Well she doesnt know what her flatmates are going to be like. she can say to her mum that there are risks ( which u mentioned) and if she is still ok with that then her luck i guess.*
Also her mum may not want to fork out loads of money for a hotel. The OP hasnt specified which city and it could be an expensive one. So the mum may be using *the opportunity to save money and maybe spend it on her daughter. If you dont use common sense then you're the idiot here
you didn't use your common sense to read the thread because OP said she'd pay for the hotel
Even speaking as a mum (and sounding like Andrea Leadsom for doing it) I think this is very much not on. I doubt that the halls will let her stay anyway, if you want to go that route, and it certainly isn't the right way to start your university life. We took our son to university and had to stay overnight because it was too far to come home in one day, so we booked a hotel and made a weekend away of it. We took him out for meals, took him to the supermarket and transported the groceries home for him, and then left him to it, while we had a good time sightseeing. Can you suggest this to her? This is all going to come from fear of losing you, so big up that that won't happen, give her a timetable of how often you are going to contact her and when, and then stand your ground.
I wish you were my mum! God bless my own mum but this was a sweet thing to read.
literally my worst nightmare. logistically, her staying overnight in the city makes sense as it's at least a four hour drive back, but I assumed she'd stay in a hotel overnight. Apparently she's going to stay with me in halls and when I refused, she got quite upset and offended. am I in the wrong here? I tried to explain that I needed to settle in on my own and get to know my own flatmates and go out etc, but she said she'd just stay in my room and not interfere, but... just the thought of it it horrific. I honestly do not know how to have this discussion with her.
It may not be allowed - guests are sometimes not allowed for the first few weeks of term. Check your uni's rules ...
I'm not flirting with you but how many kids have you done such a wonderful thing like that for?
Two of my own. After 27 years as a sixth form tutor, I know pretty much what 18 year olds think. And flirting would not be a good thing for you, I'm afraid!
Two of my own. After 27 years as a sixth form tutor, I know pretty much what 18 year olds think. And flirting would not be a good thing for you, I'm afraid!
Two of my own. After 27 years as a sixth form tutor, I know pretty much what 18 year olds think. And flirting would not be a good thing for you, I'm afraid!
Hey dont you enjoy a little bit of spice in your life
Stop being ungrateful and let your mother stay with you. Its only for a night.
Well that's the most retarded reasoning I've seen in a good 5 mins.
OP just man (or woman) up and tell her no. She'll get over it. You've been living with her for at least 18 years. Idk why she cares about an extra day. Especially when it'd just make things awkward. The first few days of uni are important.