Poll: Not going out drinking - what do you think?

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Your opinion?

Hello all

,
I am a quiet person and enjoy my life like this - I'd like to know your honest opinion on someone who doesn't want to go out socialising and drinking.

I do socialise with friends.. but this does not involved getting drunk/going to clubs/bars. I have been judged many times since joining university based purely on this choice.

Thanks :biggrin:

Edit: It's nice to see the majority choosing option #1. Continue to be understanding people, unlike some individuals I've come across! Thanks again.

(edited 12 years ago)

Reply 1

Killer Bean

13

To me, it doesnt matter at all whether a person likes to get drunk; what matters is why.

Reply 2

inspiration91

What is your reason for not drinking? On the whole it wouldn't bother me

Reply 3

emilymay

2

Original post by Anonymise

Hello all

,
I am a quiet person and enjoy my life like this - I'd like to know your honest opinion on someone who doesn't want to go out socialising and drinking.

I do socialise with friends.. but this does not involved getting drunk/going to clubs/bars. I have been judged many times since joining university based purely on this choice.

Thanks :biggrin:

Hey, I know quite a few people who don't drink, mostly for religious reasons, but I know a few of them still go to clubs and bars and just drink lemonade and things, which I actually think is really good that they do that, a lot of student life and socialising is done in clubs and bars, so I think you get far more involved in the student experience and can make more friends if you do go to the clubs and bars even if you dont drink. But obviously everybody is entitled to act as they wish and if they just aren't for you then theres nothing wrong with that.

Reply 4

EmmaJane_

8

I don't usually go out drinking simply because I'm horrible when drunk so people would think much less of me after seeing me drunk.

Reply 5

Anonymise

OP

2

Original post by emilymay

Hey, I know quite a few people who don't drink, mostly for religious reasons, but I know a few of them still go to clubs and bars and just drink lemonade and things, which I actually think is really good that they do that, a lot of student life and socialising is done in clubs and bars, so I think you get far more involved in the student experience and can make more friends if you do go to the clubs and bars even if you dont drink. But obviously everybody is entitled to act as they wish and if they just aren't for you then theres nothing wrong with that.

Original post by inspiration91

What is your reason for not drinking? On the whole it wouldn't bother me

To be honest I don't have a 'genuine' reason like religious beliefs: it's just not a lifestyle I would enjoy. I have hobbies and enjoy times with friends, but the drinking/clubbing scene is just not for me and I choose not to drink at all. Lots of people I've met struggle to understand someone not enjoying these things, which I've never understood.

Also thanks for the advice Emily :smile:

Reply 6

inspiration91

Original post by Anonymise

To be honest I don't have a 'genuine' reason like religious beliefs: it's just not a lifestyle I would enjoy. I have hobbies and enjoy times with friends, but the drinking/clubbing scene is just not for me and I choose not to drink at all. Lots of people I've met struggle to understand someone not enjoying these things, which I've never understood.

Also thanks for the advice Emily :smile:

Okay yeah I can totally understand that :smile:

Tbh I'm much the same, although I do enjoy getting tipsy/drunk once in a blue moon lol but maybe that's because I've had a couple of years of lots of partying and drinking and now I'm just a bit bored of it :smile:

But yeah, totally respect your lifestyle choice and if anything, I'd like being friends with someone like you :smile:

Reply 7

Anonymise

OP

2

Original post by inspiration91

Okay yeah I can totally understand that :smile:

Tbh I'm much the same, although I do enjoy getting tipsy/drunk once in a blue moon lol but maybe that's because I've had a couple of years of lots of partying and drinking and now I'm just a bit bored of it :smile:

But yeah, totally respect your lifestyle choice and if anything, I'd like being friends with someone like you :smile:

Thanks for the response, this is nice to hear and reassuring!

I respect all peoples choices and glad to hear you do the same.

Thanks again! :smile:

Reply 8

SnoochToTheBooch

17

I used to think this was a boring attitude, and sometimes still do, but I don't know. I've grown out of it a bit now, there are better ways to spend time. I mean, I still go drinking but I'd often rather not have bothered - sick of standing around throwing drink after expensive drink down my neck, in a dark sweaty place where the music's turned up so loud you have to scream to be heard.

Reply 9

cl_steele

2

it doesnt matter but its always fun going out for a drink ....

