Share Your Worries About Going To Uni!

My money hasn't come through yet. I'm worrying I won't have enough to live.

I first applied like two months ago, with my passport. What I didn't realise, because I never use it, was that it had expired. So then I sent off a birth certificate, but I needed someone I've known for 2 years to sign an identity form. I moved away since the end of my a-levels so now I have nobody nearby. I tried to explain the situation to SFE but they're totally inflexible. I've got a meeting on Sept. 12th for same-day passport delivery but it's £128.

I should get just under £400 from work two days before, but then I'll be spending a fair chunk of that on supplies for uni. Rent is £142pw. I might be able to ask the university to backdate my rent until my loans come through but that will still leave me with like £150 to live on for I-don't-know-how-long. It can take a month for them to do your evidence can't it?

Any advice? My parents aren't in a position to help and I wouldn't ask or let them know even if they were. I could go to my grandparents, but the thought of crawling to the Bank of Family so soon into adult life makes my skin crawl. I really don't know what to do.

what's the easiest way to make friends at uni? I really struggle at making the jump from acquaintance to friends already

My money hasn't come through yet. I'm worrying I won't have enough to live.

I first applied like two months ago, with my passport. What I didn't realise, because I never use it, was that it had expired. So then I sent off a birth certificate, but I needed someone I've known for 2 years to sign an identity form. I moved away since the end of my a-levels so now I have nobody nearby. I tried to explain the situation to SFE but they're totally inflexible. I've got a meeting on Sept. 12th for same-day passport delivery but it's £128.

I should get just under £400 from work two days before, but then I'll be spending a fair chunk of that on supplies for uni. Rent is £142pw. I might be able to ask the university to backdate my rent until my loans come through but that will still leave me with like £150 to live on for I-don't-know-how-long. It can take a month for them to do your evidence can't it?

Any advice? My parents aren't in a position to help and I wouldn't ask or let them know even if they were. I could go to my grandparents, but the thought of crawling to the Bank of Family so soon into adult life makes my skin crawl. I really don't know what to do.

I'm worried about moving to another country with a much colder climate than I'm used to. I'm worried about having to manage stuff on my own because I've always been quite coddled at home. Worried about making friends in Britain--I've heard lots of stuff about the drinking culture, and about not liking my course or my roommates(I have two!!)
I'm also excited about the same things I've mentioned but it's two days until I fly to the UK and right now I just want to snuggle in my warm blanket and never leave home


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Everyone has worries about going to uni, that's perfectly normal, and chances are, other people have the same concerns as you.

I thought it would be a good idea to have a thread where people could share these concerns, and current uni students can reassure them. Sometimes, just knowing other people have the same concerns as you does help!

Some really common concerns we see on TSR every year include:

- What if my flatmates don't like me? Remember, most people do end up with flatmates they like, or at least can be civil to. In really bad living situations, you can sometimes move flats. However, not being best mates with your flatmates is fine too- most people make their best friends on their course or through societies.
- Can I still make friends if I don't drink? This is such a common question that there must be a lot of people going to uni who don't drink, or don't drink very often! Most societies do offer events that don't revolve around drinking, and most people do other things than just get drunk at uni. You will make friends, and everything will be fine!
- Will people judge me because I'm religious/ a virgin/ don't like clubbing/ have a medical condition? People who judge you for any reason aren't worth knowing. Most people at uni are really open minded, and will hopefully get along with you, but there will always be some rubbish people in every situation. If someone does judge you, they are the ones who will look bad. Just remember to keep an open mind, and respect that not everyone will have the same point of view as you.

Some people may also worry about the cost of living, or coping with study.
Don't forget that your uni can offer help with this if you need it, and they really want you to succeed. Ask for help if you need it!

I'm feeling a bit lost too with the work I gotta get done, I haven't started my course and I already feel overwhelmed


Posted from TSR Mobile

Everyone has worries about going to uni, that's perfectly normal, and chances are, other people have the same concerns as you.

I thought it would be a good idea to have a thread where people could share these concerns, and current uni students can reassure them. Sometimes, just knowing other people have the same concerns as you does help!

Some really common concerns we see on TSR every year include:

- What if my flatmates don't like me? Remember, most people do end up with flatmates they like, or at least can be civil to. In really bad living situations, you can sometimes move flats. However, not being best mates with your flatmates is fine too- most people make their best friends on their course or through societies.
- Can I still make friends if I don't drink? This is such a common question that there must be a lot of people going to uni who don't drink, or don't drink very often! Most societies do offer events that don't revolve around drinking, and most people do other things than just get drunk at uni. You will make friends, and everything will be fine!
- Will people judge me because I'm religious/ a virgin/ don't like clubbing/ have a medical condition? People who judge you for any reason aren't worth knowing. Most people at uni are really open minded, and will hopefully get along with you, but there will always be some rubbish people in every situation. If someone does judge you, they are the ones who will look bad. Just remember to keep an open mind, and respect that not everyone will have the same point of view as you.

Some people may also worry about the cost of living, or coping with study.
Don't forget that your uni can offer help with this if you need it, and they really want you to succeed. Ask for help if you need it!

Although I am taking a gap year i am still really nervous about freshers week and making friends. I'm looking at going to University of Wales Trinity St David Lampeter campus either next year or the year after, which is 5 hours away from where i live. I've never had a proper social group or large group of friends and I've only been to 2 parties my whole teenage life at ages 14 and 16 (I know sad right!). My problem is that i don't drink because i just don't like it and I've never been to a club or anywhere :/ I also suffer from really bad migraines when lighting is off and i remember i had to sit out of the school disco because of my headaches - this i fear is going to stop me going to clubs and making friends. I'm a very quiet person and prefer small friend groups and quieter activities but i know freshers is all about partying and clubbing and making friends that way.
I guess what i'm trying to say is i'm scared of going to freshers week because i don't drink, cant really hack clubs because of migraines and scared of not making friends because of this :/ any help??? :'

I'm scared that I won't be mature enough for uni. I think when I go everyone will be really smart and I will struggle to keep up with things. I would really like to take a year out to mature and do some volunteering and see more of my country but my mum doesn't want me to take a gap year. Don't get me wrong, I'm excited to go to uni and study something I'm so interessted in!! but I just know deep down I'm not ready for this yet..

i am going to live at home cuz my uni is 30 min away so it will be cheaper. im scared i will miss out on freshers week though. any advive????

Firstly, freshers week is not the be all and end all. Sure, it can be super fun, but you can still make friends and have a good social experience without necessarily having a wonderful freshers week.

Still, if the university is only 30 minutes away, I imagine you can get there and back using public transport/taxis if you want to go for a night out. Lots of people will be going to events alone- so pick an event you like the sound of, and turn up and make friends.

Definitely go to freshers fair/fayre/faire and look at the societies, again, it's totally usual to go to these things alone, or to split up from people you know at these events, so no-one will think you're weird if you don't have anyone to go with.