Growing up without a Dad - what's the impact on women?

Outlier? black community has dis-proportionally lack of fathers and has one of the highest crime, welfare dependency, unemployment etc.

Growing up without a Dad - what's the impact on women?

So i've noticed some of my girl mates, tend to be going off track. The only thing in common is they don't have a strong male character in their lives.

This can't be a coincidence?

they seem to have mixed up relationships with men, and the ones I know in this situation are very promiscuous- they think that somehow sleeping with lots of men they are proving a point to themselves that they don't need "the one man" in their lives. I think it stems from an inherent need to be loved by many men as its something they didn't have when growing up

Nicki Minaj had problems with her dad.
So did Rihanna
Beyonce too.

They grew up to be successful! I think its much more serious when you dont have a mother figure or when you lose both your parents. E.g Scott Disick lost both his parents young and he has gone through a lot .

Growing up without a Dad - what's the impact on women?

So i've noticed some of my girl mates, tend to be going off track. The only thing in common is they don't have a strong male character in their lives.

This can't be a coincidence?

I despise my dad and I think he's awful. I'm a hopeless romantic and feel like I need a man in my life, which is opposite to the "slut with daddy issues" stereotype. I guess I do like to be validated by men? I don't know how its had an impact on me, but I do see men in a bad light because of him.

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Tbf it's a pretty good reflection of your character if you wanna do something to help these girls where you've noticed something you find worrying but there's no easy way to go about it. Sometimes dropping a slight tentative word on someone's behaviour in a non judgemental way can be helpful but there's absolutely 100% no guarantee someone's going to change their behaviour, regardless of whether they know or even admit you're right. You really can't change some people.However i think you'd be wrong to say that there is a real correlation between not having a father figure and being promiscuous. There's a multitude of things that go on in women's development (And people's development in general) and honestly, there are lots of girls that have grown up without fathers I know that are in very stable relationships. As for trust issues/ struggling to settle into a relationship - that could be down to a million things. People are complex. Sure in some cases an absent father might result in someone behaving in an unhealthy way - for others it could result in them behaving in a healthy way e.g. if they had an especially strong mother figure. And that doesn't even begin to focus on the fact people can move beyond their upbringings and find their own ways of being comfortable with themselves.Also, if you're talking about narcissism, seeking validation, attention, or whatever through social media, or dating lots of guys, not committing to relationships, being sexually promiscuous. That's down to a whole range of things, and it's more a cultural/ societal issue/ symptom of the times. For one thing, there are girls that actually enjoy behaving in that way, as in just find it fun/ thrilling and don't want to be tied down. For others, it's often the behaviour of males around them, this whole noncommittal thing that generally goes on amongst young people - well i've noticed it anyway. There's so much sleeping around nowadays without being exclusive, mainly because guys want to get a full run of 'experience' and then girls clock onto that and say, oh why shouldn't I do the same. It's just become a way of life. And particularly with social media, we're all constantly playing into this thing of girls needing to be attractive, take selfies for validation etc. Even recently Emily Ratajowski did an interview where she said it was entirely right for girls to post photos for attention. I didn't agree with her interview but there you go. The culture exists. It's more about that than upbringing i'd say. You can move on, fight against your upbringing but you can't really change the cultural conditions around you.Those are my very muddled confusing thoughts on the matter!

Thanks for the post. I agree with some points, i know humans are very complex and it's never black and white. Also i'm not saying EVERY woman has these traits but i've merely picked up on some sort of trend. I see similar characteristics in their behaviour. I've been talking to them for a while.

I think having a strong father figure in your life is very important for a girl, much more important than we are leading on. I know we like to turn to capitalism to solve all of our problems i.e money can provide certain aspects but money can't set boundaries or set an example.