and you're above with what has happened. You're lovely as always.
Hope you're doing ok.
Original post by superwolf
You're lovely as always.
Hope you're doing ok.
Hope you're doing ok.
I'm reading one of TotoMimos's food threads, and I'm on a diet.
Spoiler
Original post by superwolf
Got a few posts I want to reply to, but I'm feeling pretty **** about something that happened last night, so for now I'll just post about that and reply to other people later.
Two of my flatmates came into the kitchen last night (drunk) and without any provocation started having a go at me. They told me off for using other peoples saucepans and stuff (which I'd made sure to have general permission for, and I always leave stuff in good condition/washed up). Then they started accusing me about stuff like stealing people's food (I have no desire to live off of their pot noodles), and saying weird things like that it was indecent for me to be wearing a towel in the kitchen.
I tried to be reasonable for as long as I could, apologised various times for anything I'd done wrong (which wasn't much), and basically just tried to get them to leave me alone but they just kept pushing me and pushing me. I then did something pretty stupid (don't wanna say what
), which I admit put me in the wrong too, but apart from that I don't see why they attacked me at all. If they had a problem they could have just told me that calmly when they were sober and I would have listened to them, instead of attacking me and making me feel like ****. 
I now don't know where I stand with my other flatmates - I didn't think any of the others had a problem with me (they've always seemed friendly enough), but some of them are very cliquey with each other, and I wouldn't be surprised if they ganged up on me further.
Whole thing's left me feeling like ****.
Two of my flatmates came into the kitchen last night (drunk) and without any provocation started having a go at me. They told me off for using other peoples saucepans and stuff (which I'd made sure to have general permission for, and I always leave stuff in good condition/washed up). Then they started accusing me about stuff like stealing people's food (I have no desire to live off of their pot noodles), and saying weird things like that it was indecent for me to be wearing a towel in the kitchen.
I tried to be reasonable for as long as I could, apologised various times for anything I'd done wrong (which wasn't much), and basically just tried to get them to leave me alone but they just kept pushing me and pushing me. I then did something pretty stupid (don't wanna say what
), which I admit put me in the wrong too, but apart from that I don't see why they attacked me at all. If they had a problem they could have just told me that calmly when they were sober and I would have listened to them, instead of attacking me and making me feel like ****. I now don't know where I stand with my other flatmates - I didn't think any of the others had a problem with me (they've always seemed friendly enough), but some of them are very cliquey with each other, and I wouldn't be surprised if they ganged up on me further.
Whole thing's left me feeling like ****.
People suck!
Maybe they were just drunk and boisterous and spoiling for someone to argue with? Sometimes drunk people are like that. In my first year there was a guy who'd go out and get hammered and then come back and start blazing rows with whoever he saw when he got back in. Once he sobered up the next day he was nice as pie again, just one of those people that gets angry on alcohol.
You might find the alcohol just made them needlessly aggressive and they'll back to their old selves once sober. If they continue being aggressive just make a formal complaint against them for bullying and intimidation
Original post by fire2burn
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Original post by angelbones
I didn't even make it out last night. I knew it would be a bad idea to drink with the tablets I'm on at the moment (just anti-inflammatories because I tore ligaments in my ankle).
A girl upstairs found me asleep on her landing at midnight with an empty bottle of wine next to me, and then I had to bum-shuffle down the stairs to my flat, got broken glass in my hand, somehow got to bed, and woke up this morning with a monster hangover.
Also I apparently had a long text conversation with my friend about wanting to kill myself.
Good night, then. ****'s sake.
A girl upstairs found me asleep on her landing at midnight with an empty bottle of wine next to me, and then I had to bum-shuffle down the stairs to my flat, got broken glass in my hand, somehow got to bed, and woke up this morning with a monster hangover.
Also I apparently had a long text conversation with my friend about wanting to kill myself.
Good night, then. ****'s sake.
I'm sorry but that made me giggle... and reminded me of the time I got incredibly drunk in halls, ran away from all my flatmates around the labyrinth of our block and ended up on the top floor sobbing my heart out so hard they called my BF back from his night out to come and calm me down. Cos I think I was threatening to jump off the stairs or something - would've just broken or twisted my ankles but it was still ****ing dumb. Ahh. I kinda see now why they didn't like me so much...
