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Will I fit in at uni?

This is kind of complicated but i'll try and make this as concise as I can...bascially up until about a year ago I was a popular, out-going, extremely social person in a strong 'friendship group', however after a series of traumatic events I developed depression and an eating disorder and became a virtual recluse who never went to lessons and did awfully in my AS's. My so called friends couldn't understand why I wasn't going out with them much and we drifted apart, I moved sixth-forms so I could get away from an atmosphere that held bad memories for me and I knew I'd have to work my arse off to do my A-levels in one year (I need AAB for my course).
Even though I had the opportunity to make friends at my new school, i was still kind of suffering from my illnesses and I had so so much work to do so I pretty much rejected any effort made to develop good friendships (I still have people i talk to and get on with etc) and am still an almost recluse a year on.

It's totally not who I am, I'm crazy and love to party, laugh and spend time with people and thats what I want more than anything at uni. I'm just really worried that after being like this for over a year I will struggle to turn back to my old self when I get to uni...the people I get on best with are sociable and fun and i'm so worried I won't fit into that crowd anymore because of my 'year out' if you like.
What do you think?

Reply 1

Laurawhitters

im sure you will fit in fine. most people at uni will have come by them selfs and not know anybody their either. think of it as a fresh start, you will be fine :smile:

Reply 2

terri55

Its another fresh start. People there will have no idea what you were like at school, everyone is in the same boat. I think you will get on fine :smile:

Reply 3

Ice_Queen

Everyone finds a place at uni!

A lot of people undergo 'personality changes' and whatever (I did!) and you'll find your niche soon enough.

Reply 4

Ilovewords

I think a new start with new things and new people is the best thing you can do!! It will bring back your old confidence and spark :yep:

Just before I started uni I had similar things going on which really knocked my confidence. For me, jumping into the deep end in a new town, on a new course, with a new part time job, not knowing anybody was the best thing I ever did.

You never know how perfect things are going to turn out to be..