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My dad found me on tinder help help help

I think that you should confront him and talk to him about the fact that he is married yet has a tinder account. If he refuses to discuss the issue or inform your mother then you should inform her. Its possible that they are both unhappy in their relationship or your father may admit to making a mistake and move on.I hope for the best and happiest mutual outcome.Good luckx

Reply 41

Pinkberry_y

OP

19

I was very close to just letting this slide and not bringing it up, pretending I'd never seen this but seeing what you guys have written here I'm doubting that, and thinking about this in my mums perspective.
I think I'm going to casually bring it up to my dad and ask him why he has a tinder acocunt. The problem is my mum is also downstairs right now

Reply 42

Anonymous #2

Why do I get the feeling that this isn't really.........true? I am a sceptical person....but I somehow feel this is a made up story...... :colonhash:

Reply 43

Anonymous #3

This potentially is the makings of a divorce. Good luck OP

If you're over 18, I suggest forgetting the consequences you'll face in order to help your mum because your dad may be cheating. I hate cheaters.

Alternatively, wait for your dad to say something. Make a fake profile if he doesn't. Get proof then ask your dad what he was doing because s***'s gonna get real and life is going to hit you like a tone of brick phones.

Or literally don't say anything and hope that your parent's marriage resolves itself. It's too much pressure for a child to have to fix a marriage.

Reply 44

GradesUnlocked

13

Keep us updated, this is juicy.

Reply 45

04MR17

Volunteer Section Leader

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Original post by Pinkberry_y

What do I do? I'm so embarrassed I can't even face him right now. He's downstairs right now

Convince me you're telling the truth.

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Original post by Anonymous

Why do I get the feeling that this isn't really...true? I am a sceptical person...but I somehow feel this is a made up story...

Ditto

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(edited 7 years ago)

Reply 46

Pinkberry_y

OP

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Original post by Anonymous

This potentially is the makings of a divorce. Good luck OP

If you're over 18, I suggest forgetting the consequences you'll face in order to help your mum because your dad may be cheating. I hate cheaters.

Alternatively, wait for your dad to say something. Make a fake profile if he doesn't. Get proof then ask your dad what he was doing because s***'s gonna get real and life is going to hit you like a tone of brick phones.

Or literally don't say anything and hope that your parent's marriage resolves itself. It's too much pressure for a child to have to fix a marriage.

I really want to just let it side, I don't think my dad has been acting suspicious lately, but I keep thinking what if something IS going on. Do you think their marriage will be okay just by giving it time? I don't want to be the one that's going to bring about a rift between them

Reply 47

L'absurde

10

I have been in a similar-ish situation. Just pretend nothing happened. He probably doesn't want to bring it up himself.

Good luck mate. :hugs:

Reply 48

Pinkberry_y

OP

19

Original post by Anonymous

Why do I get the feeling that this isn't really.........true? I am a sceptical person....but I somehow feel this is a made up story...... :colonhash:

And why did you have to go anon to express these concerns?

Reply 49

Pinkberry_y

OP

19

Original post by L'absurde

I have been in a similar-ish situation. Just pretend nothing happened. He probably doesn't want to bring it up himself.

Good luck mate. :hugs:

Thanks

How did things work out in your situation?

Reply 50

Anonymous #2

Ditto

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Just doesnt feel right

Reply 51

Anonymous #2

Original post by Pinkberry_y

And why did you have to go anon to express these concerns?

Why does my identity matter? :colonhash:

Reply 52

username2246259

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It wouldn't be your fault if anything does happen in the marriage. It would be his for using tinder. Talk with him first, though.

Reply 53

Pinkberry_y

OP

19

Ok what if I ask him why he has tinder tomorrow but make him delete it and promise not to use it again so then I won't tell mum

Reply 54

04MR17

Volunteer Section Leader

22

Original post by Anonymous

Original post by Pinkberry_y

And why did you have to go anon to express these concerns?

Original post by 04MR17

Ditto

Spoiler

Just doesn't feel right

Because it isn't right. OP is an actual dupe (confirmed by CT). And see here going on the defensive, trying to avoid confrontation.

Reply 55

L'absurde

10

Original post by Pinkberry_y

Thanks

How did things work out in your situation?

Well, I caught him cheating...I saw the messages he sent. -__-

My mum ended up forgiving him though. :/

(edited 7 years ago)

Reply 56

L'absurde

10

Original post by 04MR17

Because it isn't right. OP is an actual dupe (confirmed by CT). And see here going on the defensive, trying to avoid confrontation.

OP is trolling? :s-smilie:

Reply 57

Camilli

17

A most benign explanation is that he wanted to see what kind of mischief his daughters were getting up to. You have to set the appropriate age filter to find their profiles, right?

Reply 58

JoeyTr

8

Best thing to do is make a joke of it and ask him about it, in a not serious fashion, with a big smile on when you ask. Please let us know what he says.