Original post by superwolf
Got a few posts I want to reply to, but I'm feeling pretty **** about something that happened last night, so for now I'll just post about that and reply to other people later.
Two of my flatmates came into the kitchen last night (drunk) and without any provocation started having a go at me. They told me off for using other peoples saucepans and stuff (which I'd made sure to have general permission for, and I always leave stuff in good condition/washed up). Then they started accusing me about stuff like stealing people's food (I have no desire to live off of their pot noodles), and saying weird things like that it was indecent for me to be wearing a towel in the kitchen.
I tried to be reasonable for as long as I could, apologised various times for anything I'd done wrong (which wasn't much), and basically just tried to get them to leave me alone but they just kept pushing me and pushing me. I then did something pretty stupid (don't wanna say what), which I admit put me in the wrong too, but apart from that I don't see why they attacked me at all. If they had a problem they could have just told me that calmly when they were sober and I would have listened to them, instead of attacking me and making me feel like ****.
I now don't know where I stand with my other flatmates - I didn't think any of the others had a problem with me (they've always seemed friendly enough), but some of them are very cliquey with each other, and I wouldn't be surprised if they ganged up on me further.
Whole thing's left me feeling like ****.
Two of my flatmates came into the kitchen last night (drunk) and without any provocation started having a go at me. They told me off for using other peoples saucepans and stuff (which I'd made sure to have general permission for, and I always leave stuff in good condition/washed up). Then they started accusing me about stuff like stealing people's food (I have no desire to live off of their pot noodles), and saying weird things like that it was indecent for me to be wearing a towel in the kitchen.
I tried to be reasonable for as long as I could, apologised various times for anything I'd done wrong (which wasn't much), and basically just tried to get them to leave me alone but they just kept pushing me and pushing me. I then did something pretty stupid (don't wanna say what
), which I admit put me in the wrong too, but apart from that I don't see why they attacked me at all. If they had a problem they could have just told me that calmly when they were sober and I would have listened to them, instead of attacking me and making me feel like ****. I now don't know where I stand with my other flatmates - I didn't think any of the others had a problem with me (they've always seemed friendly enough), but some of them are very cliquey with each other, and I wouldn't be surprised if they ganged up on me further.
Whole thing's left me feeling like ****.
Depends what you did tbh... but they had no right to start attacking you. Would a talk with them individually when they're sober help?
Original post by kka25
A diet? But... cake!
Maybe you could pretend to be a happy little bunny, and eat only rabbit food. I'm afraid that that's as far as my knowledge of dieting extends. Original post by fire2burn
People suck!
Maybe they were just drunk and boisterous and spoiling for someone to argue with? Sometimes drunk people are like that. In my first year there was a guy who'd go out and get hammered and then come back and start blazing rows with whoever he saw when he got back in. Once he sobered up the next day he was nice as pie again, just one of those people that gets angry on alcohol.
You might find the alcohol just made them needlessly aggressive and they'll back to their old selves once sober. If they continue being aggressive just make a formal complaint against them for bullying and intimidation
Maybe they were just drunk and boisterous and spoiling for someone to argue with? Sometimes drunk people are like that. In my first year there was a guy who'd go out and get hammered and then come back and start blazing rows with whoever he saw when he got back in. Once he sobered up the next day he was nice as pie again, just one of those people that gets angry on alcohol.
You might find the alcohol just made them needlessly aggressive and they'll back to their old selves once sober. If they continue being aggressive just make a formal complaint against them for bullying and intimidation
They really do.
Comrade Stalin had all the best ideas.Yeah, it did seem like they'd just had a **** night out, and were taking it out on me (although equally, they've been giving me dirty looks for weeks - they must have rumbled that I'm mentally ****ed
).Me and my friend have made detailed notes of everything that happened, in case we want to report it later. The only problem is that what I did in retaliation may have been slightly illegal...
Original post by kiss_me_now9
Depends what you did tbh... but they had no right to start attacking you. Would a talk with them individually when they're sober help?
It was something really, really stupid.
