Does mainstream porn really represent the desires of men?

I know.

I was doing a PSA on the awful book, but it wasn't directed to you, hence not quoting you in.

I do agree with you, in both the sentiment you're expressing and that people seem to have misunderstood it. It's very good that you're aware of this side of porn. Unfortunately, there's not a whole lot to do - this won't change in our generation, because porn wiggles its way into loopholes of morality, and by using the kink as an excuse there's no real reprieve.

Erm BDSM means dominance/submission role-playing..
I know how prevalent porn is among women. That was one of the reasons for my post. I wonder how women react when they see very violent images of sexual acts towards women on these sites and whether it colours their view of what men like to watch, since porn-producers seem to direct the porn at male consumers, which is a bit stupid in my opinion since you're right in saying that so many women watch porn.

All the adverts on porn sites are usually extreme, to get people curious. The actual content of generic porn tube sites doesn't tend to be quite as violent/extreme. In fact, most porn is pretty dull and usually consists of a scantily clad girl dancing around for a bit and then having sex with a guy for ages, with not much else going on. Sure it doesn't represent real sex but it's not supposed to. Porn is predominantly aimed at men who are visual creatures by nature, the get turned on by an exaggerated portrayal of what sex actually looks like.

As a woman who has watched some pretty horrific porn in my time, I don't suddenly think that's what men want. I know it's just acting. Like people who watch action movies don't secretly want to buy a gun and go around shooting people.

In our generation, perhaps the damage has been done and recognised, and hopefully once women and men get into real relationships, they can recognise the difference between porn desires and real desires. I was planning to set up a change.org petition and try and get the attention of some of the main porn sites and get them to explain their choice of adverts and who exactly they're aimed at (looks like abusive men who are bordering on being paeophiles in my opinion, which I hope are not the majority of men). Those sorts of images should be seriously disturbing and would be to the older generation, so why are we so quick to dismiss them as a bit of kink?

It represents what men want to see, not necessarily what they want to do themselves. There's a big difference. A lot of people disagree that mainstream porn is what we want to see, and would argue that porn is simply brainwashing men into liking these things. Which seems like a ridiculous idea if you think about it. I mean, some kind of secret agreement between every porn company to make men obsessed with anal? Come on.

Porn producers want to get as many people as possible to watch and pay for their porn. And with the advent of the Internet, getting feedback on what viewers like is easier than ever. View counts, upvote/downvote functionality, tracking, analytics software, etc. So they continue to produce the porn that generates the most views and the most positive feedback. It's simple supply and demand.

So yeah, if you want to know what men like fapping to, go to any porn site and look at the "Most Popular" page. From what I've seen, most of it is pretty tame.

They are catering to the taste of those already viewing, but what about those who are watching porn for the first time? If porn is taking up the role of educating young people about sex, they should take some corporate responsibility; put some information about consent on there, explain steps to take if you want to try anal for the first time, explain the different between fantasy and reality.

There's often a page which requires you to certify you are over the age of 18 prior to entering the site. Education is the responsibly of parents and schools, not the porn industry.

Besides, if you don't even know how to google "anal sex tips". You probably shouldn't be having anal sex.
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Haha, nope. As I said, a more sub/dom thing.
And no, mainly to do with the fact you have no clue what sub/dom is, how prevalent porn is among women and also just how this is a non-issue I would've thought of all people..

There's often a page which requires you to certify you are over the age of 18 prior to entering the site. Education is the responsibly of parents and schools, not the porn industry.

Besides, if you don't even know how to google "anal sex tips". You probably shouldn't be having anal sex.
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In the same way that packs of cigarettes and adverts for alcohol come with warnings and guidance, porn should come with the same sorts of messages which alert people to the damage it can do and would show that those running the porn industry might just have a conscience..

...The D and S in BDSM stands for dominance and submission. Taking pleasure from gagging someone is sadistic and enjoying being gagged is masochistic.

You're taking your porn to the next level, you even have an account with the site.

Personally I think those messages are useless and don't deter anybody. It's the parents responsibility to monitor what their kids are doing. If they weren't expecting TV and internet to do their job for them it wouldn't be a problem.

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