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^well that, but also come across as even more into him perhaps? I don't know how much space you give each other at the moment, but perhaps he wants a little less space (be careful with that though). And even if he doesn't believe you the more you affirm it the more it should eventually sink in. There's a fine line to tread though; do either of these too much and he still won't believe you - it's a tricky one.

We already spend loads of time together we were best mates before we got together and have mostly the same friends we're also living at my parents house together atm so would be weird if we spent more time together probably...hmm that's hard

He needs to do stuff to build his confidence - being in that place mentally myself I understand how he feels. But as has been said this isn't due to anything you've done or anything like that, it's just that he needs to pull himself together

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So like going out with other mates and doing stuff to build his confidence? I've been trying to encourage him to do stuff with other people...

well you could keep on telling him you love him, you think he's really hot etc, and pick up on random physical features to tell him you like about him whatever it is from i really like how you smile to whatever other random things you like about him physically, and you could compliment his stomach too yeah say i love your stomach it's perfect to me and stroke it :P and make him feel really secure, that you'll never leave him, that you could only ever possibly want him.

Also on top of that you could help him to improve his physical condition, because i think to a guy it's important to feel fit and strong, you could try to find physical activities you could do together which will keep you both in shape and make him feel more confident within himself as well. It could be anything, from going hiking, taking a martial arts class together, going paintballing, doing water sports, just anything active at all I'm sure you could come up with things you'd both enjoy and could help you both be a bit more active as well, which could be good for his shape and confidence, as well as a fun day out hopefully.

As good as the advice building muscle is, I fear it may have a negative effect. It may just enforce his negative body image and make him feel pressured to improve his body wieght. I personally would challenge him when he bring up his wieght. For example, if he says he looks overwieght u could ask him if u or any of his friends have ever picked up on it. Like mentioned early, I would also give him praise and highlight his strengths in other areas and when u can as long as it's meaningful. Continuing to encourage him to go out and do things he enjoys and aims towards is also a good idea. U could also indirectly improve his wieght by doing more excerise together such as walks and sports.
Hope some of this may help and good luck in the future!

well you could keep on telling him you love him, you think he's really hot etc, and pick up on random physical features to tell him you like about him whatever it is from i really like how you smile to whatever other random things you like about him physically, and you could compliment his stomach too yeah say i love your stomach it's perfect to me and stroke it :P and make him feel really secure, that you'll never leave him, that you could only ever possibly want him.

Also on top of that you could help him to improve his physical condition, because i think to a guy it's important to feel fit and strong, you could try to find physical activities you could do together which will keep you both in shape and make him feel more confident within himself as well. It could be anything, from going hiking, taking a martial arts class together, going paintballing, doing water sports, just anything active at all I'm sure you could come up with things you'd both enjoy and could help you both be a bit more active as well, which could be good for his shape and confidence, as well as a fun day out hopefully.

maybe you could buy him some weights as well and make him do them once a week, you could do some too with him so even if he finds it boring it wont be as bad that way, you can say "im going to do my weights now" and lift a few then tell him to do some because you want to see how much he can lift, then be impressed, then keep on making him do them once a week when you do them. But that is a kind of silly suggestion :P But, I think couples give each other habits as well, if you were more active he probably would be too and vice versa.

oh some other thing you could do is not pay attention to mens bodies like if youre out shopping and theres topless men in adverts in shop windows, dont stare at them, or if youre watching a film together and theres a buff semi nude guy who's just appeared on screen, you could at that moment hug and kiss your bf turning your attention away from the screen and onto him, these kind of things could maybe make him happy too.