However if nothing comes of it I'm sure I'll look back in later years and find the whole thing hilarious.I'll see how they react when I next see them - I'm willing to accept their apology if they're willing to do the same to mine.
Ok, I'm posting this on my phone because I can't get to a computer at the moment. Hopefully it will get through alright, but we all know how crappy phones are with tsr.
Anyway, I'm at college at the moment. Got through biology, somhow. None of my friends are here because of the snow, I barely managed to get in. I just bought a cup of coffee, the highlight of my day at the moment, and the girl serving ordered in a copy of the telegraph specifically for me. That was really nice and somewhat mitigates how I'm feeling.
For the most part, I feel completely and utterly ****. I just want to go home and cry. I don't know where this is coming from. I felt fine this morning. Maybe the exhaustion is finally catching up with me. Been living on about two hours of sleep for the last 10 or so days due to the sheer volume of work I've been given. Any help to get through today would be much appreciated. I hope that you're all well.
Chris
Holy **** it worked
Original post by Chrisofsmeg
Ok, I'm posting this on my phone because I can't get to a computer at the moment. Hopefully it will get through alright, but we all know how crappy phones are with tsr.
Anyway, I'm at college at the moment. Got through biology, somhow. None of my friends are here because of the snow, I barely managed to get in. I just bought a cup of coffee, the highlight of my day at the moment, and the girl serving ordered in a copy of the telegraph specifically for me. That was really nice and somewhat mitigates how I'm feeling.
For the most part, I feel completely and utterly ****. I just want to go home and cry. I don't know where this is coming from. I felt fine this morning. Maybe the exhaustion is finally catching up with me. Been living on about two hours of sleep for the last 10 or so days due to the sheer volume of work I've been given. Any help to get through today would be much appreciated. I hope that you're all well.
Chris
Anyway, I'm at college at the moment. Got through biology, somhow. None of my friends are here because of the snow, I barely managed to get in. I just bought a cup of coffee, the highlight of my day at the moment, and the girl serving ordered in a copy of the telegraph specifically for me. That was really nice and somewhat mitigates how I'm feeling.
For the most part, I feel completely and utterly ****. I just want to go home and cry. I don't know where this is coming from. I felt fine this morning. Maybe the exhaustion is finally catching up with me. Been living on about two hours of sleep for the last 10 or so days due to the sheer volume of work I've been given. Any help to get through today would be much appreciated. I hope that you're all well.
Chris
lol I did something similar with my eReader. Tried surfing TSR and it worked; but it was a bit hard posting something using the reader =/
Coffee
Is there anyone there that could keep you company? Or talk to? Do you still have classes after this?
Have had lunch? Here, have a bite of my
Original post by superwolf
Got a few posts I want to reply to, but I'm feeling pretty **** about something that happened last night, so for now I'll just post about that and reply to other people later.
Two of my flatmates came into the kitchen last night (drunk) and without any provocation started having a go at me. They told me off for using other peoples saucepans and stuff (which I'd made sure to have general permission for, and I always leave stuff in good condition/washed up). Then they started accusing me about stuff like stealing people's food (I have no desire to live off of their pot noodles), and saying weird things like that it was indecent for me to be wearing a towel in the kitchen.
I tried to be reasonable for as long as I could, apologised various times for anything I'd done wrong (which wasn't much), and basically just tried to get them to leave me alone but they just kept pushing me and pushing me. I then did something pretty stupid (don't wanna say what), which I admit put me in the wrong too, but apart from that I don't see why they attacked me at all. If they had a problem they could have just told me that calmly when they were sober and I would have listened to them, instead of attacking me and making me feel like ****.
I now don't know where I stand with my other flatmates - I didn't think any of the others had a problem with me (they've always seemed friendly enough), but some of them are very cliquey with each other, and I wouldn't be surprised if they ganged up on me further.
Whole thing's left me feeling like ****.
Two of my flatmates came into the kitchen last night (drunk) and without any provocation started having a go at me. They told me off for using other peoples saucepans and stuff (which I'd made sure to have general permission for, and I always leave stuff in good condition/washed up). Then they started accusing me about stuff like stealing people's food (I have no desire to live off of their pot noodles), and saying weird things like that it was indecent for me to be wearing a towel in the kitchen.
