Muslims please help- I`m confused

hi

I didnt know where to put this so i thought this would be the best place. sorry if tis in the wrong place

basically I`m a muslim girl, brought up as a muslim, quite happy, I pray (well sometimes now), wear hijab, sing qawalis and spiritual music with guitar, and read alot about spirituality

recently though I AM QUESTIONNING MY FAITH. what is wrong with me?
i dont have any muslim friends so its like i have no1 to ask this to, it`s kind of like i dont belong and all the muslims around me are so messed up. some people claiming to be religeous be mean, put people down and make people feel really horrible. this isnt what i believe in?
AND, my version of religeon- the one based on purity, spirituality, and cleansing of the heart isnt what others believe in... they have it based of figures/acts you have to do/ my version of religeon is of love... am so confused.
so much that am not quite sure whether im even muslim anymore

so, what should I do?
I mean i could leave faith, but i know i`ll regret it later...

thanks, but i cant help letting others put me down. i feel religeously isolated?...

hi

I didnt know where to put this so i thought this would be the best place. sorry if tis in the wrong place

basically I`m a muslim girl, brought up as a muslim, quite happy, I pray (well sometimes now), wear hijab, sing qawalis and spiritual music with guitar, and read alot about spirituality

recently though I AM QUESTIONNING MY FAITH. what is wrong with me?
i dont have any muslim friends so its like i have no1 to ask this to, it`s kind of like i dont belong and all the muslims around me are so messed up. some people claiming to be religeous be mean, put people down and make people feel really horrible. this isnt what i believe in?
AND, my version of religeon- the one based on purity, spirituality, and cleansing of the heart isnt what others believe in... they have it based of figures/acts you have to do/ my version of religeon is of love... am so confused.
so much that am not quite sure whether im even muslim anymore

so, what should I do?
I mean i could leave faith, but i know i`ll regret it later...

i was a muslim...but went through that phase....only difference was i had alot of mates who tried making me be more religious....in the end...im happy being an atheist.....

ppl react differently...some people need "hope/faith" in their lifes.....i realised i didnt...

just all depends on you....dont listen to anyone else....do what feels right to you.....

u should know deep down

Aww, i'm sorry that you feel like this! Visit some islamic forums or if you want you can pm me about anything

I understand the confusion you are facing. I know lots of people who know how to act in Islam and go on about how they believe in it but then do horrible actions and criticise others. However, I try not to think about all of these actions carried out by other people (which is hard considering I analyse everything) and aim to interpret my own version of Islam which is similar to yours - it's not like a points system but how well you treat others and submit to Allah S.W.T. I think it may also be harder because you don't have many muslim friends - it does make it easier, although this isn't to say go and befriend every muslim in sight!

بِسۡمِ ٱللهِ ٱلرَّحۡمَـٰنِ ٱلرَّحِيمِ

The Prophet Muhammad (S) said: "Faith wears out in the heart of any one of you just as clothes wear out, so ask Allah to renew the faith in your hearts.
Try them out
1. Recognise and Repent
2. Perform Salah Regularly
Allah Almighty says in the Holy Qur�an:
"The believers are only those who, when Allah is mentioned, feel a fear in their hearts and when His Verses -this Qur�an- are recited unto them, they (i.e. the Verses) increase their Faith; and they put their trust in their
3. Quranic Recitations-start with surah Yassen every morning if your capable
4. Engage in Dhikr (that is to remember Allah 24/7)
5.Voluntary Fasting
6.Remembering Death
7.Having Trust in Allah
8.Gaining knowledge

Nothing is wrong with you. It's called being an intelligent, critical human being. In my opinion you should keep questioning your faith. Question everything. You will either end up doing two things: you will love your faith more, or you will realise it is pointless, doesn't answer any of life's dilemmas, limits the human life experience for no reason etc etc.

It is likely the second will occur if you properly question your faith. This is because the answers you will receive when questioning your faith will be unsatisfactory. They are never satisfactory if you apply a critical outlook. That is why so many people are turning away from faith and why there are so many more atheists now more than ever before: people are more educated and are free to think the way they want.

Don't let anyone tell you not to question your faith.


