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James'
There's quite a lot of fat guys in porn, and the girls are far from attractive. If they were attractive, they'd probably be doing modelling, or anything but porn. 
Yeh, I'm sure I wouldn't think a lot of them are stunning. But they obviously have to be hot enough to turn a guy on. And ew! to fat guys in porn!
Millyshyn
Haha nah, who finds massive fake boobs attractive anyway?
tell me about it! I maybe slightly understand someone who is completely pancake flat going up to a B cup. But other than that, fake boobs always always always look worse than before! It's a strange world where sillicon shoved under the skin is hot!
Seriously I could look like Kate Moss and I'd still feel insecure with my boyfriend getting jiggy over other girls. Can't help it. That said this thread has made me feel slightly better.lora491
You clearly didn't understand my thread. Yes I am insecure very insecure because of whats in the thread. Im trying to fix it because, being a girl I dont know about porn, or what men think of the women in it. And after what people have written I see that I don't have to feel insecure about it. Thanks for the help anyway
Don't be offended by someone who gets aroused by porn. Be offended (and dump the moron) if they are using porn daily or using it when you are available. Regular porn users WILL eventually have it as their preference.
If I were to come up with a max ratio it would be 5 x sex with girlfriend: 1 x porn jerk off. If you're using it more than that you have a problem or no real life. But statistics turn me on which is why I came up with that ... mmmm ... I need to go vote in some polls now ...
instaunt
Don't be offended by someone who gets aroused by porn. Be offended (and dump the moron) if they are using porn daily or using it when you are available. Regular porn users WILL eventually have it as their preference.
If I were to come up with a max ratio it would be 5 x sex with girlfriend: 1 x porn jerk off. If you're using it more than that you have a problem or no real life. But statistics turn me on which is why I came up with that ... mmmm ... I need to go vote in some polls now ...
If I were to come up with a max ratio it would be 5 x sex with girlfriend: 1 x porn jerk off. If you're using it more than that you have a problem or no real life. But statistics turn me on which is why I came up with that ... mmmm ... I need to go vote in some polls now ...
thanks. phew i thought i was the only one who got turned on by statistics Yeh well he (says) he doesn't watch it anymore. But if he still does or when he did he said he only did it every other day if he hadn't seen me. So hm to me that seemed a lot. But I guess its not as bad as it could be. But he would never use it when I'm around or for a day or so after we had had sex, I guess because he wasn't frustrated. But yes I can imagine if he had been doing it every day regardless of whether I was there I really would have dumped him. I came close to dumping him over it anyway just because it made me feel so inadequate. Thanks for the advice It is nice to hear a boy's opinion on it.
dont be silly, as a man talking I can safely say that porn is no substitute for any real relationship and really doesnt reflect our emotional sophistication. Besides, you're gorgeous
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My boyfriend watches it. I hate it with a passion!! No matter what I say or do he still watches it. He will lie to me when I am not stupid. I know how to work phones and computers like he don't!! I am going through a miscarriage, went in the shower. Half way I got out and court him watching it! He tried to turn it to be my fault!!! Made me feel horrible and totally worthless! But he says over and over again he won't watch it! Yet he lies over and over
Original post by lora491
Hey, basically I found out my boyfriend watches porn (like most men on the planet) I know this is normal and everything so I don't have a major problem with it. The only problem I have is that I feel like I must be so much uglier than these people in it, and just generally inadquate because real sex and real women isn't what porn is about. Any girls cheer me up on this? Or boys who have girlfriends who watch porn and can tell me that it doesnt make their girlfriends seem uglier? I don't think I'm ugly, and never have. It just makes me feel like my boyfriend doesn't think I'm good enough when he can compare me to all these perfect looking women on the internet?
Do you never watch porn or fantasize about other guys apart from you're boyfriend?
After reading your post and the replies I have a few pointers and my own views. Firstly, I am only fairly young (23) yet I have had long term relationships since a very young age the last resulting in my partner of 5 years cheating on me with a 30 year old who was engaged, thus damaging self esteem, self confidence etc... I am now with a lovely, very attractive boy for about a year now. At first there was a lot of shyness on both parts and self confidence issues even to he point it was about a month before he could even kiss me. By this point I started to think he wasn't interested. But slowly the awkward sex started and I thought this is it, really? He has a reputation for being a bit of a lad and can not name the amount of people he has slept with therefore u can imagine how I thought it was all me. I am fairly adventurous once I relax and like most girls when it is offered will not turn it down. Granted i don't initiate it in the way most men would like, baring in mind most men do not get the subtle hints anyways then just coz they dive on in they reckon it's them who have started it. However after a few months into the relationship I found a pron website on his iPad and I just felt instantly sick. By this point we knew we loved each other, had sex most nights and were more relaxed with each other in most ways. My question is, and I have read this so many times, why does he feel the need to start and touch him self to other women when I am there practically laying it on a plate next to him? Men seriously do not know what this does to a woman's confidence and they can not say that they don't think, why does my girlfriend do that or look like that etc.. It's lies. When I was in my teens I was guilty of looking at it a touch but found it so fake and derogatory. The issue I also have is the double standards. Men seem to have apron lemming putting the shoe on the other foot. If you truly love your partner then only u want to be the person who touches them and makes them feel like the do during sex. So if your girlfriend was there touching herself while staring at a naked man who may or may not be like you this would upset you? Make u think u arnt preforming and the play on your mind during sex? I'm sure it would effect performance. I completely accept if it is to educate yourself and then try it with your partner every once in a while yes but to do it for self gratification when half of men probably leave there partners in satisfied completely after sex then have at audacity to still seek more self pleasure is something I can not understand. Personally 3 times a night most nights would be right enough so i can't be called anything. And men tho complain they do it coz they don't get enough from their partner obviously arnt doing it right in the first place because of its work it most girls most of the time will want to. It's only becomes a chore when the standard is so poor. I take personal offence when I am readily available and will try most thing when I am left intl half satisfied and then find him getting a kick out of staying at another naked girl and having the same physical experience he does with me. That is something we share and do together and not imagine someone else. Men are physical and visual being so why not have the real thing if it is available instead of damaging your girlfriends self confidence and esteem? After all if you loved her and cared about her feelings u just wouldn't do do especially if u could empathise if the shoe was on the other foot
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