Loneliness at Uni

I hate my life, I constantly over analyse and over think everything.. I spend so much time on my own because I'm always anxious about talking to people. I really want to succeed at my degree but my negative thinking and caring what everybody thinks and thinking about how ashamed/embarrassed of my life is just killing me. It's not even like I have friends at home that I miss and see, I have one best friend who I visit but when I do I never want to leave and I always feel as if I have outstayed my welcome. I'm not particularly close to my family either, I don't really know why I'm writing on here but I really don't know what to do....

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Reply 1

Plantagenet Crown

20

You should really try societies if you haven't already. You can meet like-minded people with similar interests and come out of your shell. I know people in a similar position to you who have had success in societies.

Reply 2

thecheshirecad

Original post by Anonymous

I hate my life, I constantly over analyse and over think everything.. I spend so much time on my own because I'm always anxious about talking to people. I really want to succeed at my degree but my negative thinking and caring what everybody thinks and thinking about how ashamed/embarrassed of my life is just killing me. It's not even like I have friends at home that I miss and see, I have one best friend who I visit but when I do I never want to leave and I always feel as if I have outstayed my welcome. I'm not particularly close to my family either, I don't really know why I'm writing on here but I really don't know what to do....

Oh man I was seriously in your boat last year at Uni ... I tend to keep to myself since I find socialising at societies so incredibly taxing.

At the moment I've gotten myself involved with a lot of academic activities, like volunteering to help out with laboratories, I find the academics (professors, assistants) surprisingly approachable and friendly and sometimes I arrange meetings with academics for feedback on my work really helps fill my social contact quota for a day.

Reply 3

RTJP

2

Original post by Anonymous

I hate my life, I constantly over analyse and over think everything.. I spend so much time on my own because I'm always anxious about talking to people. I really want to succeed at my degree but my negative thinking and caring what everybody thinks and thinking about how ashamed/embarrassed of my life is just killing me. It's not even like I have friends at home that I miss and see, I have one best friend who I visit but when I do I never want to leave and I always feel as if I have outstayed my welcome. I'm not particularly close to my family either, I don't really know why I'm writing on here but I really don't know what to do....

As an Englishman living in Northern Ireland I totally understand how it is to be lonely at uni. It isn't an easy place to live and very few people really want to make friends with me. Just remember you don't need to feel down when you're lonely, I do everything alone now but I don't let it get to me. In a few years time I'll be all done and be able to move back to dear old England :smile:

I know it's tough but just remember uni is only a few years of your life so work hard and get the best degree possible because you'll be able to move on very soon!

Reply 4

Get_Buckets

4

I can relate to a lot of what you said, I'm in pretty much the same situation as you. I'm in my first year, had a very boring and uneventful 1st semester in terms of social life and meeting new people. For me it helps knowing that I'm not alone, but I won't stop trying.

Try different societies, those which you wouldn't even think of going, like Cheese society or something :tongue:

I guess I'll have to try something different, cuz nothing is working.

Do you get invited to any social gatherings? The funny thing is that I was actually invited to some things but at that time I couldn't be bothered and I declined most but then ended up regretting it. Don't be me.

Reply 5

Sannn

15

Why does the first post say it's from the 1st of January 1970? o.O

Reply 6

Capn cas

11

Original post by Sannn

Why does the first post say it's from the 1st of January 1970? o.O

He's probably been wanting help for awhile :biggrin:

Reply 7

Hellomynameis1

Original post by Get_Buckets

I can relate to a lot of what you said, I'm in pretty much the same situation as you. I'm in my first year, had a very boring and uneventful 1st semester in terms of social life and meeting new people. For me it helps knowing that I'm not alone, but I won't stop trying.

Try different societies, those which you wouldn't even think of going, like Cheese society or something :tongue:

I guess I'll have to try something different, cuz nothing is working.

Do you get invited to any social gatherings? The funny thing is that I was actually invited to some things but at that time I couldn't be bothered and I declined most but then ended up regretting it. Don't be me.

I don't really get invited anywhere, I have severe self esteem issues and I generally feel socially awkward around new people in general, I never used to be like this but I am now and am desperate for change 😞

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Reply 8

Hellomynameis1

Well I just revealed myself... Ha

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Reply 9

Anonymous #2

please continue to post more so i know how it goes because im worrie i will have the same problem
especially since i have only 1 friend that wont even be going my uni

oops wrong thread

OP, literally in the exact same situation as you. PM me if you'd like to chat and be friends. I'd like to. :smile:

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Reply 12

Anonymous #2

OMG I'm just like that and I need tips
especially the over analysing and caring what people thinkI also don't have friends
but I'm such a good and nice friend
idk how to socialize or what I do wrong

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