Why is there so much negativity about commuting to university?

Lol, I stand by my opinions so you won't be getting an apology from me.

RoundTrip summed it up perfectly, the type of people who commute seem to view themselves as superior to those who live in halls, because everyone who lives in halls is immature and more focused on drinking than studying

That's obviously why commuting gets such a bad reputation (what kind of 18/19 year old has this outlook on living with people their own age?!), not to mention all the issues you'll encounter in terms of logistics. But by all means live at home for uni, as it seems you have to, try to enjoy it but after three years of being the tag along mate who goes home to his family while your mates go back to their house together I'm 100% certain you'll have wished you embraced the university life.

Lol, I stand by my opinions so you won't be getting an apology from me.

RoundTrip summed it up perfectly, the type of people who commute seem to view themselves as superior to those who live in halls, because everyone who lives in halls is immature and more focused on drinking than studying

That's obviously why commuting gets such a bad reputation (what kind of 18/19 year old has this outlook on living with people their own age?!), not to mention all the issues you'll encounter in terms of logistics. But by all means live at home for uni, as it seems you have to, try to enjoy it but after three years of being the tag along mate who goes home to his family while your mates go back to their house together I'm 100% certain you'll have wished you embraced the university life.

I'm commuting for a few reasons:

1) Why pay £120 a month for a 3rd room when I can pay £12000 a month for a three bedroom house?
2) I have my home office so I don't need to sit in a library and study all day. I have a place to study that has far less distractions.
3) I don't want to share a flat with immature kids who don't clean up after themselves.
4) I can't take my cats
5) Why would I want to uproot everything I have again and put all my furniture and belongings in storage just for the sake of an 'experience'. I have had enough experiences in my lifetime, I'm just looking to study.

Everybody needs to stop criticising each other. Everybody will have their reasons for doing what they are doing so let them get on with it.

Id just like to hear your opinion on this.. I'm commuting to a London uni (which I feel I was lucky to have got in tbh because of my grades - got a place through clearing). It is ranked 2nd in London for my course and 33rd for my course overall and will take me an hour or just under to get there. As I already live in London i don't feel the need to live in halls. Do you think its worth it commuting to this university?

completely agree with you there : ). Im 22 and my Uni campus only has those halls for my course ( due to odd course dates) therefore I would have to live with people who have possibly only just turned 18....my worst nightmare.

You're probably talking about what would happen if you live at home to be 100% certain. But speaking as someone who spent 4 years of uni living at home, I don't have a single regret. My mates didn't see me as the tag along person. Majority understood that I have a different responsibility to them but it didn't mean I was excluded. Those who judge me I found were the sort of people who were childish and more often than not were more interested in partying rather than studying so not really the type I would have wanted to stick to.

FYI not all people who commute view themselves as superior. Most are too tired, because more likely that not they have other responsibilities as well, too care.

All I'm saying is those who said that they are staying at home have as much chance of getting university experience as those who are living away from home. It's just up to the individual.

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Erm I'll be 21 when I start university in October, actually, and I've probably done more drinking and partying than you ever have my dear, I have quite a reputation for it. However I've calmed down and don't want to spend my life knecking down drinks every single night, though of course I'll happily go out once every week, probably a lot more in Fresher's period but I don't want to be feeling tired or hungover every day and besides, there is more to life than drink. I don't view myself to be superior to anyone, let alone people just because they live in university halls. I won't encounter any problems due to logistics thank you very much. If I want to go out and party I can go out and party, and come back to my house. It really makes no difference. I can socialise everyday with who I want at university, join societies, do what the hell I want, just like everyone else and then come back home. Besides, a load of the halls people at my university live in are equally as far as where my house is. I've already lived out before when I was 18 and I know what the experience is so don't patronise me. I'm perfectly content with the life I lead but you pre-judging people that commute to automatically dull or to have made that decision because they look down on others is just plain wrong. I won't look back and regret not embracing university life, because I am going to embrace university life. Going back to a flat where my family lives rather than one where a load of students live is going to have absoloutely no effect on how much I embrace university life. Thank you very much indeed for making a load of idiotic pre-assumptions about the sort of person I am or am not.

As for being independent, I've had numerous jobs, do housework and cooking. I know how to live an independent life and my development will not be deprived because I live with my family rather than flatmates. What difference does it make? Other than I'm saving 8 grand on a maintenance loan.

