girls- do you go the the gynecologist?

i dont want kids and i see sex as something you do to have kids

i added the cheating bit on cause normally when people hear we dont have sex they are like 'well he must be cheating on you innit blud lolz' lol so i thought i would get in there first just in case someone said it

Sex isnt just about having kids, thats why we have contraception. sorry to sound gay but isnt sex meant to be about expressing just how much you love someone by being as physically as close to them as you possibly can? also isnt it meant to be fun for the both of you and keep you relationship on a physical level as well as mental/emotional?
If you dont want kids make sure you are protected and try it you might enjoy it (not to sound patronising).
And i wasnt saying that i think he must be cheating, although dont you ever think about the fact that sex is a natural thing and something which most people want? and eventually you are both goignt to want to and maybe if you are unwilling he might look else where?

I've asked for a smear test on many occasions but they refuse as i am 23, and they will only do it for women over 25.

That's the recomended age - before that there's such low incidence of true abnormalities and a much higher rate of false positives that, across the population, it does more harm than good. But because of a porcine essex non-entity, sixteen year-old girls think they need colposcopy.

I know its unlikely, and i get it can cause false positives, but there's always that worry that you may be the one unlucky person to get it under 25. I always had it drilled into me that once you were sexually active you got yourself checked out. Though obviously attitudes and medical opinions have changed.

i dont worry about him cheating, if he does he does and we split up

im not trying it as i dont want to, i am aware most people want it but some people dont

fair enough, but that first comment makes it sound like you really dont give a **** about your relationship tbf, if i were you i would seriously think about how much it means to you if you are not bothered if he cheats, because thats how it comes across

So if 20/25 is the age you should start going for smear tests if you have become sexually active, at what age should you go for the test if you are still a virgin?
My friend turned 20 (in scotland) recently and went along for a smear, but when she got there the doctor told her that because she was still a virgin she didn't need a smear.
But, if there is still a risk of cervical cancer/other problems without becoming sexually active, shouldn't all women require a smear anyway?
So now i feel quite confused, i had assumed that i could wait untill i became sexually active before i needed to worry about getting a smear test, but if i'm still a virgin should i try to get a smear test as soon as i reach 25 even if the doctor says its not necessary? and if as a virgin i don't need a smear at 25, at what age would i need one regardless of not having become sexually active?

I guess the assumption is that most women will have started having sex by the time they are 20/25, but for those of us who haven't it's not very clear when/if we need to get a smear test.