What you are describing is a person who wishes to live an enjoyable 'moral' (whatever that is) life, but does not care as much about mysticism and arbitrary organised religion nonsense. There's nothing wrong with this. You can live a happy moral life without religion.

Good luck in life!

interesting, so what made you decide it was not for you, and how long did the "transition" take?

also, how did family and those around you react? i mean i have not really discussed this with my parents as i know they`ll give me the "its the right way" lecture and if i decided it was not for me, they`d be peed off but with time they`d adjut, i just have to work out what i want

interesting, so what made you decide it was not for you, and how long did the "transition" take?

also, how did family and those around you react? i mean i have not really discussed this with my parents as i know they`ll give me the "its the right way" lecture and if i decided it was not for me, they`d be peed off but with time they`d adjut, i just have to work out what i want



thanks perhaps i should try



i guess so, but i always thought religeon never created doubt, you can only practice if you whole-heartedly believe, and im kind of not feeling it.

Nothing is wrong with you. It's called being an intelligent, critical human being. In my opinion you should keep questioning your faith. Question everything. You will either end up doing two things: you will love your faith more, or you will realise it is pointless, doesn't answer any of life's dilemmas, limits the human life experience for no reason etc etc.

It is likely the second will occur if you properly question your faith. This is because the answers you will receive when questioning your faith will be unsatisfactory. They are never satisfactory if you apply a critical outlook. That is why so many people are turning away from faith and why there are so many more atheists now more than ever before: people are more educated and are free to think the way they want.

Don't let anyone tell you not to question your faith.



What you are describing is a person who wishes to live an enjoyable 'moral' (whatever that is) life, but does not care as much about mysticism and arbitrary organised religion nonsense. There's nothing wrong with this. You can live a happy moral life without religion.

Good luck in life!

This has actually helped clear quite a few things for me and my questioning of Islam...Thank you

i realised deep down i dont really believe in religion....its as simple as that...the more i researched it...the more i actually didnt believe in it.....

if u look at how far back religion dates...if i was born about 1200 years ago i probably would have been religious...cos in those times life must have been tough/boring compared to now based on all the luxuries we have now of cars/planes/technology and the way of life is just soo different now....i honestly believe in those times people needed religion to have the hope life was worth living and there was a reason we were here..something better was to come from the struggles of life....

i dont need that....

and no i didnt tell my parents cos they would never understand...... i dont wana hurt their feelings.... and they would feel as though they have done something wrong in my upbringing and just blame themselves....i dont want that....

URGH! I hate that excuse so much! It just results in me believing less in Islam.

I think I identify with being a Muslim since I grew up as one but I think my religious beliefs steer a bit towards deism.

aww that`s really sweet- not telling your parents because you know it`ll hurt them, but how can you hide your beliefs?

i dont really hide them....i still only eat halal food (its become a habit now...i physically couldn't eat haram food)

i jus never pray...and my parents jus think im lazy.....but do still believe im a muslim at heart.....and if a situation comes and i have to pray i will.... just to keep them happy

and theirs some friends of mine who are really religious and i wont bother telling them im an atheist cos i cant really be asked hearing the lectures....

my advice...live your life how u wana....if u do wana be an atheist dont broadcast it to the world or members of your family who are extremely religious...

and your asking for links.....

hate to break it to you....but there are no proofs that any religion is correct...... or any proofs that religions dont exist (apart from common sense imo).....

the way i see it.....if you go looking for proof religion religion exists....you'll find something to cling on to and restore your faith........whereas if you go looking for contradictions and things to disprove religion you'll find things to re-assure yourself your right....

it all depends on your mindset......

It's sweet that you've decided not to tell your parents you're not a muslim because you don't want to hurt their feelings... but what are you going to do when they expect you to marry a muslim woman? Also, what are you going to tell a girlfriend when she says she wants to meet your parents and accuses you of not taking the relationship seriously enough otherwise?
There are a lot more examples I can think of too, because like the OP my parents are muslim and I'm not sure I'm religious myself (although I think I consider myself agnostic rather than atheist) and telling them is something I've been putting off for quite a while now.