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General life advice

Anonymous #1

Anyone have general life advice from their experiences ?

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Anonymous #2

Original post by Anonymous #1

Anyone have general life advice from their experiences ?

This is incredibly vague. I could write several volumes of books for general life advice.

Can you be more specific about what you want to know? For example, pick an area in say:

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University

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Money

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Passing driving test

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Buying a house

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Fashion advice

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Friends

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Reply 2

Anonymous #1

Original post by Anonymous #2

This is incredibly vague. I could write several volumes of books for general life advice.

Can you be more specific about what you want to know? For example, pick an area in say:

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University

•

Money

•

Passing driving test

•

Buying a house

•

Fashion advice

•

Friends

etc...

Ibr I posted this cos tsr sed i hv t post to answer messages
But whilst we r here…
How to not feel isolated at uni
I’m on gap year atm

Reply 3

jonathanemptage

Original post by Anonymous

Ibr I posted this cos tsr sed i hv t post to answer messages
But whilst we r here…
How to not feel isolated at uni
I’m on gap year atm

How to not feel isolated at uni easy go to lectures and all secessions and talk to people. Join some societies or start your own if you can’t find one that suits you. Live in halls and basically just do stuff and you’ll be fine.

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Anonymous #2

Original post by Anonymous #1

Ibr I posted this cos tsr sed i hv t post to answer messages
But whilst we r here…
How to not feel isolated at uni
I’m on gap year atm

Cool. Are you doing anything interesting in your gap year?

The social life at uni is pretty much like the social life outside of college. You really make the most of what you have outside of your study commitments (without compromising your grades). Uni is essentially college (but tougher) without the childhood friends and your parents (unless you're going to a local uni).
If your social life is currently uneventful, it can carry on into uni unless you decide to change.

As @jonathanemptage has pointed out, there are societies and clubs that you can join. Outside of the people you meet in lectures, seminars, and housemates, you are supposedly meeting people you join clubs with. Otherwise, you would have to keep going out and meeting people by chance at say festivals, pubs, etc.

I would take the chance to be open to going to say events or meeting up with people whilst at uni. The network that you build would impact your ability to get jobs a lot faster in the future. If you can't network well, then it's going to hold you back a bit.

Do you have issues socialising as you are now?
Most of the time, you would have to break the ice and start the conversation going. 9/10 times people are glad to be speaking with you, even if you're a complete stranger. Sure, the connection might not be as intimate as that of your friends who you grew up with or known since school, but a connection is still a connection.

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University of Huddersfield

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Original post by Anonymous #1

Ibr I posted this cos tsr sed i hv t post to answer messages
But whilst we r here…
How to not feel isolated at uni
I’m on gap year atm

Anon,

I think the best way to avoid feeling isolated is to be positive, be confident and be willing to get know people ( spend time talking and hanging out with them). You have to invest time, energy and effort. If you are naturally an introvert, you will likely find this quite tiring and it will be easy to retreat and hibernate in your room but the more you put yourself out there, then the easier it should get and you will also be able to get an idea of who might make a good friend.

Friendship can take time to begin to feel like friendship (that's normal), but if you are making the effort, inviting people to things, going to things you are invited to (though of course, you don't have to say yes to everything and it is okay to sometimes hibernate), meeting for coffee, watching sport together, going to the cinema with them, studying in the library together, messaging, phoning, meeting up outside of uni, then friendships should begin to take shape.

Hope that helps,

Oluwatosin – 3rd year student – University of Huddersfield

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YSJstudents

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Original post by Anonymous #1

Ibr I posted this cos tsr sed i hv t post to answer messages
But whilst we r here…
How to not feel isolated at uni
I’m on gap year atm

Hi there,

I hope your gap year is going well!

I would say in order to feel less isolated at uni defiantly try new things and put yourself out there even if it is out of your comfort zone. When arriving at uni pretty much everyone you meet will be in the same boat and feel a little uneasy and isolated as everyone has just moved away form home to an unfamiliar place.

Get to know your flatmates and spend time with them I found this quite useful when I first started uni. I would also suggest going to the freshers fair during the first week of uni and see what sports or societies you might want to join as this is another good way to make friends.

It may take time to make some new friends but defiantly put yourself out there a bit and get to know new people and over time friendships will form. You will also get to know some of your course mates and make friends with them over time as well. This will make you feel less isolated as well.

Hope this helps 😊
Katie - Student Ambassador