Creeped out

Today I was out shopping in my hometown in a very crowded street. A random man approached me who was atleast 10 years older than me and started talking to me. I was wearing earphones but still he stopped me and started talking to me. He asked my name and what I do and was flirting very creepily. I pretended like I got a phone call and told him I've to get back to my friends and he asked me to meet my friends and then come back with him to get coffee and he offered to buy me coffee. I just shook my head and walked off and literally left that place and went back home. It was very scary. I'm a 19 year old college student and this man was hitting on me. I was very scared.

Why is it such a big deal.he ia obly ten years older

You're an adult. What is wrong with your generation? Do you want to be treat as children until you're about 25? That can be arranged but no alcohol, driving, or higher education until then. It is a normal thing for adults to chat to others. If you don't like the topic of conversation, you just leave/ignore it. If you want to go through life regarding advances from anyone older than you as creepy, then you'll become of the mindset that the world should only or primarily exist for the benefit of your generation. You'll eventually treat generations younger than you as inferior or creepy too because you deemed yourself a special case.

if we were talking face-to-face, this is the part where i would roll my eyes and walk away. some people aren't worth arguing with and i have better things to do with my time than attempt to educate a netizen about the meaning of creepy and why personal feelings of discomfort should be respected.

Absolutely spot on once again. Sadly you're on PRSOM but I appreciated this post along with the others in this thread.

Jesus Christ. We’ve got a thread in which someone is venting about an uncomfortable social situation and it has become a magnet for those with the social intelligence of a brick.

Exactly Shy. What some people on here seem to have forgotten is that part of being a student is the ability and willingness to politely debate. I didn't totally dismiss what the OP had to say - I stated that they didn't owe it to the man to say why they have to go. But just because I didn't get onboard with the ultrafeminist female feelings matter more than male feelings agenda, I got some kind of report against me and even though some of the unfair, awful, insults about me have been deleted by mods, Mysterygirl's holier than though attack remains above. This is incredible that debate is not allowed on a student site. Remember no crime was committed so there is no offence in assessing the situation.

You don't seem to realise that 'venting' is a derogatory term meaning someone who is complaining in an exaggerated or unfair way. Many situations are uncomfortable - your comment itself is an uncomfortable exaggeration / distortion of the truth as I see it. The law exists to prevent or punish illegal situations, not uncomfortable ones. Banning flirting in public if the other person isn't immediately reciprocal is a step towards banning any handling of objections.

The problem is that rather than acknowledging that someone has had an uncomfortable situation and is merely venting about it, you seem to be using this thread to grandstand.

If someone is walking down a busy street with headphones on, they are literally signalling to the world that they do not want to be disturbed, not subject to some guy trying to chat her up. If someone feigns a phone call or says they are meeting friends, the person trying to chat her up should take the blatant hint rather than trying to invite himself along. How people get to the adult world with such stunted social intelligence is beyond me, but I'm more than willing to empathise with those who are on the receiving end.

Why is it such a big deal.he ia obly ten years older

Maybe that day she was giving off a vibe that said stay away, and he did not get the memo. Women do have a right to say NO; they do not have to talk just because some man wants to talk to them.