I tried to be reasonable for as long as I could, apologised various times for anything I'd done wrong (which wasn't much), and basically just tried to get them to leave me alone but they just kept pushing me and pushing me. I then did something pretty stupid (don't wanna say what
), which I admit put me in the wrong too, but apart from that I don't see why they attacked me at all. If they had a problem they could have just told me that calmly when they were sober and I would have listened to them, instead of attacking me and making me feel like ****. I now don't know where I stand with my other flatmates - I didn't think any of the others had a problem with me (they've always seemed friendly enough), but some of them are very cliquey with each other, and I wouldn't be surprised if they ganged up on me further.
Whole thing's left me feeling like ****.
I knew they were *****, told ya.
If what you did was illegal I wouldn't worry too much, they were drunk and probably didn't care all that much and they did push you to start with. It sounds like a really **** situation, but also like they were just drunk and saw an opportunity. Drunk people do really stupid **** sometimes and I think it speaks volumes that they didn't have the guts to confront you sober over the fact they did have a problem.
Also wtf stealing their food? Yeah jacket potatoes and soup sounds amazing
Original post by bullettheory
Could your doctors not even provide a provisional diagnosis, or do you have one already?
I actually haven't finished registering yet, the day I went was the one day of the week they don't let you so I still have the half-finished form. It was the psychiatrist that wrote the diagnosis though, and I'd have thought they'd trust him over a GP because of his job title sounding more serious and that
Original post by Sabertooth
Also wtf stealing their food? Yeah jacket potatoes and soup sounds amazing
Also wtf stealing their food? Yeah jacket potatoes and soup sounds amazing
Jacket potato with tuna
I really don't know what I am supposed to do here, nothing ever works, I feel better for a short time at best and then same old **** mood and **** feelings, if nothing works and nothing ever changes then why the **** should I bother, people only pretend to care as well, most of the people I know would barely care if I died, they would pretend to, but none of them actually give a ****, im not stupid, I know how this works by now, words are nothing more than a few empty lines you read in a book somewhere that you think are what you should say now, you can tell when people actually care because it shows in the way they behave, just as I can tell that people don't care because of how they behave. nothing changes.
Once again, I've slept in past midday. I feel like ****. So I'm going to sit here and eat cookies and forget that I'm meant to be on a diet and just hate myself a little bit more.
And I really really REALLY WANT A ****ING CIGARETTE.
And I really really REALLY WANT A ****ING CIGARETTE.
Original post by affinity89
Thought I would post here, for the first time.
Having a very low time - have been for months.
Not sleeping. Not eating. Crying all the time.
I know the cause - my course. I am just not very good when it comes to classroom management and the constant negative feedback and people saying they "concerns" about it is doing nothing for my confidence. I dread going in on placement and I am desperate to leave. I have been since before the course even started. However, I am also scared to leave - I don't know what else I will do. And, there are some pretty serious financial implications, which I don't think I could find a way around.
So, I am pretty much stuck in this cycle.
Over tired. Off my food. Stressed on my course. Crying all the time... :/
Having a very low time - have been for months.
Not sleeping. Not eating. Crying all the time.
I know the cause - my course. I am just not very good when it comes to classroom management and the constant negative feedback and people saying they "concerns" about it is doing nothing for my confidence. I dread going in on placement and I am desperate to leave. I have been since before the course even started. However, I am also scared to leave - I don't know what else I will do. And, there are some pretty serious financial implications, which I don't think I could find a way around.
So, I am pretty much stuck in this cycle.
Over tired. Off my food. Stressed on my course. Crying all the time... :/
Welcome to the society.
I take it it's teaching you're doing? I've done a small amount of teaching (TEFL), and I wasn't that good at classroom management either. You do get better though. I think it takes time to work out what techniques work for you, but I found that making the classes interesting and developing a good rapport with the students can go a long way, even if you don't have the natural authority that some teachers have (plus remember - they've probably been doing it for years).
Have you talked to your uni/college about your concerns? They might be able to do something extra to help you, or even postpone your placement til you're more ready (if you think that would help rather than just delay the problem).
