It’s been three months since I’ve returned to America since spending a study year abroad in the UK. While in the UK, I dated this guy in my friendship group for 5 months, and it was the most healthy relationship either of us have ever been in. When I left the UK, my plan was to return in January, and it still is, so it would have only been 5 months me being in a different country. Despite this, me and him agreed NOT to do long distance but to remain respectful in our actions.
Anyway, It’s been 3 months, and we’ve spoken every day and maintained what I thought was emotional closeness, with neither of us actually seeing other people. However a few days ago he told me he’s recently met someone that he wants to see where it goes with. He's said that this doesn't change his respect for me and he is still excited for me to rejoin the friendship group in January. This has left me heartbroken, Ive gone no contact and he's said he'll give me as much space as i need but I feel like it's a betrayal even though he technically has been honest and upfront.
What happens now? Is it a case of him trying to live in the present or has he completely lost all feelings? Does this make me second choice or is it the new girl who is second choice since I left? In two months when I get back will he have changed his mind? We're only 20, is it reasonable for him to be thinking for the present or should he have been pining for me?
Any input is appreciated.