My dad found me on tinder help help help

OP is trolling?

Because it isn't right. OP is an actual dupe (confirmed by CT). And see here going on the defensive, trying to avoid confrontation.

CT? And it's not about going defensive, it's about coming on here for advice because I didn't know who else to talk to. My apologies if my life appears like a troll

Ok what if I ask him why he has tinder tomorrow but make him delete it and promise not to use it again so then I won't tell mum

That's the thing I don't want to tell my mum he's on there because then she'll find out I'm on there and have a fit. She thinks it's dangerous to be talking to randomers on a dating app and that they'll come and find me and rape me. She's so paranoid about online stuff it's actually really bad

Apology accepted. Yes CT is aware that you are a dupe. You have (until now) avoided the accusation that you have fabricated this event, you will need to re-assure contributors that this thread is genuine. There's your advice.

I don't know, I don't even want to know. I was just swiping through as I hadn't been on tinder for a while and was bored and his profile came up.
What worries me is my profile has already come up on his tinder because I haven't been on tinder for ages

What's CT?

The Community Team. The fascists of TSR. The big big cheeses. They are responsible for dealing with problem users on TSR. They are the ones who ban users, remove bad posts etc. They can also do a quick IP check to see if pinkberry here has had another account with TSR. Which is the case here. Some groups on TSR (like the political parties) have a no-dupe policy. Also, there are some Previously banned users (PBUs) that like to return to TSR through fake accounts. CT specialises in removing them.

Ok what if I ask him why he has tinder tomorrow but make him delete it and promise not to use it again so then I won't tell mum

Oooh thanks so this thread isn't genuine?

I don't think this will work. It might for a few months. But if your dad is determined to try and meet up with other women nothing and no-one will stop him. He will just use different methods, that's all.

Literally do not understand why this is an issue for you.*

You discovering your dad's profile is somewhat more of an issue for him, though.*

Keep us updated because this is the most eventful thing that I've seen all day. On a serious note if he wasn't hacked or his friends didn't make him an account as a joke or something ,I'd tell my mum if I was in your shoes.

My neighbour, whose back garden is adjacent to my back garden, has been exposing himself to me for about 18 months. At first I saw him watching porn in the spare bedroom. Thought nothing more of it. I'm not a prude. But the TV was a large TV and it was right up against the window, with the screen facing outwards so I could see everything. I used to sleep in the big, front bedroom, but my teenage son nagged me to have the large room for his TV, X BOX and all his gadgets, so I agreed. Moved my things in to the small room at the back and a few days later was when I noticed the porn. Then I started waking up to different porn magazines on my back door, open at specific pages. Usually of a woman giving a man a blow job. As if whoever was leaving the magazines was sending me a message. Then early one morning he was sitting in his back garden in nothing but his dressing gown. His dressing gown was fully open and he was completely naked underneath. More porn on the TV. Always Friday, Saturday and Sunday evenings when his wife was out working at the local Chinese takeaway. Then things escalated. He started coming in to his back garden whenever I went out to put clothes out on the line. Then one day he was sitting in the chair in his back garden, with his dressing gown on and was naked underneath, but he was masturbating. I told a friend of mine, who is a local Councillor. Not that I wanted him to do anything, but just so I had it written down as evidence that I had told someone. Another time in the back garden. I had just gone out to either put some clothes out or to bring them in, and suddenly he emerged from his house, dressing gown on which was undone. He was completely naked underneath. He started walking towards the fence, with his dick in his hand. I just turned on my heels to go in. But before I did I shouted, "I WILL report you to the police if you carry on you know". He practically ran inside his house shouting, "I'm sorry, I'm sorry". Nothing for months, but recently I have been able to see right inside his house and he is walking around near the window completely naked. Always while his wife is at work. I'm telling you all this, because I was going to tell his wife exactly what kind of a man she is married to, and exactly what he gets up to in the evenings when she is at work. But she is such a nice lady. In the end I didn't have the heart to. But if it ever starts up again I WILL go to the police and press charges. But I said nothing not for his sake, but for his wife's. But OP, if that was my dad who was carrying on [or potentially thinking about it] I wouldn't protect him.

That's what I'm worried about, that he'll cheat on my mum or He has done so already which would be even worse and heart breaking should I talk to my mum first or tell my dad first? I feel like if tell my dad first he'll make me feel bad and guilty about telling my mum so in the end I won't have the heart to do it


Given that it's my dad and my parents marriage, it becomes my issue as well 😬😬


I was going to just let it slide, but I'm going to talk to him when he's alone and tell him I've found his account if he hasn't found mine already