Being Gay

I think that being gay will eventually be fully accepted (there are already areas in which it is - for example, your school year sounds on the whole pretty tolerant, at least compared to mine). But it's whether this happens at the expense of another minority. I see a lot of transphobic opinions within the LGB community, and a lot of anti-discrimination events/organisations that completely ignore transgender people. For example, Stonewall is an LGB organisation and not an LGBT one (completely forgetting their roots...), the International Day against Homophobia and Transphobia was abbreviated IDAHO, a lot of internet things etc talk about 'gay bullying' and totally ignore transphobic bullying...

I think he's asking are you gay, but purposely trying to be offensive

I have a gay friend and I hate to admit that I'm quite intolerant, but then that's only because I wish he'd stop talking about bum sex all the time.

Being a gaylord sounds pretty cool. Imagine being lord of all the gays.

I don't think it's gayness that really bothers people, I think it's more the campness. There's nothing more sickening than a grown man acting like an 8 year old girl and I think that's where a lot of the hate really comes from. If you're gonna be gay then fair enough, but if you're gonna be camp then you deserve all the phobia you get I'd say.

So getting beaten up/verbally attacked is justified if you find that persons mannerisms annoying?

I don't know quite why straight males find camp behaviour so threatening. It's a little pathetic, really. No one is forcing you to be friends with them or even talk to them.

Arghhhh no reps left.

I would love to be lady of the gays. In fact, I demand to be called gaylady.

In answer to OP, the fact that my partners Jamaican family, my Catholic family and others who - due to cultural and religious upbringinds - we thought unlikely to attend came and celebrated our civil partnership this year and have accepted that we are wife and wife does give me hope (though maybe it was the free bar...). My Irish Catholic grandmother (who calls gay people 'funny folk') even sent us a gift. I know that's just me but I'm pretty confident 50 years ago these same people/social equivalents of them wouldn't have attended and supported a gay marriage.

I'm really really hopeful that things will changg. It seems as if we are on the brink, though I wonder what a feminist 30/40 years ago would have said if they were told that in 2011 we still wouldn't have equal pay for women in this country

Congratulations!

if someone is gay because of their genetics (which hasn't been proven btw) they should not condemned. if someone is gay by choice, they should be condemned because in doing so they are taking an active decision to go against the purpose of our bodies, which is to breed with the opposite sex.

that however doesn't mean i hate homosexuals; i dislike the practice. likewise i do not hate people who litter by choice; i dislike the practice.

So getting beaten up/verbally attacked is justified if you find that persons mannerisms annoying?

I don't know quite why straight males find camp behaviour so threatening. It's a little pathetic, really. No one is forcing you to be friends with them or even talk to them.

It's not threatening it's just outright annoying and often intrusive. You pretty much have to take a tough approach against them or they don't get the message. Last time I had a queer think it was 'humorous' to touch me I broke his arm within 5 seconds (it's one of the perks of knowing aikido) needless to say he wasn't laughing very much anymore as he was rolling around on the floor crying.

We can assume that this was either a long time ago or a made up event: otherwise you'd be in prison.

My money is on the latter.

Why? The person tried to touch him, it's not exactly a nice feeling being touched without someone's consent.

Gay panic is not a defence. Hasn't been for a long time.

The use of disproportionate force is not self defence, it's why bumpkins aren't allowed to shoot trespassers. That's been the case for a long time too.

And if he knows aikido then he knows how to incapacitate someone without breaking their arm.

My first... discoveries of the "pleasures" of the internet were all straight but after the initial "wowza" I began to find that it wasn't what I was interested in and soon turned to gay oriented sites etc.

I didn't mean 'gay panic', I meant surely you have the right to stop someone touching you, although breaking someone's arm is a bit over the top. A small nudge words for me.

We can assume that this was either a long time ago or a made up event: otherwise you'd be in prison.

My money is on the latter.

meh, I suppose I don't really have very many issues with people about my sexuality, mainly because I don't go round telling people. There's a girl in my year who is also a lesbian and is all militant and campaigny about it. I just like girls

That much yes. However there is insufficient context: what does he mean by touching? Under what circumstances did this occur?

In lieu of further information he basically just bragged about homophobicly aggravated GBH - whilst simultaneously explaining why he should be expected to know better. If he is an aikido practitioner then breaking somebody's arm merely for touching him is always going to be some flavour of assault regardless of circumstances. All this I take grave issue with.