Biggest regret in uni

Don't slack off first term you will fall behind quickly!
Also try to make friends as early as possible the longer you leave it the harder is gets because everyone is already in their little groups.

Wrong. You should be secure enough to be by yourself and not be forced into student politics and clique behaviour. I made good mates and I was not part of any of that cliquey bull****. Makes me cringe.

That's not at all what I meant.

It had nothing to do with me being myself, just once people have already made friends and have secure friendship group they are less inclined to reach out and be as inviting to new people as they would have been in the first week or 2 of uni because they were still trying to make friends then.

It had nothing to do with cliques don't put words in my mouth.

Wrong. You should be secure enough to be by yourself and not be forced into student politics and clique behaviour. I made good mates and I was not part of any of that cliquey bull****. Makes me cringe.

You just contradicted yourself there. Is this not the whole idea of a clique? They close themselves off into their own sub-societies? Would you really want to be friends with people who dismiss new people so quickly just because they are in their comfort zone? It strikes me as being fundamentally lacking in maturity.

That's not at all what I meant.

It had nothing to do with me being myself, just once people have already made friends and have secure friendship group they are less inclined to reach out and be as inviting to new people as they would have been in the first week or 2 of uni because they were still trying to make friends then.

It had nothing to do with cliques don't put words in my mouth.

If that's the case then they need to grow up and stop acting like a bunch of high school "it girls".

So you went through uni with no friends?

I think the point she made was that when you first go to uni, no one knows each other. So if you get in there quickly, you'll make friendships during the stage when they form (first few weeks). Leave it any longer and things become difficult.

For god sakes people keep completely misinterpreting what I am saying.

For god sakes people keep completely misinterpreting what I am saying.

Well perhaps it's the way you said it because what you said sounded childish.

I have absolutely no idea why people are going against what you're saying. It's simply common sense.

I think you're still stuck in high school mate.

They didn't close themselves of completely it just made it more difficult, and I don't blame them or find them immature because they were no longer trying to make friends, they weren't ruling out new friends they just weren't actively looking for more of them.

Humans, they love to argue.

Friendship is a two way thing. If the new person seeking to be friends is doing all the running there would most likely be a uneven distribution of respect in the first place. Not a good way to start, especially for female friendship groups for girls. With a male though, very easy to play the university social system, we don't try and cut each other up socially like the girls do (who lets be honest, are still stuck in girls school mentalities with their female counterparts).

I didn't set myself a limited timeframe unlike others. It is not sensible. I looked around me and saw how people interacted, and I made reasoned decisions on who I wanted to associate with based on which friends would benefit me the most.

Call me shallow or whatever, but I don't believe university kids are the most trustworthy of characters in the first place. So I may as well choose the most beneficial people to befriend.


I did very well in university.