My boyfriend watches porn, I don't mind at all, we've even tried watching it together, it's not really my thing so I just leave him to it.
However, recently he's been secretive with his phone and iPad, erasing all search history and emails as soon as they come. I didn't think anything of it until one day I went to go on the iPad and he tore it from me, raced to delete the history and then gave me it.
I asked him what he was doing that he didn't want me to see, and he said it was a surprise for me- 4 weeks later still no "surprise".
I asked him last week out of curiosity when was the last time he had watched porn and he said it was a couple of weeks ago. (I knew he was lying as I'd seen it in the history the days before). I wanted to see how far he would go with his lie, he swore black and blue he hadn't, even swore on my life and his newborn niece's. I was obviously hurt at this. When I confronted him, he just tried to laugh it off, told me it wasn't a big deal. I don't care about the porn, I care about the lies.
He's been on on websites like livejasmin.com which when I googled were chat rooms with girls on cam.
i don't understand why he's talking to other girls, when we have sex at least once a day.
i don't mind him masturbating, or watching porn if I'm not around.
am I overreacting? He says I am. The thing is, he doesnt bother deleting the normal porn sites, so what the hell was he watching that's so bad he won't let me anywhere near it.
i don't know what to do, I love him and don't want to break up with him, but he's tearing us apart with his lies, and making it out to be my fault for overreacting. The thing is he's also incredibly jealous, and gets annoyed if I even mention another boys name.