Hi, sorry in advance for the long post.
I've been with my boyfriend for a few years, and was aware of his mental health problems (although perhaps not the full extent) before we got together. During our relationship he suffered from quite a bad episode, and is subsequently on quite a high dose of antidepressants.
For various reasons, we had not slept together before this happened, but probably would have in the near future.
It has now been a couple of years since that happened and we are slowly trying to put things back together. I am immensely proud of how well he has coped, and have no doubts that he is the person I want to be with. However, I am struggling with the fact these drugs leave him with no sex drive. We have talked and been honest with each other about this, and things have slowly progressed to the point where we have had sex a couple of times.
My issue is that it is me that has to initiate anything and I often get turned down. I know he gets no pleasure from it emotionally, and I am left feeling like I am pestering him - like he is only doing it for my benefit. I am very lucky that we are open about it, but at the same time, I am conscious that I don't want to bring it up constantly.
He has told me he is attracted to me, and that he is fed up that the drugs just take away all the desire even though the physical aspect still works. I am a bit worried about what this means for us if he has to be on these drugs permanently as I don't want to give up but at the same time in 10 years time I don't want to come to resent him for it.
I guess I am just turning to TSR to see if there is anything I can do to help him, apart from waiting?
TLDR: Boyfriend on antidepressants has lack of sex drive, how can I help him?