Reply 10

vickie89

1

it really doesnt bother me the not drinking. i used to have a friend i hung out with a lot who wouldnt drink because he had diabetes, he used to do everything else we did and at parties would bring diet cherry cola and get hyper off the caffeine in it. i think as long as you are still up for a laugh and fun to be around then it doesnt bother me in the slightest if you drink or not, its the miserable ones who sit in the corner and dont join in that i would have a problem with.

(edited 12 years ago)

Reply 11

noobynoo

6

maybe you will meet someone else really quiet and have very quiet sex with each other.

Reply 12

arsenicandoldlace

I don't go out much either, every now and then in moderation i enjoy but it's not something i do every weekend =]

Reply 13

whatsername2009

11

Before I came to uni I was worried that the social life here would revolve entirely around the clubbing scene. I'm like you, OP - I very rarely drink (I'll occasionally have a small glass of wine with a meal, but never enough to get at all drunk) but not for religious reasons and I still enjoy socialising with people. However, I've actually found that there are plenty of like-minded people at my uni, and I often go to the bar with my friends and just have soft drinks. Besides, not going clubbing means that I have the time and money to do other things like going to the theatre, which I enjoy a lot more.

Anyone who thinks less of you because you don't get drunk all the time really isn't worth the effort.

Reply 14

fruit_n_veg

7

Most of the time it's not worth it I don't think - just waste the next day moping round and spend money which I'd rather spend on other stuff. I'd still have a few drinks (around 4 pints) if I go out mind and I can make transport arrangements, just not a huge fan of getting drunk really.

Reply 15

Mr Dangermouse

18

Original post by noobynoo

maybe you will meet someone else really quiet and have very quiet sex with each other.

The one's that don't drink are the screamers :colondollar:

Reply 16

alexlduffy

12

I don't mind at all if someone doesn't drink. The only time I mind is if they repeatedly judged me for drinking and even tried to stop me from drinking alcohol (unless I was close to passing out).

I don't drink that much anymore anyway because it makes me feel sick, so when I go to uni I may or may not drink that much.

Reply 17

TheSownRose

16

It wouldn't bother me, but then I'm much the same so to say it would bother me would be a) illogical and b) hypocritical.

However, when you make the decision to go against the social norm - which, like it or not, is to go out socialising and drinking - you have to accept that there may be unfortunate consequences, in this case you're not present in the place where a lot of people (remember, TSR is a naturally biased collection of people) make their friends and people see it as a bit odd.

Accept that, or do things to change it. :dontknow:

Reply 18

Anonymise

OP

2

Original post by Mr Dangermouse

The one's that don't drink are the screamers :colondollar:

Original post by whatsername2009

Before I came to uni I was worried that the social life here would revolve entirely around the clubbing scene. I'm like you, OP - I very rarely drink (I'll occasionally have a small glass of wine with a meal, but never enough to get at all drunk) but not for religious reasons and I still enjoy socialising with people. However, I've actually found that there are plenty of like-minded people at my uni, and I often go to the bar with my friends and just have soft drinks. Besides, not going clubbing means that I have the time and money to do other things like going to the theatre, which I enjoy a lot more.

Anyone who thinks less of you because you don't get drunk all the time really isn't worth the effort.

Fortunately I've also met like-minded people, unlike the extremely 'cool' person living in my flat who just banged on my door because I'm a non-drinker. People like him will continue to think negatively of me for this reason alone, but it's such a pathetic reason I don't care too much.

Reply 19

Chris22

13

Original post by Anonymise

Hello all

,
I am a quiet person and enjoy my life like this - I'd like to know your honest opinion on someone who doesn't want to go out socialising and drinking.

I do socialise with friends.. but this does not involved getting drunk/going to clubs/bars. I have been judged many times since joining university based purely on this choice.

Thanks :biggrin:

Edit: It's nice to see the majority choosing option #1. Continue to be understanding people, unlike some individuals I've come across! Thanks again.

It wouldn't bother me in the slightest.

I'm in a very similar position to you. I don't drink much, rarely go on nights out and you get a lot of snide comments/reactions of great shock when you don't do this.

One of my flatmates seems almost offended that I don't drink heavily and find nights out boring. I get on well with him and my other flatmates fine, but I've found that you are seen as strange for not doing this.

But, how boring would it be if everyone liked the same things? One of the best things about university should be a variety of different people, with different personalities and interests. It's finding these like-minded people, which can prove difficult.

(edited 12 years ago)

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