Original post by bullettheory
A joke at the socialists/communists expense is always good (sorry socialist/communist people)
(sorry socialist/communist people)You should try studying Russian - it's one epic joke after another.
Original post by avhhs
Hello everyone. Is it ok if I join?
I am 17 years old and currently studying AS Levels. I am autistic and unfortunately many of the problems i'm having stem from there. I feel very isolated and lonely at times, due to not having a social life because of a lack of confidence (and I believe that my parents played a major part in this due to their overly strict atttiudes). I don't have many friends, and most of them are girls . Because of this, I have trouble understanding their feelings, and end up being "clingy" and upset them, especially when they are busy and can't talk to me. Right now both of them won't talk to me - both were busy, and I kept texting them, and both got angry. One of them is extremely popular. The worrying thing is, 5 years ago this week, something similar happened, again with a girl. I was only in Year 7 then . And when i'm upset, I start being negative about everything, rude, and dont want to see anyone. I can't concentrate on my studies, and I am beginning to miss homework and get low grades. Sometimes I feel like giving up and looking for a full-time job.
I am not on medication, but have started counselling. I did feel suicidal a little while back, and ran away from home. One thing I have noticed that does help however, is going out by myself on trains or buses (as I have an interest in them ). Sometimes I just wish I was normal.
So hello again, and sorry for the extra long post .
I am 17 years old and currently studying AS Levels. I am autistic and unfortunately many of the problems i'm having stem from there. I feel very isolated and lonely at times, due to not having a social life because of a lack of confidence (and I believe that my parents played a major part in this due to their overly strict atttiudes). I don't have many friends, and most of them are girls
. Because of this, I have trouble understanding their feelings, and end up being "clingy" and upset them, especially when they are busy and can't talk to me. Right now both of them won't talk to me - both were busy, and I kept texting them, and both got angry. One of them is extremely popular. The worrying thing is, 5 years ago this week, something similar happened, again with a girl. I was only in Year 7 then . And when i'm upset, I start being negative about everything, rude, and dont want to see anyone. I can't concentrate on my studies, and I am beginning to miss homework and get low grades. Sometimes I feel like giving up and looking for a full-time job.I am not on medication, but have started counselling. I did feel suicidal a little while back, and ran away from home. One thing I have noticed that does help however, is going out by myself on trains or buses (as I have an interest in them
). Sometimes I just wish I was normal.So hello again, and sorry for the extra long post
.Welcome to you too.
Would it help if you asked your friends to be more honest, and tell you directly when you're annoying them or getting in their way? I'm sure autism does make these things more difficult, but perhaps you could teach yourself to recognise at least some of the more obvious social clues (help from your friends would be useful here). You've still managed to make friends, so chances are you're a pretty decent person even if you do have some insensitivities.
Hope the counselling helps.
Original post by Anonymous
Hi
over the past month or so i've begun to believe that i am suffering with depression, i've looked at all the symptoms and nearly all of them i can say i've had within the past couple of weeks (every day in most cases) and i've done a few tests online (which i know by no means can be classed as a diagnosis) and these tests have all suggested i have severe depression but I don't know what to do now. I haven't been going to college for a couple of weeks or taking care of myself much, small things such as getting out of bed or even having a shower seem like the biggest effort and I don't have any family nearby or any friends I can talk to. If you have any advice at all, I'd really appreciate it.
over the past month or so i've begun to believe that i am suffering with depression, i've looked at all the symptoms and nearly all of them i can say i've had within the past couple of weeks (every day in most cases) and i've done a few tests online (which i know by no means can be classed as a diagnosis) and these tests have all suggested i have severe depression but I don't know what to do now. I haven't been going to college for a couple of weeks or taking care of myself much, small things such as getting out of bed or even having a shower seem like the biggest effort and I don't have any family nearby or any friends I can talk to. If you have any advice at all, I'd really appreciate it.
I agree with Saber - seeing a doctor is a good first step. It does sound like you've got good reason to seek help, and hopefully your GP will be able to set you on the right path to feeling alright again.
Original post by Sabertooth
I knew they were *****, told ya.
