Why is it wrong to be attracted to someone because they are wealthy (goldigger label)

Because its obviously not the person they love , its their wealth . Is that really hard to understand ? That prank was pure gold .

Because you should love someone for who they are and not how much money they've got?

You're attracted to pieces of paper and what they can buy you, not the person who owns them.

Not much of a relationship, is it?

Because its obviously not the person they love , its their wealth . Is that really hard to understand ? That prank was pure gold .

Not only this but it means you're someone who doesn't have the drive to obtain this wealth for themselves and would rather take advantage of someone else's acheivements. Materialistic bull****.

This being said I know someone who wants to be wealthy herself as well as her future husband having to be wealthy which frankly I think is worse in some ways. To me it shows a lack of appreciation for what they have and what they would be capable of providing themselves. Both parties should be willing to go out and earn money but at the end of the day a mutual understanding must be met as to what salary each person seeks to earn. For example, someone may have a passion for a low paying field and therefore there must be an understanding as to whether they should go for that job and the other person should compensate for this. This may also include parenthood.

I grew up in a working class family and I fully appreciate what is required for a happy family life and the two large salaries is excessive quite frankly, more than is required and therefore shouldn't be a priority.

its not wrong, it only becomes wrong when you love the money more than the person who has it.

You're making perhaps the most common error on this forum- viewing attraction as rational. A girl doesn't choose to find rich guys sexy, it's an inherent, natural response. She might get with a guy who she doesn't find attractive for his wealth, but that isn't what the question is asking.

I also grew up in a family without much money, and don't have any myself, but if a women isn't attracted to me because I'm poor, that isn't her fault.

I think the problem is that I'm a very rational and logical person and I don't see it as a attribute/trait that can help maintain a relationship, like looks. I don't see it as a priority with regard to attractive traits.

Being poor is not the same as not having an enticing personality. This is my point. Someone can be devoted to charity work, teaching, something like that and therefore not earn a lot of money but they can have a strong character. I think that in many cases people misunderstand what it is they find attractive. I think in most cases where wealth is involved it's probably passion and drive. These are two fine qualities to have but they're not mutually exclusive with a low paying career. I find passion that isn't for money more attractive than passion for money.

Surely if the women is attracted to wealth, then it will logically help maintain the relationship if the other person is wealthy, in exactly the same way looks do? You could argue it is more stable than attraction to looks, because people tend to get wealthier and less attractive as they get older.

I think people are attracted to drive and passion as well, but that isn't necessarily the same as attraction to wealth.

There isn't anything 'wrong' with it. Its just not a popular thing to do. In my opinion women who do it are just lazy and want to obtain an 'easy' lifestyle through the hard work of someone else.

Where have you been living? Under a rock?

I didn't mean looks maintain a relationship. I meant like wealth they don't help maintain it. To me only personality can do that.

I know it isn't but I think people confuse the two traits because often wealth is as a result of passion and drive.

So your saying being a gold digger will make someone more popular?
I don't think so mate.

So your saying being a gold digger will make someone more popular?
I don't think so mate.