Yep, no sense of resentment towards a great deal of people who lived in halls at all showing in your post Sure you don't think you're superior to the average uni student?



Christ, I've never seen anyone get more upset over someone having a different opinion to theirs. If you living at home wasn't going to be an issue and cause you to struggle at university, the way you view your opinion as being the only correct one most certainly is.

BTW, I was answering the thread title, relating to the poor general consensus of commuting e.g. why it's viewed so negatively, not claiming absolutely no one should live at home

What do you mean by "not far"?

Are we talking about 3 stops on the tube, or a 45 minute drive?

I was talking about those who have personal reasons such as taking care of family members. There's no superiority in that. Just stating facts of life.

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Lol, what's the big deal with 22 year olds not wanting to hang out with 18 year olds? I'm 22 and I've had fun hanging out with my sisters and their 18/19 year old friends at uni. But I guess everyone is different. I'm still into clubbing and stuff, but I suppose some people seem to get bored of it by my age. I also never did enough of that stuff when I was younger, so I guess I'm still trying to catch up a bit. I'm looking to start my first undergrad course soon and I'm totally up for moving out rather than staying at home, for various reasons. But to each their own

In which case my posts haven't related to you, they've either been about why commuting has a poor reputation or arguing against some idiot who believes he can't have fun at uni and still achieve good grades.

Yep, no sense of resentment towards a great deal of people who lived in halls at all showing in your post Sure you don't think you're superior to the average uni student?



Christ, I've never seen anyone get more upset over someone having a different opinion to theirs. If you living at home wasn't going to be an issue and cause you to struggle at university, the way you view your opinion as being the only correct one most certainly is.

BTW, I was answering the thread title, relating to the poor general consensus of commuting e.g. why it's viewed so negatively, not claiming absolutely no one should live at home

However I wouldn't suggest to anyone not to go university unless you live in halls.

My points have really been meant for the people who just default to their local uni because they see it as easier. I know so many people who didn't even consider anywhere else and just picked the uni down the road.

As long as your happy with the course that's all that really matters.

I never even said that my opinion is the only correct one. I said it is the right one for me. And I said you prejudged by calling those who live at home dull, socially inactive, unemployable and non drinkers. And I have no clue why you're now denying you said those things. Since None of those things are true of me I think I am entitled to make my point.
You're obviously pre judging me and offending me and you can't even be bothered to apologise or even acknowledge it in the least.

Actually you were generalising. Particularly with Temporality who have stated that she has personal reasons for commuting. For all we know it could be that she is also a carer for a family member. But you have pretty much stated that she's not going to enjoy uni because of her situation.

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Sorry I must have sounded like such a div saying that, nono i have no problem with people younger than me at all. Ive just already been to Uni but dropped out, and know that after a year of working with people much older than me I think I would find it really wierd going back to halls with people younger and more up for freshers week etc. ( really hope everyone gets what im saying and I dont sound horrible)

Like I said if your local uni is good for your subject your lucky. I'm willing to bet you could've gone to a much better one though if you had chosen to move out.

I'm getting £11249 a year across maintenance loans, grants and bursaries. Only £3800 of that is to be paid back. My accommodation is £100pw for 38 weeks. 11249 - 3800 = 7449. 7449/38 = £196 a week. That's before I take it account my savings which amount to well over 5 figures I made from working for 2 years before uni. Mummy can't give me anything, everything I own I've bought and paid for myself. I admit it is ridiculous I am getting this much "help" because I would've been able to support myself but the way student finance works is incredibly flawed.




Well seeing as I'm budgeting to spend around £25 on food a week in the local sainsburys/waitrose it's going to be hard not eat nice food tbh. How is DEPENDING on your parents for shelter, food, washing being independent? Your much more dependent than people who moved out. They are on their own. If your ill you can't get mummy to ring the doctors, no ones gonna get you out of bed for that early lecture, you have to do your own washing. You become more of an adult. As someone has said commuting/moving out depends on the circumstances of the individual.

You'll regret not moving out and there's a strong chance in 2nd and 3rd year you'll move out with friends. Just saying.

If you make an effort, I don't see why your social life would be different to anyone else's?

Those things were said to someone who said he didn't want to move out because you can't have fun at uni and be successful, making him clearly a dull, socially inactive non drinker

Learn to read, it'll be invaluable at university.



Nah, I said she'll enjoy uni less because she's not moving out, which is my opinion, and I 100% stand by that.