If what you did was illegal I wouldn't worry too much, they were drunk and probably didn't care all that much and they did push you to start with. It sounds like a really **** situation, but also like they were just drunk and saw an opportunity. Drunk people do really stupid **** sometimes and I think it speaks volumes that they didn't have the guts to confront you sober over the fact they did have a problem.
Also wtf stealing their food? Yeah jacket potatoes and soup sounds amazing
If what you did was illegal I wouldn't worry too much, they were drunk and probably didn't care all that much and they did push you to start with. It sounds like a really **** situation, but also like they were just drunk and saw an opportunity. Drunk people do really stupid **** sometimes and I think it speaks volumes that they didn't have the guts to confront you sober over the fact they did have a problem.
Also wtf stealing their food? Yeah jacket potatoes and soup sounds amazing
All hail Sabertooth, prescient god of misanthropy!
This is very true. I might just go about my business completely as normal and see if any of them has the balls to say anything to me.
I know.
Like I'd touch the crap that they eat (got some ribs from the supermarket yesterday 
)
This ****ing paranoia is getting out of hand. Can't even go to sainsburys without having panic attack that I'm being spied on. FFS!
Original post by Noodlzzz
This ****ing paranoia is getting out of hand. Can't even go to sainsburys without having panic attack that I'm being spied on. FFS!
What are they doing about this hun?
Original post by affinity89
Thought I would post here, for the first time.
Having a very low time - have been for months.
Not sleeping. Not eating. Crying all the time.
I know the cause - my course. I am just not very good when it comes to classroom management and the constant negative feedback and people saying they "concerns" about it is doing nothing for my confidence. I dread going in on placement and I am desperate to leave. I have been since before the course even started. However, I am also scared to leave - I don't know what else I will do. And, there are some pretty serious financial implications, which I don't think I could find a way around.
So, I am pretty much stuck in this cycle.
Over tired. Off my food. Stressed on my course. Crying all the time... :/
Having a very low time - have been for months.
Not sleeping. Not eating. Crying all the time.
I know the cause - my course. I am just not very good when it comes to classroom management and the constant negative feedback and people saying they "concerns" about it is doing nothing for my confidence. I dread going in on placement and I am desperate to leave. I have been since before the course even started. However, I am also scared to leave - I don't know what else I will do. And, there are some pretty serious financial implications, which I don't think I could find a way around.
So, I am pretty much stuck in this cycle.
Over tired. Off my food. Stressed on my course. Crying all the time... :/
Hi there, as a previous drop out I know it's scary but if you're really this affected by your course then it may be something you need to consider. First - how much do you want to be a teacher? Don't think about what you'd do if you weren't or the money or anything, just purely ask yourself how much do you, yourself, want this to work out?
What do you find hard about classroom management? Is there anyway you can get extra practice in and improve your skills? I know that a lot of teaching is innate and how you get along with the kids but at the end of the day you wouldn't be on a PGCE if you weren't good enough
Original post by Sabertooth
Yeah, will do. I know you have to push for everything. I can imagine them saying "lessons will be learnt" if I left it weeks and went blind or something. Found out today I have actually been referred to a psychiatrist so hopefully that'll be soon as well.
Excellent, hopefully the start of things going well
Original post by ViceVersa
Oh..yeah I get that actually. What about teachers?
What about teachers?Haven't much experience with teachers, as I hid it from almost everyone back then, but university lecturers I have found to be a lot more supporting, and have even had some of them take a genuine interest that I am ok (without being pushy) - which I thought was nice of the ones in question. Certainly worth it with me telling my uni (and them telling my lecturers).
Original post by kka25
But the wolf needs to see a dentist first! Then she can bite all she wants 
She has an appointment, first step to being able to bite with 100% efficiency!
Original post by ormaybeitsjustnarcissism
DSA application got rejected because of 'unclear diagnosis' so now can't have one-to-one mentoring at uni. Given that now I'm missing lectures to clean up my trashed room, they probably wouldn't be so confused as to what 'emotionally unstable' means if they could see me
What evidence did you submit to your support your application? Can you appeal with adding an extra note from a disability support worker / GP / psych / etc saying that DSA would be important for you so you can get mentoring, which is needed by your condition.
