Hi! I'm a fresher at Lancaster Uni. This is my sixth week of being here and it's been a bit of a rollercoaster.
I've met some people who I've had a lot of fun with - mostly it never seems to go further than that. It doesn't seem to form an actual friendship. I know that these things take time (unfortunately I'm massively impatient), but it is really tough living on-campus surrounded by people who appear to have it all figured out (even if they don't deep down).
I guess if someone is reading this, and they feel alone at University, I want them to know that they aren't the only one. It helps me to read other posts on uni forums about loneliness, because you have some form of reassurance that it isn't uncommon - a lot of people just don't talk about it.
It's difficult, I feel that certain expectations are set out to students as to what University will be like. Of course, they will mainly mention the good stuff. But the truth is, making friends for life, feeling integrated..that doesn't define everyone's experience. It doesn't have to be the best time of your life. It isn't for everyone and I know it's not ideal, but if anything, maybe it can give you hope of better days ahead. Equally, things can get better at University.
I'm trying to just challenge myself to be patient and to trust that I'll get something out of this experience, be it positive or negative.
Trust the process, these things do take time and what is for you will not pass you by.
If anyone has any tips, advice or even more crucially: their own experiences with loneliness at University, please share it. It helps so much to hear that we aren't alone and it also helps to hear that it's possible to make it out the other side.
Thank you!!