I became a slut at uni. AMA.

Classic naivety. From a guy's perspective, they rarely befriend a random girl in a club for 'friendship' , there's 99% of the time an end goal - the majority of girls fail to understand this.

I'm talking exclusively of young, single males who regularly go clubbing when I say this to clarify.

Wow I also study Law in first year and I don't even have enough time to do all of that. I am always busy with stress, I work, go gym and study. That is all I do.

Are you on top of your work, do you attend all lessons etc?

How the **** do you make proper friends in a club anyway? Music is so bloody loud.

and yes this is the equivalent of a moronic meathead thinking every girls in da club wants to be his 'friend' just lol. The facility is practically designed for ONSes

Smoking area

Lmao at everyone losing their **** at this "slut" who's done it with SIX WHOLE PEOPLE.

What is the world cumming to?

Touche

not every club has a smoking area mind

And I would.still contest it's the most platonic environment

Well OP led us on by being melodramatic. Also she is being a wee obnoxious, going on about teachers not being hot enough and how she's actually a super clever Law undergrad who's going to be lording it over the 'bitter frustrated virgins' in years to come.

I still feel 6 people in 3 months of freshers is quite quick. About a lay every 2 weeks. For the most part this is just attention seeking with a slight 'all the single ladies put yo' hands up!' vibe and bait for the religious holier than thou folk.

Also- they see her punning, they hatin'

Geoking is a puritanical snob who feels he has the authority to judge people on their sex lives.

All I was ever doing was raising the issue of casual sex and its effects on emotional well-being according to research. I really don't understand what her problem is.

Oh it is, I won't disagree with you on that. But I did meet one of my good friends at a club and all he did was take me home when I lost my friends and leave. And now we're like the best of friends. So you can't completely right off the fact that guys don't always go there looking for one thing.

I'm gonna try and counterpoint that ONS = Higher suicidal thoughts thing etc.

Do you guys remember Silver Lining's Playbook? Remember Tiffany and how she went off the rails because of depression? I think to directly say that its because of promiscuous sexual activities without emotion would be simply unfair. Think of all the cases where people are already established in feeling down, depressed and have low self-esteem and personal value and THEN use sex as a coping mechanism.

Stats can be interpreted to fit more than one result.

Oh it is, I won't disagree with you on that. But I did meet one of my good friends at a club and all he did was take me home when I lost my friends and leave. And now we're like the best of friends. So you can't completely right off the fact that guys don't always go there looking for one thing.

It's all cause and effect. Mental health problems often manifest themselves in reckless behaviour (sex, gambling, drinking, drugs).. That doesn't mean anyone who does those things, even to excess, is necessarily going to suffer implications on their otherwise healthy mental state. There are hundreds of other factors which could cause the onset of problems, maybe people who have gone through breakups and are already depressed are more likely to be promiscuous? The mere act of having sex on a casual basis does not, in itself, cause a decline in mental wellbeing without other factors coming into play.

I'm afraid you're quite simply completely wrong. Go back and read my post more thoroughly, paying particular attention to the emboldened part of the second quote box:
http://www.thestudentroom.co.uk/showthread.php?t=2985977&page=6&p=51770817&highlight=#post51770817



I will give you £10 through PayPal if you can find me a single, credible scientific study from the last thirty years which demonstrates that gay sex is a mental health problem.

I don't want to convince people that casual sex is always a bad thing. There is absolutely nothing in anything that I have written that fulfils a single part of that description. Again, all I can suggest is that you read posts more carefully (if you have read mine at all) before responding.

I already read your post. One article that backed up your point in some way despite being flawed.

What was flawed, and how was it flawed? You must get in the habit of explaining your points or they won't make any sense.



Is the fact that I found my supportive evidence on Google supposed to negate from the credibility of the evidence or its supportiveness of my argument?



Total nonsense. My opening post in this thread consisted of two questions. Neither of them suggested that people who sleep around 'have no souls', and even if they did, asking someone whether they agree with a certain viewpoint does not mean you hold that viewpoint yourself.



You have now askes this three times. Why does my engaging in debate matter to you? Why are you so aggravated by the slightest suggestion that there may be downsides to casual sex?

All that matters to me is stimulating discussion on a stimulating subject. Why are you so flustered by that?



What you are saying is that because I have shared scientific research findings concerning casual sex and mental health, you now hope I am rejected the next time I seek casual sex. Do you not see how ridiculous that is? You are oozing bitterness because some realities you find uncomfortable have been brought to your attention.



As I said, needlessly aggressive. Calm down: you're talking to a stranger on the internet.

I don't know how you could possibly view a study conducted by Ohio State university scientists, led by a doctor of science and making use of 10,000 participants as in any way 'pseuso-scientific'. You seem to be in denial of the scientific findings concerning the relationship between casual sex and mental illness.

I have not expressed and do not hold 'oppressive views'. As I have made clear to you numerous times, my contributions in this debate have not carried an ounce of judgement or preaching, and you continue to fail to provide examples of any occasions where they have. I have not expressed a view on casual sex, I have merely cited the findings of the scientific community concerning a particular area of the subject in response to those who have overlooked them.

I don't have the energy or desire to argue about such a menial matter with a boy who was probably still in primary school when I was doing my dissertation.

Just goes to show the level of moral outrage that accompanies the dreaded "S" word. Maybe her teachers aren't hot enough? Why do they have to be? I don't see why that's a controversial comment. Also, she is a Law student, maybe people find this annoying because they think people who have the audacity to sleep with who they want should also have the decency to be a bit thick.

okay not a slut, but I've slept with people etc more than I would have if I was at home

Well, what is the purpose of playing squash? To have fun. That's it. Am I doing anything wrong to my competitors if I want to play a game of squash with them and I'm not really fussed about getting to know them? Am I "objectifying" them?

Incidentally, what do you think is intrinsically better (in a moral sense) about "getting to know" someone only rather than sleeping with them only?

Why are you equating one night stand's with "throwing away" personality and character?

But why is it degrading? Of course I am more than my cock, but using my cock casually doesn't take away from that.

Whether you want to define one night stand's that way or not, the fact is that not all one night stands are like that. But even if they are, why does that matter to to you? Just don't have a one night stand.

I'm not disputing that casual sex is associated with mental health issues. Thing is, there are plenty of other things that are associated with detrimental effects to mental health and people don't seem to feel the need to make a fuss about these things being degrading or demeaning or immoral. If I want to take part in an activity that I know has a chance of increasing mental health problems, is that really any of your business?